You’re already coming at this with preconceived notions and rules and weird hangups. ... nobody’s going to “force“ you to swallow that’s ridiculous unless they’re raping you.
You Have way too many do’s and don’ts from the start…
You need to like get over yourself, get on over to pornhub to watch some gay blow job compilations — get some tips — have a bottle of wine and get into the fucking swing of things!
You don’t understand that boys=dicks, dicks=happy, happy=blowjobs.
Blow jobs are not a big deal— it’s more about pleasuring your partner and having your partner enjoy it and boys LOVE LOVE LOVE blow jobs. If you want any semblance of a sexual relationship with the opposite sex you better get on board.
There is no guy alive on the planet that would rather Negotiate and deal with the female drama to stick his dick into some freaking idiot girls Twat, when he just simply have a blowjob. Guys with his blowjob over hectic girls Twat hundred percent of the time guarantee
blowjobs are a must in a relationship... I hate to say it so is swallowing... your only hurting his feelings by not swallowing... it's not really that bad you have to give it a chance and in no time you'll enjoy him cumming in your mouth... if you don't like the taste just deep in your mouth when he's about to cum... the trick is learn when his cock really expands that means he's going to cum... all you have to do is deep while he cums and you won't taste a thing.
Probably with some exceptions.
I want a partner who is sexually enthusiastic and likes variety. I have spoken to some women who are like that but, for instance, have past trauma around oral sex in particular and don’t want that one act. I can skip blowjobs in that case.
most people (I suspect men and women) who don’t like oral, it’s the first in a large list of things they don’t like/want to do. It’s just the most vanilla thing they don’t want. In that case... knowing what I know now I’d see it as a dealbreaker.
When I was your age I would have been fine with handjobs and future sex but I’ve learned more since then.
by the way, I notice in one of your comments something about switching to a hj if tired etc. That’s normal and almost assumed. A “hands free” bj is a thing but if someone says “I got a bj” the assumption would be a mixed hj/bj. I’d suggest NOT waiting to be tired rather switch back and forth constantly so you STAY comfortable. Some guys love ball stimulation some don’t care by the way. Deep throating is not the norm. Yes some women can do it, I’d say most -cannot-. There are lots of options to swallowing.
Thanks for the tip 😇
I’d also say something I’ve said before - enthusiasm is so so important. Doing something you’re comfortable with with enthusiasm is better than doing slightly more begrudgingly - at least on a normal basis. (Doing something we are not into once in a while to meet a partners kink might be okay). Think about “what things would be fun and exciting for both” and focus on those rather than “what can I endure miserably”.
It Shouldn't be a 'must', and if it is then Goodluck to him finding a girl based of blowjob skills lmao
In my country it’s rare to find a girl with that skill lol
Agree! Lol some guys expect too much sometimes. Not all but some do.
That’s why when I wanted to break up with my ex he’s like “no no no please!” I also tell him if he really want a girl who deepthroats, love facials and anal he should get a prostitute or find another girl he still begged me to not leave him. After I gave him a handjob which made him cum a lot he left me because he got what he wanted. I’m happy I didn’t gave away my virginity
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I wouldn't say it's a must. It all depends on both partners preferences. Nothing should be forced and the relationship is at its healthiest when both partners can find the perfect middle ground in everything they do together
@potatoiswhoiam that is well said. i think most girls are willing. are you willing to give a bj in a relationship?
I don't think most girls are willing. I wouldn't say that. I'd say many girls are willing, especially if that person is someone they love on a very high level and see him as a long term or permanent partner. Personally, when I think of someone I truly truly love, yes, I would love to give him a bj. It's not about any relationship. It's about a relationship that is very dear to my heart and would want to make my partner happy in all kinds of ways and I think that's just a part of love, making your partner happy will naturally make you happy and give you satisfaction.
@potatoiswhoiam oh i thought more girls did. wow you are a scholar! can we chat in private?
Sexual compatibility is what's essential!
If neither of you enjoy giving or receiving oral sex, then it's not needed.
If one of you really likes oral sex or anal sex or kinky rough sex and the other doesn't, then it simply won't work out between the two of you.
It's the same as if you were in a relationship with someone who is emotionally closed off and something you really need is a person who is emotionally open.
Neither is wrong or right, but they aren't compatible with each other.
there's plenty of people out there, there's no need to settle for a relationship that doesn't give you the things that are important to you, emotional or sexual.
I personally love giving blowjobs and I honestly love having him cum in my mouth. There is something about it thats very sexy and oh my, the way he looks at me when I do it turns me on immensely. And my boyfriend keeps his downstairs area pretty clean, he even tastes amazing. So no complaints from me.
In a relationship nothing unwanted should be a must.
Exactly
Is cunnilingus a must? Not necessarily, I suppose. But oral is certainly a beautiful gift to give someone.
Swallowing is definitely not a must. It's hot when a woman does, especially if she loves it, but if she doesn't like it, she shouldn't be obliged to. If she give blowjobs, she is a treasure. A blowjob isn't a blowjob unless she keeps the guy between her lips when he cums. But she is allowed to let it run out of her mouth or spit. No prob.
For me it's a requirement. But not like every day. Once in a while is fine. As long as she is willing to try I can appreciate it. Plus I intend to go down on her too. Keep it all nice and fair.
For me the must is giving head, not necessarily giving it
What?
Even though oral sex was depicted in ancient Egyptian & ancient Roman drawings & art work, it has become an almost everyday part of sex nowadays
because of internet porn -- but to me personally it is not real sex and though I sometimes enjoy receiving it as part of foreplay (and I love giving oral to girls I'm being sexual with) it is something that is pleasurable but not particularly special
Now real sex, true sexual lovemaking which includes penis-vagina penetration, that is definitely a much more beautifully pleasurable (and important) part of a relationship 🍆🍊
My girlfriend and I use oral pretty much solely for foreplay
It's not a must-do for some people. But if you're willing to try it what are you going to do when your partner cums?
He will have to let me know when he’s about to cum I will switch to handjobs so I don’t have to swallow it
Okay I understand.
Ya it is. Tit for tat
It ranks high on the "hopeful" list. This may be funny but it is the absolute truth.
I do not get any satisfaction from her swallowing. But I admit that I get a feeling of satisfaction when she spits it in her palm and shows me, proudly, how well she did.
No, it's not. You're there to please each other, not to make someone do something they don't want to.
Nothing is a must... I do it show love.
If i had a Girlfriend , i don't want her to give me oral sex
if it makes her uncomfortable , i want her to be comfortable
with things we do.
The first thing I ask on dates is if they swallow.
Never liked them , so in my view , NOT a must !!
I don't do it. I would rather have anal :)
No, not at all! A relationship built on Sex is destined to fail... and if he /she makes such demands, should have already been, Gone!
It's a must for me.
Blowjobs are a gift. No one should be forcing you to swallow anything. That having been said, if you were to want to try swallowing, there are some things that can improve the taste. Pineapple and strawberries are best. 3 or 4 cups of mint tea a day can also help as can cutting back on meat. There are various drink mixes and capsules that one can buy that claim to make cum taste better. I've never tried them but the idea seems sound.
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