Does the fear of pregnancy and/or STDs make you less likely to engage in casual sex?

[mistixs]

If you're gay or bi, then answer regarding whether fear of STDs makes you less likely to engage in casual sex with people of your OWN gender (one of the last 3 options).
If you're straight, then answer regarding whether pregnancy and/or fear of STDs makes you less likely to engage in casual sex with people of the opposite gender.

[nightdrot]

Well, as a guy who has gotten three women pregnant out of wedlock, I guess you could say that it was not much of a worry for me. Part of it, I think, is when I grew up and part of it is just natural male instincts overtaking common sense.

To start, my girlfriend and I have lived together for 12 years and have three children together. The idea of getting married - somewhat to our mutual surprise - just turned us off. The first two pregnancies were unplanned, the third was more or less planned. I love my girlfriend and the three little gifts she has given me with all my heart.

As to the other two women. One had a miscarriage and it was actually only some years later that I found out that she had been expecting my baby. The other case was the saddest most heartbreaking experience of my life when my girlfriend aborted my baby without telling me.

After an interval, that finally got me to think more about unwanted pregnancies but even then it was not right away that I slowed down. I am a slow learner in that sense. Just to add, I doubt it, but given my "wild and crazy" days it is not impossible that I might have another child out there. If so, all I can say is that I would want to know and I would love him or her with all my heart.

That is a funny part about me, though. I lost my virginity at age 16 to my 15 year old high school sweetheart. After the initial euphoria wore off, it hit me that I might have gotten her pregnant. There was no real reason for that thought to hit me and she was not.

However, I can even recall at the time - at age 16 - scared as I was, thinking to myself, "If I am going to be a dad I will stick with her and with my baby and be the best daddy I can be." I was only 16 but it is an attitude that I have always had and therefore, the idea of an unwanted pregnancy never hit me all that hard.

STD's never quite entered my mind. Partly, I guess, because when I grew up - at least until HIV - they never seemed to get that much attention. Partly because I always generally thought I knew quality women and that it would not be an issue. (Totally naive I know, but that is where I was. It is incredible what an erect penis does to a man's judgment.)

Only a few times, after a some one night stands, did I get tested for STD's. The last time being different in that I got tested when my girlfriend and I started having sex and I got tested to reassure her and to know that I was not endangering her health.

So put me down for B - "I'm straight. Fear of pregnancy and/or STDs does NOT make me less likely to engage in casual sex." What made me less likely to engage in casual sex was when I finally met the woman who loved me and made me happy - and then she became all I cared about.

[sawno]

If there where no risks at all i would have no limits on casual sex, why limit your sex life if its 100% safe to enjoy it with all your attractive female friends? Especially the girls would not be as naturally conservative with their bodies given they have the larger risk. It would be normal in society to have a lot of casual sex with anyone attractive and try as many people as you like. So the answer is absolutely, not just for me but for society as a whole given the whole concept of not having sex with everyone came out of the risks involved.

[spuitkaas]

I'm not afraid of pregnancy because I take my pill very regularly since I was 16 and never became pregnant. For STDs I'm more concerned. I hate using condoms, but I have to when having casual sex. Ofcourse I don't jump into the bed with anyone. Normally I've talked to the person before and can estimate how careful he is when engaging casual sex.

[oklahammercity]

Careful in how may I ask?

[spuitkaas]

If he has casual sex a lot, if he's aware of STD dangers, if he got tested etc.

[oklahammercity]

So if a man was to get tested on the spot and you knew no boundaries would be crossed would you jump?

[spuitkaas]

I meam if I liked him? I don't just have sex with anybody. I have standards.

[Warmapplecrumble]

I have a major phobia of STDs.
I would not like to get pregnant also.

I cannot engage in casual sex ever , it's disgusting. It's like eating gone off food from a trash can, when you are starving. I just can't do it - I rather die.

Sorry 😕 I'm probably gonna get loads of dislikes. Oh well.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Thanks for MHO 🙈

[Cynicaldreamer]

I wouldn't do so even if said guy was STD free and sterile!

But only because I'm unable to sleep with anyone unless we're dating and I'm emotionally attached to said guy... which won't happen with casual sex, lol.

[potatoiswhoiam]

I'm not into casual sex in general, so those are not the only reasons. I just see sex as something very intimate and special to be shared with a special person.

[purplepoppy]

Birth control is very reliable if used properly so pregnancy isn't an issue. Stds are more of a concern but that depends on how widespread they are in your area. I think there's a lot of scaremongering when it comes to stds, some people seem to think their a guaranteed consequence of sex.

[Moonchild714]

No I practiced Safe Sex especially with Casual Sex.

[MuffinBoi]

No because I have a 0% likelihood of engaging in sex anyway, lol.

Ok for real though, it wouldn't affect the likelihood of having casual sex because artificial contraceptives make it easy to prevent both from happening 99.9% of the time. An example are condoms. They're cheap and reliable, given that you know how to use one properly and even if you can't, understanding the instructions on how to use them aren't rocket science.

[peachyknees]

That's one of the main reasons why I don't engage in casual sex at all.

[Apple1996]

No I only have sex with my husband so would be completely happy with a pregancy and not worried about STDs

[_gigi18]

In my cousins case yeah she doesn't use protection and freaks about pregnancy. Her boyfriend can't deal with that so he refuses to have sex

[Dongtai]

Only if it’s a girl I wouldn’t want to spend the rest of my life with.

I had a friend with benefits and my fear of getting her pregnant was what made me break it off. We used condoms but those aren’t 100% effective. I knew every time I had sexual with her I was potentially ruining a future with a woman I’d actually want to have children with.

I still have sex and know the risks. But I’m selective with who I want to risk getting stuck with 😂😭😭

[cicchis0]

Fear of STDs and pregnancy (which is normal and appropriate) just makes me resolved to use a condom for casual sex.

[CarpetDenim]

No, my disgust with the act of having sex with someone you aren’t in a committed relationship with is what makes me less likely to engage in casual sex. My fear of pregnancy only makes me less likely to engage in unprotected sex.

[R4vedave]

Nope, I'm not that worried at all

[BlondeGoneWild]

No, but it probably should

[Agape93]

I’m not concerned about pregnancy anymore, but STDs are always a concern. I’m careful with whom I spend my time.

[Kayla45]

I refuse to have sex without my partner using protection. I'm not mentally prepared to have a baby.

[Prof_Don]

Very much so! During my time there (2003-2008), UC Santa Barbara had the highest STD rate out of all of the Univ. of California universities. So yes, I engaged in very little sexual activity in college.

So little, in fact, there were rumors about me being gay, cauz I didn’t pounce on some decently obvious opportunities to hookup with girls. I rarely went beyond second base.

STDs scared me and I always found the idea of them to be so gross and unhygienic.

[Zotoshi]

Condoms. Just be safe and there's no real problem.

[rickle]

No my body's a temple

[cth96190]

A pregnancy trap and diseases are one reason, but a greater reason is the risk of a false rape allegation, or being wallet raped in the Family Court after a casual encounter turns into something more.
Relationships provide little protection, in terms of diseases. Surveys show that about half the female population engage in infidelity frequently and that a third of children were sired by someone other than the woman's husband.
Get married?
ROTFL

[Billyscotter]

Women usually don’t want casual sex from me. They usually want something deeper.