I had some foreplays with my step-brother, what if he wants to have sex? How much is that wrong?

[Anonymous]

I'm italian, so I want to apologize if my English is not good. It is really embarassing to ask and I know that what happened should be considered wrong, but I'm not so sure about that. We are in quarantine and we are spending the all day closed at home. In some ways it's a good thing because I'm discovering again the relationships with my parents. Usually I'm always outside studying or having fun. I discovered that I wasn't having a deep and serious conversation with my brother from a long time. He's not my brother, but he's the son of my mom's partner; but we both know since we were 4 and 3 and so we consider ourselves brother and sister. He talked to me about all the problems that he's having with girls, the fact that he absolutely don't know how to act with them, all his insucurities and the fact that he's a virgin. He had just kissed a girl once, but it was a quick single kiss and he received oral once but it was a bad experience. So yesterday I saw that he was aroused while watching tv in our room, and started giving him an handjob. I talked to him about that when I started touching him and in the middle. Then I gave him oral and I asked him if he wanted to do that on me. I was really nervous at the beginning. I know that it's not good to do something like that with your own brother, but I thought that having some experience would have helped him to be more comfortable and self-confident with girls. He told me about his fear to not know how to kiss, so he practiced a little bit with me. Today he asked me if we can have even sex so that he won't be a virgin anymore. I don't know if maybe sex could be too much (I know even foreplays are morally questionable if you practice them with your brother), but for sure I think that he would help him a lot to have these kind of experiences with me and be comfortable. So what do you think I should do? What are your thoughts on that?

[Vencam]

I don't want to be the judge of this, but I can say a few words on what I think would be good for him.
Let me see if I got it right: he's a shy dude so he's got a hard time dealing with girls. You want to help him out and decided to "show him" a bit of the adult world by masturbating him and giving him oral. Now he ask to go the extra mile and pop his virginity. Ok up to here? I'll go on assuming it is.
I think that if your objective is boost his confidence with girls, this is not the way. Look at it this way: will he feel more confident after having some experience with the only girl he trusts when he knows that no matter what he does, it's gonna be OK?
I think that's too much of a comfortable situation. It COULD work, but I think it's more likely that he will end up being dependent on you or being scared to act sexually with anyone that isn't you becouse he lacks the confidence.
My opinion (as things are now) is that you should yes educate him on how to be good in bed to make him confident of his skills, but NOT with... "direct examples" . You got plenty of ways, just open up any browser and go look up some porn or something, but do not have sexual relationship with him just to make him understand how it's done.
I'm willing to talk about this at more length if you want. If you prefer we can talk in italien too.

[Anonymous]

I will set aside the issue of out-of-wedlock sex.
He is your un-related step-brother, making him the same as me or any other guy.
But you and he are in the same family together and having an intimate relationship will likely disturb the peace in your home if it becomes known. If you decide have an intimate relationship with him, you MUST agree to keep silent about it. Act very regular around him except when you are alone together.

I will say this. You will have his confidence for sexual intimacy in your power. You can change him in a very positive way if you are softly intimate with him and help him learn about sex. Something to consider is that he may fall in love with you. So just think think this through and be very careful.

[lightbulb27]

I find when cross over boundaries it is not good. I'd stop there.
You did your job to help him. reality is... sex desire doesn't go away, it gets stronger once start, so you've started a volcanic eruption.

[Asker]

I don’t think he actually sees it as sex desire. I asked him if he wanted to lick me. He’s really nervous about not being able and he’s worried to not being able to satisfy a girl. He thought to have a not so good penis when he has good girth and 7 inches lenght. I don’t know why he does feel in this way. He’s not a maniac but he really suffers a lot for being a virgin and have never had a girlfriend.

[lightbulb27]

I don't know that I trust the scenario fully. You'd be better off assigning a girlfriend to him if that's how want to go.. course can't do that with corona going on. This is corrupting to the family, it is also possibly traumatic... I doubt it... but could be... depends how it is interpreted. That said, must be a lot of social pressures for him to feel so bad about himself or maybe something else going on. Like why is he so affraid? That's a psychological issue, you have free mental health in Italy right, I'd go there... not service his sexual desires until he's happy. This is a mental issue.. maybe because of failures with other girls. Part of that is growing emotionally as a man, his self worth, esteem, masculine strength, inner confidence, enabling courage... and this isn't helping any of that. Part of me thinks he is manipulating you and you are empathetic, being deceived. you know him better than I i it is genuine. I think you are out of bounds... and the answer should be no, supportive. And there has been no sexual interaction/abuse before this in your family? including him? That kind of stuff young messes up a persons development, seen it over and over... there can be underlying issues.

[Grkgod12]

Well, he is not your blood brother.
And its very sweet that you to have such a close connection!
Were you surprised at yourself and surprised at him when sexual things first started to happen?

[ayushad]

don't complicate things you would regret afterwards, stop this stupidity asap before it's too late too & things are screwed , please listen to you care for him it's morr than enough but taking this extra unnecessary step would complicate things at level you would not go back to normal after this...

[LiamSawyer]

From what you said there is no blood connection so it's not incest, the only morally wrong thing is that it's fornication.

[exitseven]

I bet this happens more than you think

[GreyWolf9000]

Well... You guys have already crossed the line... Now its totally up you both.. To go further in the black hole... Or step out of it...

[Asker]

Why black hole? He’s not a guy that really wants to have sex for sexual desire. He’s just a guy that really lives badly the fact of being an 18yo virgin that has never had a girlfriend. I don’t think he will ask me for sex again and again and again. He know that what we did and what he asked me it’s not normal and not morally good, but he really feels desperate about everything that is related to approach girls and sexuality

[GreyWolf9000]

Honestly we all know sex is something that we all want or need.. There isn't end to it.. And once it's starts it does go on until something happens like fight or getting separated... It's human nature we also want more and more... Besides you both live together i assume... So it's a lot easier for both of to do more than once... Sometimes he might feel horny or wanna try new things... Or you want it and willing to try different things... So once it starts there is a bad ending to it.

[MannMitAntworten]

Well, at least you two are not blood relatives.

[theCobbler]

Well being half related , any babies would / could be retarded , so watch what you do! I wouldn't get this started , problems, jealousy, hate , misunderstanding, etc can happen , and among other family members!

[DiversityHire]

I like this. 😄

[HeyMikie]

I wish I had a step sister like you when I was growing up. Since you aren't related by blood you aren't breaking any laws. It is up to you how far you take this. I guarantee it would be good for him.

[Asker]

I don't want to take it anywhere. I would just like to make him have some experiences in a way to make him be maybe more self-confident later. Clearly there's nothing romantic for both. I don't think he really lives this as something to satisfy his sexual desire. He's just really scared of not knowing what to do, of not being able to satisfy a girl and all this kind of problems. It's true that nowadays 80%, if not more, of the girls of our aged are experienced and expect the guy to be as well.

[HeyMikie]

You can help him a lot by simply talking to him and letting him ask questions. You don't have to do anything that you aren't comfortable with.

[dthomas89]

Wow

Just, wow

[navyP]

I say do what makes you happy

[nailu]

You’re not biologically related soooo...👍🏽👍🏽

[sersss]

reminds me a porn script)) But it's not worth it... Better help him find a good girl) Maybe you know someone?

[beatcoock]

If you both are okay, You can have sex... Nothing is wrong

[Xtownsen]

You are not blood siblings I see nothing wrong with it

[Romeocuck]

if he isn't your half brother and you both want to then go for it

[mynkMumbai]

Have it

[Snowboardguy3]

Only problem is that you guys live together but it’s not really wrong because you’re not related

[Anonymous]

Let him eat your pussy and fuck him