I dont want a loose 30 year old woman for my brother am I being fair?

Question

So my older brother he is young 28 years old. But we have a serious problem he is stupid for choosing to marry a non virging hoe with 3 kids. My aunts cousins and sister are making her life miserable to make her go away. My brother deserves better he should marry a virgin childish woman but no he wants other guys donations. Its not really the age that bothers me its the fact that thisbhoe she is 30 years old her pussy might be all loose and used up. We wild never accept my brother to financially support bastards that don't belong in our family.

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11 mo

Sorry I mean childless

Answer 1

standingUP | 199 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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It is great that you have concern for your brother. However best advice I can give you is accept and step back. You may pull your brother aside and tell him "you are concerned for his well being and to just beware of your heart, but I wish you all the best and happiness."
After that you would just be driving a wedge between you two and believe me for as much as you care for him you will regret getting more involved.

The great thing about individualism is we get to live our own life. Try THAT !

Asker

11 mo
Thank you Sir, For your advice its truebhe has been distance from me.
standingUP

11 mo
you're welcome and sorry he has pulled away, but that would happen every time.

Answer 2

Asker

Thank you Sir, For your advice its truebhe has been distance from me.

Answer 3

standingUP

you're welcome and sorry he has pulled away, but that would happen every time.

Answer 4

Twalli | 13K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Why don't they belong? Are they evil and devil spawn? I can only assume you are a pure virgin who has never had a boyfriend that has even seen you naked. That's the only way that this can make sense. Either that or you are married and have at least as many kids as this girl.

Asker

11 mo
Wrong actully FYI , I am in a two year courtship.
Twalli

11 mo
Sorry, I didn't realize that you still live in the 1940s.
Asker

11 mo
Will you stop making fun of me. You are a grown man act like one.
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Twalli

11 mo
You hold an idea of gender roles that was antiquated before my parents started dating. The started dating in 1977. The idea that men are superior to women is not held by any couple that is modern minded or holds the same marriage views as baby boomers. Since boomers were born in the 50s, I can only assume your antiquated views on marriage originated before then, ergo 1940s.
Asker

11 mo
Your parents fault for raising you to believe its okay for a woman to behave like a slutt.
Asker

11 mo
No wonder you have that mindset and it's all thanks to your parents.
Twalli

11 mo
I don't think women should behave like a slut but doesn't God forgive you for your past transgressions? Should we not all aspire to be as forgiving as God? Judge not, lest you be judged (which is exactly what's happening). Even if she slept around before meeting your brother maybe she found her perfect man and she may be perfect for him too. All the past can do is educate you for the future, so you don't repeat your mistakes.

Answer 5

Asker

Wrong actully FYI , I am in a two year courtship.

Answer 6

Twalli

Sorry, I didn't realize that you still live in the 1940s.

Answer 7

Asker

Will you stop making fun of me. You are a grown man act like one.

Answer 8

Twalli

You hold an idea of gender roles that was antiquated before my parents started dating. The started dating in 1977. The idea that men are superior to women is not held by any couple that is modern minded or holds the same marriage views as baby boomers. Since boomers were born in the 50s, I can only assume your antiquated views on marriage originated before then, ergo 1940s.

Answer 9

Asker

Your parents fault for raising you to believe its okay for a woman to behave like a slutt.

Answer 10

Asker

No wonder you have that mindset and it's all thanks to your parents.

Answer 11

Twalli

I don't think women should behave like a slut but doesn't God forgive you for your past transgressions? Should we not all aspire to be as forgiving as God? Judge not, lest you be judged (which is exactly what's happening). Even if she slept around before meeting your brother maybe she found her perfect man and she may be perfect for him too. All the past can do is educate you for the future, so you don't repeat your mistakes.

Answer 12

ciitruskiwi | 1.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

What bothers me is that you're a woman with absolutely no idea about how your own damn body works. The vagina is a muscle it loosens and contracts. Do you really think it stays gaping wide at 10cm after kids?

Asker

11 mo
I dont have kids
ciitruskiwi

11 mo
Yeah and I don't either but I still know how my body works
Asker

11 mo
Well maybe you are just another hoe who fucks man forna hubby.
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ciitruskiwi

11 mo
Does calling me a hoe make you feel better about your lack of knowledge over your own body?

Answer 13

Asker

I dont have kids

Answer 14

ciitruskiwi

Yeah and I don't either but I still know how my body works

Answer 15

Asker

Well maybe you are just another hoe who fucks man forna hubby.

Answer 16

ciitruskiwi

Does calling me a hoe make you feel better about your lack of knowledge over your own body?

Answer 17

AzureGirl | 4.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

You and your family are acting childish. If your brother is happy and they have a healthy relationship then let them be.

Asker

11 mo
How because we want something better for my brother?
crazy8000

11 mo
@Asker

Why is your choice better for him then what he's heart sees as right?

Do you want him to be in a love less relationship?

Do you want others who your heart choose to love?
Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000. Dear Sir, my I ask you a question?
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Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000 and no I do not want him to be in a loveless relationship as a sisterbI want the best for my brother.
AzureGirl

11 mo
All you and your family is doing with your antics is ultimately driving a wedge in your relationship with him. Don’t be surprised when he no longer wants to associate with you all.
crazy8000

11 mo
@Asker

Sure.
Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000 Do you have any sisters and If you do what do you want what is best for them?
Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000 You get my point I love my brother I want the best for him I believe he deserves a virgin girl that doesn't kids from different baby daddies. I want to save him the trouble on the long run.
crazy8000

11 mo
@Asker

Isn't my choice to make. can only choose who I introduce and who I recommend.
It's each person's choice since they must get attention and feelings. have to live with that person, have sex... and so on.

Humans have a huge tendency to do opposite when family tries to do what your family is doing. make him create deeper connection and even more different ones.

What you consider to be right/good can be the opposite for him.

Wouldn't recommend really yung virgin female, especially not Christian ones that are highly religious or comes from a family that is.
To high likelyhood of messed up relationship that will break.

The one your brother have chosen are more likely to be more mature and how a healthy relationship should be. how to treat a partner. knows who she is and what she needs. healthy communication. more mature view of expectations... and so on.

What do you know. She might be dynamite in bed and outside with love for him. connects on really deep level that makes him tick. that both are like that for each other.
crazy8000

11 mo
"Attraction" not "Attention"
Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000 Okay I can see your point. You are right I will let him continue on. If she is so mature then can you explain to me why no guys is around her and why does she have 3 different baby daddys? What do you think?
Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000 No worries you I understoond what you were telling me.
crazy8000

11 mo
It can be multiple reasons.
Bad judge of character.
Used.
Accident.
Rape some of the cases.
Have/had certain personality traits that those guy's didn't like.
Had shitty attitude and grown past it.
Dumped when pregnant.
To trustworthy (that's a very good trait with some people but get very easily used by others that doesn't have descent standards) .
Isn't the brightest logical wise.
Loose most common sense logical when feelings kicks in.
Impulsive.

Doesn't really matter if they are right for each other, what have happened if he is fine with it.
Asker

11 mo
@crazy8000 Okay I see what you mean , I mean you are right about the whole judge thing. I guess a am being to hard on being judgmental on her. I don't know her past but I do know her kids have different last names that got me worried about what my brother is getting himself into. My brother should be ready to work even more hard to support her kids now I dont mind him helping out with the kids. What I am worried is that thebkids are calling my brother dad already they're getting attached to my brother. I think what happends if things don't work out.
Asker

11 mo
Between my brother and her again the children are getting so attached to my brother that if anything happends its not fair for kids. It happend once before her previous partner separated and thebkids had to go to theraphy.
crazy8000

11 mo
Totally understandable.
Maybe he doesn't need to do that. financial support bit. some guy's just do it since they think they need to or want to.
She might be totally capable of supporting them without him needing to put in any financial.

As long he is fine with it and it makes his day there are no problems.

Some actually loves to take care of other's. especially loved ones even if it isn't he's/hers children.
Did meet someone a couple of weeks ago that would like to be a part of some guy's life there he has children. (if it gets right between) since she couldn't or didn't want to get her own.

Answer 18

Asker

How because we want something better for my brother?

I dont want a loose 30 year old woman for my brother am I being fair?

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