My boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me he said he has no interest... What should I do?

Question

Please don't say "break up"

Answer 1

MrOracle | 11.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Influencer

Since it seems that he's unlikely to change his mind, you either accept this and stop trying to have sex with him, or you break up. You might not like those choices, but they're the choices you've got. Your chances of getting him to change his mind are probably very low, so don't hold out much hope for that option.

Answer 2

BrexitAteMyLobster

Xper 6

If you want a sex life then either he has to be prepared to work on that, and take meaningful steps, or you need to break up. There's no point denying that the latter may be necessary.

Answer 3

SarahsSummer | 10K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

find out why, explain your needs and go from there. A successful relationship can only be if both parties communicate their needs and attempt to provide them for their mates

Answer 4

mynameisRIS

Xper 5

Figure out exactly why he doesn't want to have sex then you can make a decision. There has to be an actual reason other than he's not interested

Answer 5

SpeedVoid

Xper 4

Can I ask if you two have ever had sex, I am assuming you have? I might have an insight...

Asker

11 mo
No we haven't

Answer 6

Asker

No we haven't

Answer 7

Jean-Marie_Céline | 1.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Talk to him and try to see the reason for that.
Maybe he's stressed and/or depressed.

Asker

11 mo
I think he just doesn't like it
Jean-Marie_Céline

11 mo
Then it's a big problem for your compatibility

Answer 8

Asker

I think he just doesn't like it

Answer 9

Jean-Marie_Céline

Then it's a big problem for your compatibility

Answer 10

drsatan

Xper 7

If you can't get it from him, are you allowed to get it from someone else?

Asker

11 mo
Noo way I also don't want to have it with someone else I only want it with my boyfriend
drsatan

11 mo
Ask him why he has no interest in sex with you and what you can do to change that.
If he gives you nothing, then you have to decide between sex and your relationship.
Personally, I think everyone deserves a relationship that fulfilling to them in all the ways they need it to be.
Asker

11 mo
I think he doesn't like it but I want him to give me at least one chance we have been together for a 4 years

Answer 11

Asker

Noo way I also don't want to have it with someone else I only want it with my boyfriend

Answer 12

drsatan

Ask him why he has no interest in sex with you and what you can do to change that.
If he gives you nothing, then you have to decide between sex and your relationship.
Personally, I think everyone deserves a relationship that fulfilling to them in all the ways they need it to be.

Answer 13

Asker

I think he doesn't like it but I want him to give me at least one chance we have been together for a 4 years

Answer 14

BestUserName100

Yoda

Find someone else and risk you guys's relationship falling apart.

Asker

11 mo
Never
BestUserName100

11 mo
Wow.. Lucky guy...

Answer 15

Asker

Never

Answer 16

BestUserName100

Wow.. Lucky guy...

Answer 17

snkmarcel | 493 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Honestly if you need sex in a relationship then talk with him about it. If he still doesn't want to, try discussing if he would allow you to do it with someone else. If he doesn't, then your only option is to live without it or leave him.

Answer 18

oncpl | 3.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Have a detailed discussion with him. He might be having some psychological issue. Tell him openly that sex plays vital role in happy relationship.

Answer 19

winterfox10

Master

Has he explained why? How long has he been turning you down?

Answer 20

chriscdi | 7.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

if sex is important in your relationship then of course

Asker

11 mo
Actually it's not that important but I want my future with him and I don't want us to be like that
chriscdi

11 mo
personally I don't know why someone would have a relationship with someone if they aren't willing to physically show love to their partner but ig try taking it as far as you can

Answer 21

Asker

Actually it's not that important but I want my future with him and I don't want us to be like that

Answer 22

chriscdi

personally I don't know why someone would have a relationship with someone if they aren't willing to physically show love to their partner but ig try taking it as far as you can

Answer 23

Alexandrubaschet08 | 3.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

TEASE HIM in the morning when he have an erection. Ask how and when he want to have sex.

Answer 24

andy530 | 4.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Go to a couples therapist, get a friends with benefits, masturbate, sext, talk to him more, these are my ideas

Answer 25

COMMODOREII | 14.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Why doesn't he have any interest? Was it this way when you first met?

Asker

11 mo
Yes...
COMMODOREII

11 mo
That would have been a red flag for for sure

Answer 26

Asker

Yes...

Answer 27

COMMODOREII

That would have been a red flag for for sure

Answer 28

mrwhite333

Xper 3

Drop his ass, that's not going to correct itself. If you want sex you need a new boyfriend

Answer 29

james14563

Xper 2

Message me I can entertain u :) ... try spicing things up

Asker

11 mo
No..

Answer 30

Romeocuck | 471 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

tell him that you love him but if he can't satisfy you then you'll get satisfaction from someone else... make him a cuckold

Answer 31

Moondrop

Xper 5

Try again tomorrow 🤣

Answer 32

clampfan101 | 4.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Try to find out what would make him interested.

Asker

11 mo
I'm trying every way but I still couldn't find...

Answer 33

Asker

I'm trying every way but I still couldn't find...

Answer 34

JamesBlackDragon | 1.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Accepted there's more to life than sex

Answer 35

Nigjt | 2.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

Ask him why then try to fix it.
God Bless

Answer 36

nailu | 1.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

Just have to have sexwith somebody else

Answer 37

aaravfun

Xper 1

You can take a chance with other and create sex

Answer 38

reptocarl

Master

Break up

Answer 39

ihavebeenhi

Xper 2

Bang his best friend

Answer 40

navyP | 1.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Get a new boyfriend

Answer 41

Taylerjohnson

Xper 1

Try a 3 way

Answer 42

Anonymous

find a guy who does

Asker

11 mo
I love him
Opinion Owner

11 mo
Doesn't matter. Love is fleeting.
Asker

11 mo
It's not when you feel like that person is the one for you
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Opinion Owner

11 mo
There is no "One for you" ... we as humans decide to stop looking when we get comfortable but there are 7.5 billion people on the planet. The idea that there is 1 which is meant to be with you and they happen to live in your area and met you, etc is statistically impossible.

Answer 43

Asker

I love him

Answer 44

Opinion Owner

Doesn't matter. Love is fleeting.

Answer 45

Asker

It's not when you feel like that person is the one for you

Answer 46

Opinion Owner

There is no "One for you" ... we as humans decide to stop looking when we get comfortable but there are 7.5 billion people on the planet. The idea that there is 1 which is meant to be with you and they happen to live in your area and met you, etc is statistically impossible.

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