Is it wrong to think of your female friends sexually?

[Anonymous]

I have this old friend and we will always be friends but some times when it's been some time between my own personal sexual activity my mind wonders and I start thinking what she is like in the bed.

We have spoken about sex and our personal sex life's before, I've even told her "I would",

But I've started to do this with most of my attractive female friends. Is this wrong? It would also be interesting to get a female perspective on this

[Obtuse]

I mean she's a girl, you're a heterosexual guy, it happens as I see it. For me, it gets especially like that if I go to the beach with my female friends and I see them in their swimsuits.

I never found that urge strong enough to make me fall for them though. Because I can have them for a complete stranger walking on the street. I mean it's interesting that I know them better, but I don't equate friendship + a very primitive sexual attraction as "feelings". To me, "feelings" are a much stronger desire than a mere "hubba bubba" or curiosity.

[Vencam]

I think you're just having a particularly "active" period or just changing/discovering new aspects of your sexual preferences. Either way, it's pretty normal in my view. Just be sure to keep your lust in check as usual (or a bit more) and keep track of changes in your thought processes as you would for any other change you notice in your personality
(To give an example, if you noticed you started being nervous around kids, you may want to see how to deal with it and not let it affect others badly even if you don't understand why it is so)

[Anonymous]

It could mean that subconsciously you probably consider her as a potential partner or she's just *that* hot lol.

I don't think I would mind if one of my guy friends told me they think of me sexually. What wouldn't be okay is if they start acting it out. But hell if he's attractive I might even be down for it.

[Asker]

I would only act on it, if I knew I was allowed to and they had given me confirmation

[BasicBad]

Unpopular opinion: have sex with female friends. It could lead to something great.

[drsatan]

I agree! Unfortunately, most of my female friends have been less eager to take our friendship to the next level 😂

[Asker]

Well I just have to get them to agree to it! Lol

[MuffinBoi]

So basically be Friends With 'Benefits' instead of just friends is what you're saying. Doesn't sound too bad to me

[drsatan]

I'd have sex with all of my female friends if it could be consequence free, if nothing else, then just put of curiosity to know that side of them.

And I don't think it's wrong, you can think about whatever you want. Feeling guilty over sexual thought is for puritans!
Also, I'm pretty sure most of my female friends have thought the same about me every now and then. Some have outright told me they have had periods like that thinking about me.
It's just human nature.

[Vencam]

They say every man is hard wired to have sex with 80% of the females he sees... I never actually looked into it, but it doesn't sound really out of place...

[pajamasam]

Nothing wrong with it just be careful to not let it become an obsession, especially if you know you'd rather just be friends with her.

[lightbulb27]

would you mind asking the flip question in another question as well..

Do women think of their male friends sexually?

I'm really not sure. It happens at times, probably natural. I'm not sure natural is good... I don't know at the moment.

[BuckWild]

Free.

[cetm_]

Hahah every one does it in some point , sexual attraction is part of natural human behavior

[SLIMZJIMZ]

No it's not wrong at all infact how else can you treasure your girl friend if she isn't liking herself and she may secretly be horny for your man hood and want you that way anyhow.

[Kaneki05]

Of course not. Everyone who thinks someone is attractive has thoughts about them in sexual sense.
I ain't a crime for you to be attracted to people.
And be attracted to a friend is a nice thing to tell them, since you just said there pretty and any girl getting told there pretty prolly boosts there confidence or makes them happy ethier way normally makes them feel better.

[ManOnFire]

I have done the same on more than one occasion.

[Prof_Don]

Almost all guys do this to some degree. I wouldn’t fret too much about it unless you decide to act on these impulses.

If u want to pursue dating or hooking up with your female friends.. there is a lot to consider.

[Laozi]

Nope.

[Browneye57]

No, that's how guys are wired. Upon seeing ANY woman, they size up in their mind whether she is do-able or not. It's either HELL YES, or HELL NO. And any further interaction is tempered with that.
The girls don't understand the guys. Pretty much at all.
And if you told her 'I would' and she didn't jump your bones, she is NEVER getting the tingles for you. EVER.

[winterfox10]

Not wrong, but most women probably won't be comfortable with knowing that their male friend was thinking about them that way.

[AshleyMadison00]

Healthy bae don't become obsessed

[delete_my_number]

Morally? Of course! But it happens all the time on both sides so you're safe. If you want it to go away then you'll have to get a girlfriend

[BodyShop]

Normal bro.

[lou3301]

Nope not at all if it makes you feel good and makes you happy forget everyone else and Mike that shit. Just do it!

[Itsmeeeee77]

Nothing wrong. Men and women can't be friends. As simple as that. Women can become friends but at some point men will not be.

[dthomas89]

I guarantee you, there's no such thing as "just friends"

GUARAN FUCKING TEE IT

[gibgabbs]

Well you have to also remember thought encourages potential action. Just remain in control and you're fine

[Gedaria]

Sometimes it it can be difficult not to..