Should I tell boyfriend that I’ve been faking it everytime?

[Gloves]

First and foremost you are very stupid to do that in the first place.
Relationshits are all about communication and honesty.
And honestly its hard to make most of the average women to cum from the get go. Because women are so different and unique, i never expect to make my partners cum from get go, you need to search and find all the buttons, then you can get there pretty often.

In my opinion - but its just that, dont tell him, cause you will make a big deal out of it and he might be too nervous after, just DONT FAKE IT EVER AGAIN. Start communicating about your wants and needs, experiment, if you know how you cum, how others made you cum - dont be scared to initiate things into your own hands, all of us need to learn the other person, well its easy game for women, cause men are simple in that aspect, but not so for men.

TL-DR never fake orgasm ever again, forever, be honest, communicate what you like and need, initiate, enjoy the learning curve and dont rush/stress yourself, because thats the most fun part - learning.

[Anonymous]

Unless he's the type of guy that doesn't take advice (thinks he knows it all), what you really need to do is talk to him and tell him what you do like, want and need sexually. But don't point the finger when you do it. Example you don't need to say you've been faking it every time (if he asks you, you can be honest though and say you do sometimes), but show him what you like. Take his hand or tell him how you like it. Say things like "I love when you do this..." or "I really like this...". And when he is doing something right, make sure he knows it. Often women don't say anything and how do you expect us to "step up our game", and know what you like/need, when you don't tell us? Especially when women are so different sexually. A lot of women don't even know what they like themselves, yet we're supposed to know? lol We don't have vaginas, we don't know what feels good and what doesn't. Nor how sensitive it is or isn't, or at what times.

[Vampgirl95]

I am currently in a relationship where I cannot experience an orgasm with my partner (mostly due to his lack of experience). I have never faked an orgasm with him for the sake of making him feel good, because that would be deceitful. Also, he would think that whatever disaster that he’s performing actually works. In the end after all that deceit you have to come clean, and his ego will hurt. So it was a pointless charade. And really it’s a lose-lose situation. You are not getting what you want, and your partner won’t know because of your lie. And in the end the lie will be revealed because of your built up frustration.

In the future be very direct with your partner. Don’t think that you are doing either you or your partner a service by faking. He will learn through communication, and even though he might be discouraged at first, he will know the truth and he most likely will try to improve. You can’t forgo your own pleasure for the sake of pleasing your partner.

[505error]

I think he wouldn’t like it if you told him that. He might also be disappointed that you didn’t feel comfortable enough to admit you didn’t orgasm.

[pajamasam]

You can tell him whatever you want but if you tell him you've been faking it's going to make him feel worthless and having a low opinion of himself won't make his sexual performance improve.

He will most likely take it personally if you tell him.

[winterfox10]

Is that a big deal? That's a HUGE deal; he'll be crushed! Finding out that a woman is faking her pleasure with you is one of the worst insults a woman can throw at a guy. Why don't you just try to teach him how to make you cum by "trying new things?" That way you aren't making him question literally everything about the intimacy he thinks he shares with you.

[Purge20]

It is definitely a big deal for men. It might sound strange but they would feel like they aren't man enough. But if he does find out you faked it which would propably happen since the truth always comes out sooner or later he will feel more bad that you had to hide it from him. So i would say try to take the lead and give him a hint you want to experiment more and do it as fast as possible that way you avoid him of finding out you faked it and you would hopefully find a way to have a orgasm.

[normalice]

Yes its a big deal and telling him will only make it worse. Perhaps try taking charge and figuring out how to get yourself off with his cock. Then adapt accordingly.

[GreyWolf9000]

Yes sure tell in a way that he doesn't get hurt... Like you aren't orgasm with the old stuff... Let's try something new... Or best thing guide him... Most men appreciate it.

[reptocarl]

Why would you do such a thing? Telling him how to please you is just too fucking hard and lying is the better option?

[Secret6620]

I would be honest with him. He needs to step up his game. 🤓✌️🌸

[0112358]

Have other guys made you cum? Do you know what the issue is?

[Dargil]

Not trolling. A question.
Can you make yourself cum from fapping?

[nailu]

Try to think of what he CAN do that will make you cum, then say “I want us to try _____”. Don’t tell him he’s been failing you as a lover. He might not care, but he might

[andreasderjuengere]

Just keep telling him the un-truth... and it'll be allright.

[Dchrls78104]

Guy mortification 2.0. vs Continuing to live a lie: you're on the horns of a dilemma. Still, I'd rather know the truth.

[Anonymous]

"Whew, thank god! While we're being honest, I've had better, myself. There are some things you could work on, too"

[andy530]

Yes you deserve to have the best sex life you can have and that means you’ll need to be honest

[navyP]

Is like to say yes but I can only imagine the shit storm that will start if you tell him

[delete_my_number]

Yes because he can't fix a problem he's unaware of

[dc858917]

Sure, if you wanna be single