I dont want a loose 30 year old woman for my brother am I being fair?

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So my older brother he is young 28 years old. But we have a serious problem he is stupid for choosing to marry a non virging hoe with 3 kids. My aunts cousins and sister are making her life miserable to make her go away. My brother deserves better he should marry a virgin childish woman but no he wants other guys donations. Its not really the age that bothers me its the fact that thisbhoe she is 30 years old her pussy might be all loose and used up. We wild never accept my brother to financially support bastards that don't belong in our family.

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Sorry I mean childless

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standingUP Xper 6
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It is great that you have concern for your brother. However best advice I can give you is accept and step back. You may pull your brother aside and tell him "you are concerned for his well being and to just beware of your heart, but I wish you all the best and happiness."
After that you would just be driving a wedge between you two and believe me for as much as you care for him you will regret getting more involved.

The great thing about individualism is we get to live our own life. Try THAT !
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- Asker
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  Thank you Sir, For your advice its truebhe has been distance from me.
- standingUP
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  you're welcome and sorry he has pulled away, but that would happen every time.
Twalli Master
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Why don't they belong? Are they evil and devil spawn? I can only assume you are a pure virgin who has never had a boyfriend that has even seen you naked. That's the only way that this can make sense. Either that or you are married and have at least as many kids as this girl.
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- Asker
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  Wrong actully FYI , I am in a two year courtship.
- Twalli
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  Sorry, I didn't realize that you still live in the 1940s.
- Asker
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  Will you stop making fun of me. You are a grown man act like one.
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- Twalli
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  You hold an idea of gender roles that was antiquated before my parents started dating. The started dating in 1977. The idea that men are superior to women is not held by any couple that is modern minded or holds the same marriage views as baby boomers. Since boomers were born in the 50s, I can only assume your antiquated views on marriage originated before then, ergo 1940s.
- Asker
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  Your parents fault for raising you to believe its okay for a woman to behave like a slutt.
- Asker
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  No wonder you have that mindset and it's all thanks to your parents.
- Twalli
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  I don't think women should behave like a slut but doesn't God forgive you for your past transgressions? Should we not all aspire to be as forgiving as God? Judge not, lest you be judged (which is exactly what's happening). Even if she slept around before meeting your brother maybe she found her perfect man and she may be perfect for him too. All the past can do is educate you for the future, so you don't repeat your mistakes.

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ciitruskiwi Guru
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What bothers me is that you're a woman with absolutely no idea about how your own damn body works. The vagina is a muscle it loosens and contracts. Do you really think it stays gaping wide at 10cm after kids?
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- Asker
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  I dont have kids
- ciitruskiwi
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  Yeah and I don't either but I still know how my body works
- Asker
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  Well maybe you are just another hoe who fucks man forna hubby.
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- ciitruskiwi
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  Does calling me a hoe make you feel better about your lack of knowledge over your own body?
AzureGirl Master
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You and your family are acting childish. If your brother is happy and they have a healthy relationship then let them be.
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- Asker
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  How because we want something better for my brother?
- crazy8000
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  @Asker Why is your choice better for him then what he's heart sees as right? Do you want him to be in a love less relationship? Do you want others who your heart choose to love?
- Asker
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  @crazy8000. Dear Sir, my I ask you a question?
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- Asker
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  @crazy8000 and no I do not want him to be in a loveless relationship as a sisterbI want the best for my brother.
- AzureGirl
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  All you and your family is doing with your antics is ultimately driving a wedge in your relationship with him. Don’t be surprised when he no longer wants to associate with you all.
- crazy8000
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  @Asker Sure.
- Asker
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  @crazy8000 Do you have any sisters and If you do what do you want what is best for them?
- Asker
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  @crazy8000 You get my point I love my brother I want the best for him I believe he deserves a virgin girl that doesn't kids from different baby daddies. I want to save him the trouble on the long run.
- crazy8000
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  @Asker Isn't my choice to make. can only choose who I introduce and who I recommend. It's each person's choice since they must get attention and feelings. have to live with that person, have sex... and so on. Humans have a huge tendency to do opposite when family tries to do what your family is doing. make him create deeper connection and even more different ones. What you consider to be right/good can be the opposite for him. Wouldn't recommend really yung virgin female, especially not Christian ones that are highly religious or comes from a family that is. To high likelyhood of messed up relationship that will break. The one your brother have chosen are more likely to be more mature and how a healthy relationship should be. how to treat a partner. knows who she is and what she needs. healthy communication. more mature view of expectations... and so on. What do you know. She might be dynamite in bed and outside with love for him. connects on really deep level that makes him tick. that both are like that for each other.
- crazy8000
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  "Attraction" not "Attention"
- Asker
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  @crazy8000 Okay I can see your point. You are right I will let him continue on. If she is so mature then can you explain to me why no guys is around her and why does she have 3 different baby daddys? What do you think?
- Asker
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  @crazy8000 No worries you I understoond what you were telling me.
- crazy8000
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  It can be multiple reasons. Bad judge of character. Used. Accident. Rape some of the cases. Have/had certain personality traits that those guy's didn't like. Had shitty attitude and grown past it. Dumped when pregnant. To trustworthy (that's a very good trait with some people but get very easily used by others that doesn't have descent standards) . Isn't the brightest logical wise. Loose most common sense logical when feelings kicks in. Impulsive. Doesn't really matter if they are right for each other, what have happened if he is fine with it.
- Asker
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  @crazy8000 Okay I see what you mean , I mean you are right about the whole judge thing. I guess a am being to hard on being judgmental on her. I don't know her past but I do know her kids have different last names that got me worried about what my brother is getting himself into. My brother should be ready to work even more hard to support her kids now I dont mind him helping out with the kids. What I am worried is that thebkids are calling my brother dad already they're getting attached to my brother. I think what happends if things don't work out.
- Asker
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  Between my brother and her again the children are getting so attached to my brother that if anything happends its not fair for kids. It happend once before her previous partner separated and thebkids had to go to theraphy.
- crazy8000
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  Totally understandable. Maybe he doesn't need to do that. financial support bit. some guy's just do it since they think they need to or want to. She might be totally capable of supporting them without him needing to put in any financial. As long he is fine with it and it makes his day there are no problems. Some actually loves to take care of other's. especially loved ones even if it isn't he's/hers children. Did meet someone a couple of weeks ago that would like to be a part of some guy's life there he has children. (if it gets right between) since she couldn't or didn't want to get her own.

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jakerson181 Yoda
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Your family sounds pretty messed up. I'd suggest you find other ways to occupy your time than worrying about how loose and used up the pussy is of the girl your brother is going to marry.
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- Asker
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  He unlike other females that are fake and pretend to be something they are not.
PondyPand Master
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i think your brother deserves a better family.
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lightbulb27 Master
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kinda speechless. That's your opinion, but your brothers opinion is what matters. maybe he's being manipulated by her, but maybe she's what he thinks he wants.
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BeardedViking33 Xper 2
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Clearly an example of societies failure to educate and lack of empathy. If a woman has children alone she must be loose and a ho. If a man has kids but no partner, he's amazing and awesome and must have gone through some kind of tragedy. Now, both of those things could be true, and both could be completely wrong. You can judge her character and personality all you want, but shame on you for judging her sexually. Karma will play itself out here. Side note, in most cases that the family intersects on a child/sibling/parents relationship, the desired outcome usually fails and only drives the relationship together quicker or more permanent. You'd be best off accepting her as your sister and getting to know the kids as apposed to being an asshole.
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- Asker
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  What would tell me about woman that punch they're husband or the femenist. You are a guy why are you defending a female that sleept with any guy?
- BeardedViking33
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  You are suggesting that I cannot be a feminist? Or that I can only defend a woman sleeping with multiple men because I'd somehow benefit from that?
- BeardedViking33
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  A woman who hits her partner is abusive, same as if a male hits his partner. Neither is ok. ( Unless a mutually agreed sexual kink)
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- Asker
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  Woman can be evil. I say the guy should be in control. If the husband wants sex ge getsbsex if he cheats the woman shouldn't be a cry baby run to mommy and daddy and file for divorce. If a husband cheats the woman should keep her mouth shut and stay calm not file for divorce. She choose that man she has to deal with him.
- BeardedViking33
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  My original post stands. You clearly are raised in a male dominant society. If a man can cheat, so can a woman. You need to wake up to your own prejudice before it bites you in the ass. Although by now I'm just assuming you to be a troll and looking to upset people. But if this is truly how you think, you have a hard and sad life ahead of you.
- Asker
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  Oh believe I was raised in a strict conservative family. Trust me a would never waste my time trolling to just upsets strangers I don't know that is wasting my time. The real thruth is a man works hard to pay bills home food clothing. Now a days woman believe they can abousive throwers they're man. My grandfather and grandmother had been married for 58 years you don't see that now a days. Forbmy grandmother it wasn't all rainbows and unicorns for her. It takes love abd appriciate and respect the husband. If a woman can keep her place clean then she shouldn't bother even thinking about getting married.
- BeardedViking33
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  *Facepalm* I'm sure you blame Rape victims for being raped as well.
wankiam Master
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he has to make his own mistakes and you never know it might prove to work out anyway... my suggestion is you worry about you
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Dargil Master
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More information would help get a better answer.
*What culture is this?
*Is the girl formerly married and all three children are from one married father?
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- Asker
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  We are conservative christians. From what we know this girl went to school with my older cousin and she knew her from before and knows her past.
- Dargil
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  Regretfully, I say you are acting in his best interest. Not a good situation for him starting out.
crazy8000 Yoda
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Someone needs a lot of anatomy lessons. even the law of attraction love logic and healthy relationship dynamics or in general what is toxic relationship.
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- Asker
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  Okay I see your comment , Look all I want is to avoid my brother from suffering thats all.
- crazy8000
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  We can't do that much about that. He will grow from it if it doesn't work out. You can be a great sister and support him. even when it wasn't great to help him get up again as a person. (not talking about financial)
- Asker
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  My aunt she is your same age, She told me that I had to break up my relationship with a guy she didn't agree with. It's thruth older folks knows best I broke up with him the next day. Now my aunt saw something about him that she didn't like. I am glad I listen to my aunt because later I came to find out that my ex punch his girlfriend imagine that girl could have been me.
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- crazy8000
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  That's a tricky one. It has a huge tendency to backfire if you already had fallen in love with him. The best thing is to just say you are concerned and why in a proper way when it has to do with that kind of thing's. Try to stay away from that you want them to break up. An other thing is also why he did beat her. some female's (nutcases) tries to trigger their partner to make them treat them bad. some times to say what was it I said (creating counter activity behavior) . in other cases like my mother's sister, because she is fucked up.
- Asker
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  The guy was way to old for me according to my aunt we had a 4 year age gap according to my aunt since Im young guys shouldn't be no more then two year age gap. For anything else what you have said it is so true some females do it on purpose to upset the guy until he looses his temper. It is mostly the girls fault if she doesn't treat the guy well.
- Asker
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  Sir , If you don't main me asking, How your aunt as in your mothers sister fuck up? Like what did she do?
- crazy8000
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  4 years ate nothing. Know couples there it's more then 10 years between. in both directions. Some people just work. others doesn't. For instance. My roommate is 4 years old then me and are mentally stuck in her teens with a lot of thing's. was even worse when we was engaged. she was the kind that tried to appear like a adult.
- Asker
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  Oh wow really wait so your room mate likes to pretend to be someone she is not to impress people?
- Asker
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  How exactly is she stuck in her teens?
- Asker
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  About the couples age gap well thruth like for instance Katherine Zeta Jones husband he is I am not sure but I believe hebis 25 years older then her and Tommy Motola he is I think 20 years oldernthen his wife Thalia. Thruth good point.
- crazy8000
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  Little bit. more like a life strategy how to connect with people. Have grown past most of it. still much yunger mental then she actually are. Have to think little since some of it is just attitude problems. It's like to have to do with a teenager in some situations. it was around 13 in the beginning. Still. some few thing that is in later teens. For instance. doing thing's to try to trigger, opposite thing's like I was her father and she tried to rebellion against. when I did confront her about it and that I'm not her father she tried all from deny it all to gaslight me that it was me. It's like to reason with a teenager. know it all, doesn't listen but should listen to her. should have it now. your annoying. doesn't do anything wromg or enlight others to hide her own stuff. you doesn't understand... It was to much and impulsive in the moment.
- Asker
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  Oh my godness , You seem like a smart guy. How did you put up with her attitude? Well I wouldn't say like a father because that sounds creepy since you are like you have said before 4 years younger then her. I would say more like an older brother makenit less creepy. I mean was she in her period whenever shebgot angry because in case you are wondering some females attend to get angry when they're on period.
- Asker
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  Do you belive your roommate might have anger issues?
- crazy8000
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  That did also happen sometimes when the period did strike. A mix of ADHD with attitude problems. did take after how a full blood narcissists behaves. very common amongst big city female's have I noticed. Lycka for her I have to much patience and overseeing, also fall very hard emotional wise, even can't hate. Unfortunately. have a fixed personality acording to psychology doctors, have empathic abilities, thinker, can read people and make up own psychological techniques in the moment to deal with it. Did get enough after 4 years, used killer switch with the last emotional threadsthat was left when she faked braking up the last time. put her in friendzone. she negotiated benefits but did rarely get it even that she whined almost every day how badly she needed to get banged really hard. shut it down since it wasn't that fun to get subconscious conflicts and it wasn't that great without right connection. she had to find it elsewhere and came to me to get advice about dating and what sites to go to, to get what she was after. finally did she get a boyfriend and it got much easier for everyone, even begin to be a mother to our daughter even if some of her thing's jumps up sometimes.
- crazy8000
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  Yeah. I had to shut some creepy thing's down. father thing's. since it was creepy. play father in bed for instance. coming with being her father because how I treated our daughter.
- Asker
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  Did she had daddy issues or something I mean her behavior is kinda scary. I am not saying I'm perfect but man for a grown woman her age should know better and have more life experience. That's some scary shit.
- crazy8000
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  She shouldn't have since she did grow up in a ok family. still. some take on a lot of funny things no matter circumstances. The funny thing is had she shown any of that in the beginning I wouldn't have stayed. But yeah. back then did dating experts advise to "fake it to you make it" . even on dating sites. Back then did dating sites work in difference to today. Most people answered when you did write and was straight forward. very rare with ghosting. dick pic haven't most people even heard of. Those that did behave like today gotten kicked of sites or didn't get anywhere because it wasn't tolerated since it's bad manner. still is bad manner.
- Asker
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  People are funny at times. I try so hard not to laugh about it. Like your room mate , How did you got the strength to put up with her? Normally some other guy in your place would had kicked her out. About the whole father thing I find it hard to believe like a woman her age lol Who does that lol. Well I guess I can't judge I attend to be old fashion myself. Maybe your room mate needs a pet or have fun watch a movie at home for now. Since we have that dangerous virus I wouldn't say that she should go out to theme parks. Maybe she needs to do fun things like arts and carfs I don't know theirs lots of ways to have fun.
- Asker
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  Or better yet register her self for yoga sessions it helps to relax well At leats it worked out for me. I stop stressing out ever since I did yoga every morning. oh she could play a sport. Do you play any sport?
- crazy8000
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  Contract on the flat is in her name. Couldn't care less if she have sex. as long it's handled in a decent way and doesn't drag home random guys. but that's not happening since she has a boyfriend that has his own place. As long she's off my back it's easier to be friends. she's lazy to the bone and wants others to serve her outside work but can't get that 😂 Mostly not my problem. her boyfriend problem. The amusing part is that she did come to me for advice with dating and how to handle thing's in a relationship. That media hype. Doesn't change life that much. just had to sell some fonds. apart of that no shange.
- crazy8000
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  Do you isolate yourself because of that virus?
- Asker
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  On top off all that she is lazy! Oh my lord I could never live with her one thing I can't stand if a messy house. Cleaning is very important in a house hold its a must. I myself can't standbmessy people but anyway about that horrible virus Not really I had to shop at the grocery store to buy water, toilet paper, food shampoo and bleach. And cleaning supplies is a must to have at home of course. What about you did you went to the grocery store to buy supplies?
- Asker
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  Are you planning to stay home druing this whole corona virus thing that's going on?
Shamalien Guru
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Yeah he’s an idiot, get ur dad to slap some sense into him
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- Asker
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  I agree with you
TienShenhan Xper 6
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Lmao you are missing a chromosome
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- Asker
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  Why only because I don't wantva hoe for my brother.
- TienShenhan
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  There are women with children who have tight pussies, trust me I know this for a fact. I can't speak for this woman that you're making childish assumptions about, but all a woman has to do is take a break from penetration for 6 months and she will be tight again. And why are you worried about your brothers cock feels while he's inside a woman? Sounds like she's making him happier than you can
- crazy8000
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  Most likely not. Have stumbled in to those that actually miss one and even have more. they tends to be very unselfish or keep to themselves.
nailu Explorer
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Find somebody like one of your friends who is a crapton hotter to make a play for him ! ONLY! if she likes him. If they break up you’ll be right back where you started from when he goes back to ho/babymama
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Kingfish3447 Xper 7
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Wow... never heard a woman say these stuff about another woman.
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Fullcount Xper 2
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I don't want to loose woman for him but he's going to get it anyway so more power to you bro
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Anonymous
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What's wrong with you people? if he wants her and banging a loose pussy will make him happy then let him enjoy
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