What makes someone sexy?

[ragequeen]

[Lliam]

As a man, I'll speak about what makes a woman sexy. What women find sexy in men will be totally different.

For me, it's a woman who is shy and demure but also courageous enough to overcome it. She doesn't let her smaller size inhibit her from looking a man in the eye when she is talking to him.

She is comfortable in her own skin, has a confident yet feminine bearing and good posture. She has a cuteness and daintiness about her.

Her reactions are genuine and spontaneous, not affected or feigned. She is bright-eyed, adventurous, inquisitive, fun loving and funny, not coarse, loud, brash, rude or confrontational.

Her grooming is feminine in the way she cares for her skin, hair and nails. She has taste and style in her choice of attire and is not averse to looking sexy (but not cheap or low-class). But neither is she high maintenance or materialistic. She doesn't need Gucci bags, Prada shoes or Tiffany jewelry in order to look outstanding or feel good about herself.

She wants to be treated like a lady. In other words, she allows a guy to think that he is her champion. She'll snuggle like a bird under his wing when he puts his arm around her. She'll slip her hand around his arm when they walk together. She likes to hold hands.

Being looked over with appreciation gives her a thrill because she loves having a female body - smooth skin; round, jiggly backside; feminine legs; protruding bosom; and pussy.

She is 100% heterosexual. Masculinity turns her on. When it comes to sex, she is eager, adventurous and uninhibited. She loves being well fucked by a big, powerful male, but she can also be assertive in pursuing her own gratification and setting her limits. She won't be treated like a cheap porn star. Her entire body is erogenous and responsive. She has a strong libido, is sensual and orgasmic and, because she knows what feels good to her, understands how to artfully please her partner.

[PinkTerran]

This is personal opinion. Fit and confidence. Not like rude kind of confidence many people have, just the kind where the person doesn't doubt themselves. There's a crazy fine line between confident and an a*hole. Pixkecut hair on girls is oof (hot ASF), but like I don't know if people agree on that. Not wearing all greys and blacks, personality in your clothing choice sis always a plus. Don't cake on the makeup, show flaws, it proves you're confident in yourself, (but like a good lipststain and eyeliner OOF.) I'm not a big piercing fan, but earings and maybe a nose ring are always nice. Nice shoulders and back are like a crazy turn on. Watch a hot person get undressed from the back and look up at them shoulders mMMm. I like highlights or dyed hair, but blonde and brunette are good too (I don't like black hair.) BO and/or bad breath are a huuuuge turn off, clean yourself. Nerdy = in my book. Actually being passionate about anything that isn't baby animals or horses is cool, if you love tennis, or reading, that's dope. Now if you spend all day looking at horses or puppies in Instagram and say that's quirky, listen. ITS NOT AND ITS LAME. But if you are like a dog trainer/breeder, or ride horses, you get a pass, that's dope. Introverts and extrovets are cool, I vibe more with introverts tho. Shaving is a must, guys or girls, that's like the only thing I don't bend on, well that and hygiene. Willing to try new things, ik that's hard for some people, but when those people do, oooomg it shows how much they care (ik that's more attractive instead of sexy but it needed to be said.) Okay, I'll shut up now that I've prolly made half the site angry being so opinionated on sexiness XD.

[vjones819]

Their physique has something to do with wether or not they are attractive, but also if a guy is a idiot. He’s automatically ugly to me! Being rude and stupid for no reason is just unflattering, and it flattens any sexiness they may have previously had. In my opinion!

[dthomas89]

hey, @rachelmaddow16 it's a little creepy what you're doing. I can see you going around saying "can you dm me, or can you add me". Why are you doing that?

[Tiffanyrosebarbie]

The way they carry themselves in situations when most wouldn't dare to wear it, say it or try it. If you're going to get all done up and wear a nice sexy outfit you should make sure everyone notices you as you walk confidently by in your killer heels xx

[Tiffanyrosebarbie]

@rachelmaddow16 won't let me chic

[dthomas89]

hey, @rachelmaddow16 it's a little creepy what you're doing. I can see you going around saying "can you dm me, or can you add me". Why are you doing that? by the way, I noticed your username, are you gay? As she is

[AustinMan]

That's a very individual thing though there are some things that are pretty common. For me, it's about how feminine she is because I'm an absolute sucker for the girly touches like nails, great make up, stiletto pumps, and skirts and dresses vs pants. I don't have a problem with women wearing pants but unless they are certain ones, like great fitting tight jeans or yoga pants, it does nothing for me. I'm a terminal bubble butt guy so a high, round booty is my kryptonite.

[Oram52]

Don't find many girls like you describe where I live think Seattle in America or San Francisco. Even though they're my type too. I'm presuming Texas being Conservative state its still easier to find such girls in Austin?

[nella965]

@Oram52 I am very feminine and stylish but I'm not conservative at all. I think it really has to do with an individual type of thing rather than the location Some people have more of an appreciation for aesthetics than others.

[AustinMan]

@nella965 Amen!!! Style those bight red stiletto pumps.

[nella965]

I’m more of a pink, lavender, flowy, pretty rather than sexy type of gal. I only wear heels that I am comfortable in because you can walk more gracefully in shoes that you can actually walk comfortably in. I never wanna give off the impression that I try too hard to wear uncomfortable restrictive clothing to impress anyone. It’s cooler to look like you’re confident without having to go through extremes. I do get a lot of respect and admiration from other women for my feminine style. A lotta guys notice and say hi to me too. Dressing nice makes you feel better too by having something nice to look at

[AustinMan]

@nella965 I 100% agree. I love dark print full skirts with whatever heels she can wear with all the other girly touches. Long, gorgeous nails are extremely sexy in an of themselves.

[Oram52]

@nella965 I agree you can find feminine girls anywhere, but I was talking proportions or it being norm. I didn't necessarily wanted to equate being feminine with being conservative, but in conservative states poison of 3rd wave feminism hasn't taken hold yet, and they still do tend to be more traditional, which means women are more feminine. Location definitely plays a part, Western Europe vs East Europe for example, Liberal states vs Conservative states, comparing America overall to Latin America for example. Like I said where I live majority of women don't put much effort same as Seattle or San Francisco, both Progressive and heavily influenced by feminism. Generally anywhere poison of 3rd wave feminism hasn't taken hold women are more feminine and do in general tend to put more effort in appearance. I didn't necessarily wanted to equate Conservative with femininity just merely used it as a geographical reference.

[nella965]

@Oram52 you’re very much stereotyping and you’re also very mistaken that all feminine women dress femininely. Not all feminine women dress femininely. Not all submissive women dress femininely. Some feminine women may not be stylish or like the feminine style. Feminity is about MINDSET, not by the way you dress. I am very feminine but I am also a feminist. I don’t hate men in any way nor am I interested in female privileges but I believe that there are much more inequalities that women still face in our current society. Just because you are conservative , it doesn’t mean you are more focused on fashion or girly. Being girly can also not be reflected in her clothing or dress, but by her ladylike behavior. And in many poor countries in Latin America or Asia etc, women do not have the money to feed their families , let alone buy heels, makeup , shoes , dresses etc. And frequently these women are NOT ladylike because they tend to do a lot of farming , chores around the house or manual labor jobs. There are also women who are very masculine , assertive, domineering who dress very sexy and wear heels. I’ve seen many of these types. You can never really make assumptions or stereotype entire populations. Stereotypes aren’t true. Just because you are a feminist, it doesn’t mean that you hate men. Just because you are a working woman, it doesn’t mean you’re a feminist. Just because you aren’t a stay home mom, it doesn’t mean you do not love your kids. Just because a man is good at parenting his own kids , it doesn’t mean he is a beta male.

[Oram52]

@nella965 I'm not stereotyping I am stating this as fact. Yes women are less feminine because of feminism, all the crap about male gaze, objectification etc, I just gave two examples of Seattle and San Francisco. Simple search would prove me right about male opinion about women in those cities. Look at the reaction Emily Ratajkowski got many feminists calling her not a true feminist. As a matter of norm wherever feminism is more prevalent women put less effort in appearance and less feminine. Ask any men having traveled around. I'm not conservative and its nothing to do with beta male. Femininity is about mindset and behaviour but in this case we are indeed talking about effort in appearance as well, that was the jist of my comment. Women in Latin America are known be sexy, just search about Brazil or Colombia. What about Miami? Yes you are absolutely correct mannerisms and behaviours also make someone feminine which is also reflective in how they dress. Masculine women in heels would still be less feminine. Think about Romance novels they way characters are described women can intuitively tell which male characters are Masculine. Same way we can also tell which women are feminine. I am not generalizing or stereotyping. It is a fact. Compare Seattle to Nashville or San Francisco to Miami, compare UK to Russia, compare Canada to Brazil. Women literally have become less feminine or dress less feminine or not put effort in appearance because of feminist. That is a direct cause. Its not saying all feminists hate men or feminists can't be feminine, as a norm feminist influenced countries and feminists tend to be less feminine and put less effort in appearance. Again for example Conservative regions of America to Liberal ones. Its direct result of feminism, I wasn't hating on feminism just stating cause and effect. Feminism being main variable women stopped putting effort in appearance and became less feminine.

[nella965]

@Oram52 You’re missing the point. And I do not think you know what Femininity is. Femininity has nothing to do with the way you dress, or how many times you get nails done or the type of shoes that you wear. Femininity is all about MINDSET. Femininity is about being sensitive, empathetic, submissive and wanting the man to lead the relationship. This does not necessarily mean that she will be ok not having a voice in any decisions or enjoy being bossed around by a man like she is a child. As a feminine woman, I like to have a man in control but I also do not like to feel disrespected. I’m also a grown adult and I should have a voice in things or the power to make my own decisions. There are many stereotypes about Femininity that are not true and need to be broken. A masculine man can dominate the relationship without making his lady feel disrespected. Being dominant is not about controlling your wife’s every move. Being submissive doesn’t necessarily mean that I want to be treated like a child. Just because I am a feminine woman, it does not necessarily mean that I want to stay home for life. Though it is true that modern society has taught women to be less feminine because in our modern society, being quiet, feminine and meek actually gets you nowhere. In fact, you will only be seen as a push over and lose out on many opportunities. If you do not go after the handsome guy you want, you will simply miss out on him. If you do not fight for the job you want, you will struggle to remain alive.

[nella965]

@Oram52 Modern clothing is less feminine, but I think its because less feminine clothing are being marketed to women. Our fashion sense has shifted from long flowy dresses to pants. And quite honestly, though heels look great, they are not practical for daily wear and its terrible for feet, especially as you age. I do not believe that women should be required to wear heels all day just to look nice to men. You don't need to wear heels to look feminine. I believe that most women nowadays are still feminine at their core and want men to lead in relationships. Women are still much less likely to pursue men , compared to vice versa. Men are much more likely to pursue and seek out, it’s the way nature designed it to be. Women also still highly prefer taller men while men still prefer shorter women. And women were sexually objectified way too much in our society. Back then during the 2000s, I used to see disturbing pictures of half-naked women everywhere from tv commercials to billboards to newspapers, magazines. But now that its 2020, it has finally lessened to a huge extent. No woman should be portrayed as a sex doll and I really do not need to see naked women on a daily basis. I don’t really know what purpose that serves unless you see women as sex machines. By the way, a masculine, assertive, domineering woman will NOT be feminine even if she dresses sexy or wear the tallest heels. Because Femininity is not about appearance, it is about MINDSET. The girl who dresses the plainest can be the most submissive girl you will ever meet. Some women are simply not into fashion. Most American women are not into fashion regardless if they are feminine or not. Those who have an appreciation for aesthetics / fashion will dress stylish.

[Oram52]

@nella965 "Femininity is about being sensitive, empathetic, submissive and wanting the man to lead" Nope not at all, its like saying a guy who is stay at home dad can not be Masculine. Its like saying if she is assertive she's automatically less feminine. Being submissive is nothing to do with femininity, very dominant women can be very feminine and sexy, look at femdom. Look at how wonder woman was portrayed in movie, wonder woman being strong & independent yet feminine. What you're saying is goes against very ethos of feminism you literally can not be a feminist. Sure its about mindset but that mindset is expressed in behaviour and mannerisms. I keep mentioning it compare Canadian women to say Brazilian. They are different. To illustrate the point I stated look at Romance novels while reading Romance novels you can tell which characters are Masculine. Same way we can tell when girls are feminine. It also reflects culturally. Again comparing women in Conservative states to Liberal ones. Comparing Polish girls to UK. "Because Femininity is not about appearance, it is about MINDSET." That's the point for us men it is. How you dress is also reflective of femininity to us. To give an example the kind of shoes girls wear. One look good, pretty sexy etc, other bland or worse ugly. They are the same price I checked. Yet for some reason girls pick bland ones? All the same feminine fashion is still available, its still targeted at women, you can see instagram. Women simply choose not too. Again to illustrate simply check how women dress in non-feminist influenced societies and feminist influenced societies, and why men would get the perception they are more feminine and look better.

[Oram52]

@nella965 "most women nowadays are still feminine at their core and want men to lead in relationships." Whilst I admit I also feel same in return as in taking the lead and taking charge. It is against feminism, what you're describing again is against very ethos of feminism, chivalry is benevolent sexism. "And women were sexually objectified way too much in our society" There is NO such thing as "objectification" its just feminist pseudo-intellectualism, survival of our species depends on it. Our society has actually become even more open sexually. This is exactly my point looking good is something negative for feminists and they tried to eliminate that. It didn't work look at Instagram or girls night out, girls still want attention. There is nothing wrong with it. Only thing happened like I said was women became less feminine. If you desire men to pursue then you have to motivate men's primal instincts ie look good. What you're trying to do is separating femininity into two parts or saying femininity is only behavioural. Us men are saying for us its also appearance. You can not separate both for us. Women who are feminine will also more likely to express that not only in their behaviour but also appearance. . And whilst again I agree with your point of femininity being mindset. I am also making a point that behaviourally or mindset wise women have also become less feminine in feminist influenced societies. To illustrate the difference I keep mentioning countries like Russia, Brazil - Would you say there is no difference comparing say Australia to Poland, Canada to Brazil? Both mindset femininity as you put it, and appearance wise? Why would men get the perception of women in Poland & Brazil being more feminine both mindset wise and appearance?

[nella965]

@Oram52 Femininity and masculinity is all about mindset. Would you prefer to go out with a woman who dresses sexily but she is hella BOLDER than you, enjoyed dominating you, controls you, or felt like she could make decisions for you? How about her constantly fighting over the drivers seat with you? How about you be in a relationship where you listen and obey her more than she listens to you? I have seen women that are petite in height and dress sexily but have these types of masculine, domineering attitudes. Once you have a domineering attitude, you are NOT feminine, regardless of the way you dress. Compassion, softness, submissiveness are primarily traits that exist in females. Alpha males are primarily attracted to SOFT, submissive women. They do not get along with women that are domineering. On the other hand, beta males would get along with alpha women. Alpha women wear heels too, just in case you haven't noticed. I am a very submissive, kind, compassionate lady but I can also have an aggressive temper when I get angry. But just because I have a temper, it doesn't mean I am not feminine. I believe that the best feeling in the world is when the man leads. If you hate being submissive, then you are an ALPHA at your inner core. Its kinda like saying that you have the best sex of your life with a woman who looks sexy but she's not horny or has any sexual energy at all. You can't have the best sex of your life with someone who doesn't have any sexual energy to her, regardless of how hot she looks.

[nella965]

@Oram52 Believe it or not, I am a proud career woman. I have a side to me that is extremely aggressive, mean, intimidating and competitive. While at home with my man, I am soft, submissive, and kind and nuturing. As a woman, I know what femininity is. You don't. The ultimate determining factor of whether or not a woman is femininity , is SUBMISSIVENESS. If she is not submissive or if she hates it when a man leads, she is not a femininity lady.

[nella965]

@Oram52 What you're basically saying is every lesbian should look and dress like a man. Every gay guy should look and act like a girl. If you are experienced in the real world, you will very well know that this is not true. There are lesbians who look like the average girl, no tomboy crap. There are gay guys with beards that look very handsome and manly. You cannot stereotype the population that way. How you look may not always reflect your inner self.

[Oram52]

@nella965 "not a woman is femininity , is SUBMISSIVENESS." Yes as men we don't know what femininity isn't? Really? Lol Again submissiveness has absolutely NOTHING to do with femininity, obnoxious loud aggressive behaviour is negative on both genders. Relationships require compromise no one has to have final say. For rest you can re-read above I suppose. I prefer strong independent women, it doesn't make them less feminine or sexy. And like I said I do desire to take the lead in courtship as well, it is your feminism that killed it. You literally can not state such views and call yourself a feminist. It goes against very ethos of feminism, and again feminism is what killed chivalry.

[nella965]

@Oram52 Who says feminine women cannot be strong and independent? I am a proud career woman who has been through a terrible past and I only survived because I was so strong. I have worked very hard to get to where I am right now in life. But yet, I am still soft and submissive at my core. I think you're simply clueless when you say that soft and submissive women cannot be strong or independent. You rants are full of stereotypes that just aren't true. And no, you do not know what true femininity is. And if you wanted someone so strong and independent, she wouldn't want your chivalry because she wouldn't need you to pay for dates, or buy her lavish gifts. Because of my softness, and submissiveness, I attract a lot of masculine alpha males. Alpha men are attracted to soft and submissive women. Beta males tend to be attracted to primarily independent, strong, assertive, domineering women. Not all guys are attracted to the same thing. But from my experience, the more masculine you are, the more you're attracted to feminine beings.

[nella965]

@Oram52 "Again submissiveness has absolutely NOTHING to do with femininity, obnoxious loud aggressive behaviour is negative on both genders. Relationships require compromise no one has to have final say. For rest you can re-read above I suppose. " Let me explain why alpha males love feminine women. Because alpha males like to be in control, they like to make their own decisions, and take care of their lady. Domination, assertiveness, and power are all MASCULINE traits. You cannot have both masculine husband and wife fighting to dominate each other. One has to be submissive while the other is domineering. The more domineering a man is, the less likely he is going to get along with another masculine domineering women. Its kinda like a relationship where both spouses love to talk too much and never want to listen. You can't have two people fighting to talk. One has to enjoy listening while the other talks. Similarly, you cannot have two people who want to dominate each other. One has to be dominant while the other is submissive.

[Oram52]

@nella965 First there is no such thing as alpha male, what you're saying has absolutely nothing to do with femininity. You're just saying this what I am, I am pinnacle of femininity and that's how femininity should be defined. Its not the case. I am into BDSM, I like submissive girls. I don't like submissive personalities.

[nella965]

@Oram52 Alpha males love all things submissive and soft. It pretty much means you're not an alpha. Beta males love domineering women.

[Oram52]

@nella965 Again there is NO such thing as Alpha male, do provide us with some evidence. Seduction community came up with it, even they are turning away from it. Just because a girl is NOT submissive doesn't make her domineering, two have no correlation. Confident men have no problem with strong independent women. The Rock (Dwayne Johnson) called his mother strong independent woman.

[nella965]

@Oram52 There are alpha males. There are definitely men that are more manly, bold, courageous, confident, dominant. The type that would go to war or lead the country. Then there are other males that are meek, pushovers, unwilling to stand up for themselves, do not know how to establish dominance. Ever heard of the saying "You're the man!" ? It refers to an alpha male of a group. These are the guys who stand up while the pee into the toilet while the beta ones sit as they pee. You can be strong and independent but yet submissive and feminine. I am the perfect example. But most of all women are secretly submissive at their core. In general, Women are unwilling to lead in relationships.

[nella965]

@Oram52 "Just because a girl is NOT submissive doesn't make her domineering, two have no correlation" In general, men are designed to be more dominant than women, especially alpha males. Beta males are not dominant. In fact, beta males attract women that are not submissive, these women tend to "wear the pants" in the relationship or basically sit in the drivers seat. Because both partners cannot both be dominant. If one is dominant, then the other one has to be soft. And if you do not like women with feminine qualities, it makes you a BETA male.

[nella965]

Opposites attract.

[teen1988]

Not having blond for the colour of their hair that to me will in my own opinion will always make a women stand out more to me and I will find them so much more attractive and sexy plus having a nice figure and also a nice smile will also help too. XX

[sejla]

Humor that is under the radar by a guy most people consider tame. It's the quiet ones you have to watch out for.

[chadpattan]

I think Johnny Gill explains it fairly well.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Y4sdYAyNBxg

[chadpattan]

For those that don't understand the message: Real men understand that sexiness is all about how you carry yourself, to the point that eventually, it won't even matter how much prep you do in the morning, because everything else is so 'perfect'.

[wingattebaby16]

looks for sure, but the Light inside shines through long after the body starts showing wear and tear.

[OlderAndWiser]

Confidence is expressing their sexual desires and freedom from inhibitions in pleasing their partner.

[lilyanony1]

Confidence

[SweetMess]

Confidence and how they conduct themselves. Sexual experience goes a long way too

[DanielAppleton15]

Sexy is:

Confidence
Being yourself
Having a nice smile

[theronaldmcdonald]

Confidence. That’s the ultimate thing.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Start of with intelligence that brings out the confidence that motivates the necessary efforts to get desirable results.

[i1T2daty]

I don't think you need to be concerned as you are quite capable of doing that. Aside from that, some aggression, confidence, making surprisingly overt moves- sitting next to attractive woman in bar and feeling her hand on the inside of my thigh moving higher has always worked for me.

[blazerock44]

tbh..
love make someone appear sexy in an unlustful way

[MrTuxedo]

Most commonly their looks.
Sometimes behaviour too.

[anonbrunette99]

some have great sex appeal and some don’t i think it’s hard to explain.

[peter2020nyc]

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[nella965]

like sexual attraction? I would say its the way they behave and their attitude rather than the way they dress.

[SjE78]

for each person it varies and depends on the individual
for me, personality is what makes someone sexy to me

[TadCurious]

Regarding women I think it's when they're comfortable with and accepting of their own body however it is.

[Finchie40]

Whatever you’re attracted to on someone , could be their eyes, their smile , arms, legs , ass, the way they talk /personality sounds of their voice , the way they dress etc. Basically whatever turns you on just because you might think someone is sexy doesn’t mean your friends will agree , we all have are own preferences on what we like

[Barry88]

Intelligence.