What did my friends dad mean by I made a bad choice and need make better choices?

[Anonymous]

My friend told his dad that I lost my virginity last month I didn’t sleep with the guy, The dude asked me if I wanted to date him I said no, than he still wanted to take my virginity anyway, I don’t regret it. he was someone I knew for a long time. But not planning to get sexually active again. I rather wait. Their Dad said stupid silly girl, that I’m making bad choices and need make better choices..

[cicchis0]

I don't understand what you mean by "I lost my virginity last month I didn't sleep with the guy" - did you sleep with the guy (have sex with him) and lose your virginity or not?
I also don't understand the second part - you apparently slept with a guy but don't want to go out with him in a serious relationship, and discussed this with his father. Why are you talking to the father of a guy you aren't interested in?

[Asker]

I didn’t sleep with the guy I lost the v card I went over to my ex friends house during the day time and he convinced me into having safe sex on his bed. one of my guy friends told their Dad that I had sex.. I didn’t tell there Dad that I did.

[cicchis0]

Maybe something got lost in translation, so to speak. In common parlance, "sleeping with someone" doesn't necessarily involve sleep, it's a euphemism for sex, and you lose your virginity by sleeping with someone. Anyway, it sounds like your guy friend is rather indiscreet and his father is rude. I think you should spend your time with people that are more respectful towards you. Don't let other people try to make you feel ashamed for something that you wanted to do. Even if you did regret it, a real friend would offer you support not try to make you feel bad.

[Asker]

I didn’t regret it and I didn’t have a one night stand with this guy and I dated the son of the step dad isn’t actually mean when I met his step dad he seemed nice... he was like to me And him I know you and him yours both ain’t getting it and told him he shouldn’t even been thinking of sex..

[standingUP]

It means you you need to make better choices. How is that even a question?
Losing your virginity to a person you are not involved with romantically or dating is not smart. I agree with the the jealous dude's dad.

Also "sleep with the guy" means having sex with him. lol

[Asker]

Oh true I didn’t sleep with the guy but I went over to the guys house and lost the v card anyway than he got me to leave afterwards I knew him for 7 years but was a stupid move and a dick move from him I choose not to date him because he only saw me as a buddy both weren’t into each other. He was just interested in my body. only 18 so still learning I wasn’t ready when I dated the son of the dudes dad his step son left after I said I don’t want have sex for a long time his son wouldn’t wait for it. The step son was jealous that I banged the guy instead of him The dad and the son propably thought I gone crazy with sex... but I barley have it or barley need it. Both of them think I’m stupid.. 😂😅

[Anonymous]

You made a stupid move, you both wanted sex which is okay, but wait next time it’s nothing special.

[Emay71]

He thinks that your now going to sleep around with a whole bunch of boys now, that's why.

[Asker]

Oh I’m Not that type of girl... they work that out within time.

[Emay71]

They'll need time, and they'll need to get to know you better for them to understand that.

[Asker]

Yes I only wanted to try it for my first time I’m not going go crazy with it. I’m in the program with my guy friend... his seen me 7 times the dad only seen me once..

[Emay71]

That's fair enough.

[Asker]

My guy friend was jealous...

[Emay71]

Haha yeah, men are like that, they like to feel special wth they experience something for the first time.

[Asker]

True it was a stupid move but I’m only 18 at least I used safe sex.. wouldn’t try casual sex again it’s not special.

[Emay71]

Haha fair enough

[Asker]

Yeah

[OlderAndWiser]

When you fall in love with a guy, you won't be able to give him your virginity.

[Grkgod12]

It isn't any of his business.
You don't regret it, so why not?

[Asker]

I dated the dude but not the father the dude is jealous. He told his step Dad about it. They both think I’m stupid. It wasn’t a smart move for me but I don’t regret losing my virginity to my ex friend, that I knew for 7 years I didn’t sleep with my ex friend I just went over to the house and lost it than he wanted me to leave.. I regret dating the dude.

[Grkgod12]

I understand

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding

[Grkgod12]

Of course! Tell me about yourself?

[Asker]

I’m a 18 in a half year old female that just wants to be single for now I’m not really into anyone, I haven’t found the one. Since I was 9 I was going in online relationships had bad luck with that, got my heart broken last year. I never want to go out with a random online guy again that’s why I regret my past online relationships.

[reptocarl]

I’m lost. Did you fuck him or not?

[Asker]

I fucked a guy I knew randomly...

[reptocarl]

I don’t think that’s very smart either

[Asker]

Me either but haven’t gone crazy and never slept around men I don’t need sex...

[hobbledehoy]

I find this whole thing indecipherable I think the answer is you need to think with your heart and I can't even figure out the truth here

[lookin64]

You let him take something special from you that you should have kept for someone you love not just someone you happen to know

[winterfox10]

They mean that you gave your virginity to someone who wasn't that special to you.

[LeoElias]

He sounds like he has that baby boomer mentality where the girl had to wait for marriage and they are good girls when they do wait. It's that double standard that is enforced where all women should wait. But guys allowed to somehow find women to have sex with even though all women are supposed to be waiting. If the girls don't wait then they are huge whores even if they only been with one guy. It's a super hateful and messed up mentality and it is the reason why feminism is a thing lol

[Asker]

nobody waits into Marriage anymore. his step son that I dated was jealous that I banged my ex friend and not him, the dudes dad step son left after I said I don’t want have sex for long time I didn’t do it with the dudes step dad son because I wasn’t ready. the step son almost knows me and the step Dad doesn’t really know me well but has met me once or twice. I never went back to the dudes dad house But they workout that I’m not the type of girl who sleeps around men... I haven’t gone crazy with sex I don’t need it and I barley do it only tried it once but I never want have casual sex again. The dudes dad step son isn’t wanting a relationship either do I so that’s why I’m not dating the step son. 😂😅 they both think I’m stupid but I’m not that dumb.

[dthomas89]

You gave up your virginity for the wrong reason

I did too

[Asker]

Yes I did for the wrong reason

[Twalli]

You really should have waited for a close boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Probably because it would’ve been better to do that with someone that you’re going to still be with