Wow, ok, I have a daughter that has hit puberty.
I have had the talk with her and made it clear that I have no rules for her in regards to with who and when, but I have told her that this is not a taboo subject for me. My conversation:
"I won't tell you not to, like my parents told me. I did exactly what I wanted when I wanted to. I will however help you in any way shape or form I can to make sure you do not REGRET your decision.
I will take you to get birth control, whether it is the pill, or condoms or even an IUD. No questions asked.
I will take you to get the morning after pill of necessary, but I know you are smart enough that that should not be required. I WILL TELL YOU never trust a boy/man regarding sex. He will say and do anything he can to get in your pants.
That doesn't mean all males, but imagine they will and you won't get fooled.
The largest mistake you could make would be getting pregnant BEFORE you are ready, and I suggest you consider that after you find the right person and are married and ready to support yourself. Dont be dependent on you man for money, it is 2020, be prepared to be on your own with kids.
I love you and this is something I will always support you in. If you have a question I will give you a straight up answer and always be careful, males and some females will try to get sex from you even without permission."
She smiled and said "Thanks"
And then I added, " Cuz your Dad is a freak!" And she just about died laughing at me.
As for you
I do not have an answer for you.
I do have a question, if you say "I should be allowed to..." then are you in charge of your decisions?
It sounds like you aren't if someone else is telling you what you can and can't do, and that tells me you are not ready for sex.
In the end, there is no "agec that's best. Some people wait for marriage, and I respect that.
Some people NEVER LOSE their virginity and I respect that and some people are forced out of theirs, and that of course is wrong.
For everyone else (think I covered all bases) there is no correct age, I think its proper to say "when they won't regret it".
Look, if you and your boyfriend are safe and are making good decisions and after it is said and done and he dumps you and moves on to your best friend and you can sit there and say "well I'm still glad it was him and at this time" then I say you are ready.
However, if he takes your virginity and then dumps. you and starts having sex with your best friend and you regret having lost it with him, then I don't think you are ready.
Tldr: the right time to lose your virginity is when you won't regret losing it, and won't regret having lost it with that guy...
I really don't think that age would be the question here I think it's whenever you're ready to lose it when you start getting that itch and you need it scratched some people's hormones are different than others at different ages I mean we're all human I know what the Bible says but we don't live by the Bible we lit by what we choose to live by so if you want to lose your virginity at the age 26 that your choice and your decision if you don't lose your virginity at the age of 11 once again that's your choice and your decision but if you want to lose your virginity at a very young age like that that's your decision at how old or how young you want to do or to be and if you choose an adult to lose your virginity to at a very young age then I think it's the adults responsibility to not taking advantage of that I mean don't get me wrong I have fantasies which I will keep to myself but if any of them fantasies ever come true and approached me will actually it did it just happened and as an adult and as my duty and responsibilities as an adult I make sure to tell got home safely and untouched and gave a little lecture along the way but not everybody's like that so when someone's ready to lose the v that's their choice in their decision at what age are going to lose it at where when and how
Ok one thing before I answer:
-because you “look mature” doesn’t mean you are mature. You’re only 16 and have much to learn. Everybody has a lot to learn. True maturity comes from within, not the way you look.
I think after 16 is okay for most, I’d say it’s the minimum age. But it’s not really about age, it’s about recognizing the responsibility that comes with having sex. You should take precautions; at minimum a condom, would be better to be on two forms of birth control. If you want to get birth control, try visiting a planned parenthood near you for info! I also think that though you should ALWAYS listen to your mother’s advice, you shouldn’t always take it for truth. Mother doesn’t always know what’s best as she’s only human. If you two are together and both want to do it, that’s your business, not hers.
It’s also about realising you two will be sharing a special moment together, and you’ll have to be extra careful with each other in that moment. Him moreso with you.
That’s the last thing I want to add: be gentle if you do decide to have sex. Make sure you got some lube ready and ease into it, don’t just jam it in there.
No girl is mature at 16 except in maybe her body. Her mind is still not finished growing, and therefore not mature. Why are you in such a hurry to get laid? There are over a million teens that get pregnant every year, and that sure is not from being mature. Even mature adults get pregnant by accident. The safest method would be by both using a condom, the pill, and doing it on her period and he being sterile to be close to 99% safe. But all it takes is that 1% error to cause a pregnancy. The pull out method is not effective because precum can contain sperm and it just takes one little pollywog to spoil the party. It is the girl's responsibility to be safe. Guys don't have the brains to stop having sex as when it comes to sex they have a one track mind. They will say anything to be able to have sex, even lying or telling you sweet things. If he doesn't use a condom then say sorry, no sex then. Don't be one of the 1 million girls each year who didn't say no.
What the hell? This thread is a month old and I'm just now getting notified that I got MHO? Is GAG slow or what?
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You are still considered a minor. Sometimes protection doesn’t work. A man usually has over 39 million sperm. If one of those enters, you don’t even have to break the hymen, it will be hard emotionally and financially the consequences. You also have to decide if you break up later on, would you have wished you saved it for someone else, you have to weigh out the impacts. It’s your body and you are the one who makes the decision of the future.
I think you can have sex whenever you feel you're ready to have a baby
Every 16 year old thinks they are and none are. It’s not just about the sex it’s about what it could potentially cost you. If something goes wrong your life will be changed for ever. Abortion or not you’ll never be the same. I’m telling you from experience. I thought I was ready at 17 I’m 24 with a 4 year old. I wasn’t. Now I’m still trying to go back to college but it’s tougher. DONT DO IT!
When you feel ready and have trust in your boyfriend. Just make sure you use protection... you don't want to end up pregnant yet, right?
Yeah if you're ready
High school is like the normal time to lose it, unless you wait to be married or something
Is there any chance that u can message me I need some advice and I’m too embarrassed to post a question about it
you're mature enough when you can manage the bad outcomes without having to depend once their people to do it for you.
this is a personal decision for you.
to me, as long as you dont get prego or hurt, then it is your own business.
Sex is a maturity issue.. I admit I had a lot of selfesteem issues growing up and being with a guy, esp sexually, made me Feel Loved.
And tbh, don't tell your mom you are having sex... it's not really her business, unless you come home prego and/or get STDs...
Why does your mum know? She doesn’t need too!
You are legally allowed too! But I understand what she’s saying in the sense that there is no rush! Because it’s something you can never experience for the first time again! If it’s with someone you love and feel comfortable with then ok’
If I were you, I would wait until you were older and more ready. I lost mine at a little bit younger than 16. And I will say I regret it. I do wish I would have waited. But what’s done it’s done. You should make sure you are ready and you trust this boy because this is your body you are trusting him with. Your mom will never think you are ready and she’s probably right but it’s your body and life. Just be careful. But I promise you, sex after 19 is wayyyyyy better than at 16. Use protection, don’t get pregnant and make sure he’s not doing somebody else.
Once you have developed a woman's body, anytime is okay. Start exploring the joys of sex. Virginity has no value. But get on birth control before you do!
When I was 16, my first girlfriend was 14 or 15 and she had had one previous boyfriend. She was on the pill when I met her.
You get to decide when you want to lose it. Both me and my fiance are still virgins and waiting for marriage. That is an informed choice we are making and you have every right to do so too.
I was 18 and he was 24. Try to lose it to a guy who is experienced
I was 15 when I lost mine. I dont think there is one single appropriate time. Sex has risks, like stds or pregnancy, but I know you most likely know that. If your aware of the risks and are planning on doing it safely then I'd say your ready. My parents were the same way with me and were pretty mad with me when they found out. It's like driving a car. Driving a car for the first time is fun, and a sign of adulthood, but it's dangerous you have to buckle up and have insurance.
So if your thinking about having sex, make sure you buckle up and have insurance. Have a plan to do it safely.
It's very easy to lose your virginity but the feeling you get after if you're not even remotely satisfied is not worth the excitement. The other commenter is right, emotional maturity is different from physical maturity. Try to understand where your mom is coming from and if after that, you still wanna smash then by all means, go ahead. Just consider not rushing is all.
The right age is the age at which you feel ready. Be very safe and very careful. I do not care how mature you are or are not, you have to keep it in your mind that if you have sex there is a very low (but not non-existent) chance that you can get pregnant regardless of how safe you are! If you feel you will be capable of dealing with that situation on the off chance it happens, then go for it. I’m not saying this to scare you, I’m saying it to be real. Keep the conversation open with your mom and do NOT have sex if you are not protected. Best of luck!
I lost my v card at 16. My advice to you is to wear a condom. And be sure the guy you're with is the person you wanna have sex with the very first time. Cause trust me girl, you will remember him forever lmao. Just be careful, use protection. And I know sex is special and all but I'm sure your mom is seeing the risk of you getting pregnant or used. Cause no matter how much a guy can tell you he loves you , the moment you give it to him it's on him to use it against you. Make sure you are physically and mentally ready for anything that can happen afterwards
I think that age is ok.
What is legal where you live?
i mean if you're ready and he's ready, just go for it
18 really is probably the best time, if you're going early. 'Cause usually guys are just kinda like using you for sex, as someone whose first boyfriend basically did that. Sex was the worst for me. When I had it again at 21, omg that was way better, way more pleasurable for me. Wish I had waited, I regret that first encounter.
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