How can I get my shit together (long read)?
When I was 13 I'd talk to older men ( late teens/20's) it carried on for years before I sought help to stop myself spiralling further. There have been close calls but the thing that really tipped me over the edge was when I adopted the "I don't care fuck it" mentality in real life whilst I was trying to detox from the online shit. This lead to me agreeing to be down for some friends with benefits shit. I have some sort of history with the guy known him for 13 years kissed a few times and he does tend to grab my ass a lot. I had expressed my concern about him doing that but he carried on and I stayed so it was my fault for letting it carry on. One time I was in his basement with two guys (my neighbour and a close friend). My neighbour tried to put his head up my skirt but I squeezed my legs together and said no but he managed to get up there anyways. I should've left after he let me go but I didn't. As soon as he didn't listen I felt as if I was in my room talking to the strangers again. It's like I was on auto pilot just numb and not thinking. I know how aggressive he can be (he's punched me pretty hard when I've pissed him off) I don't know why I did stay. Out of fear? He proceeded to kiss me but i pursed my lips and struggled against him. I can still feel his tongue down my throat. After my protests went unheard I just stopped struggling and thought if I don't think don't feel and just act it'll be over soon. Apparently I acted so well both people thought I wanted it. My neighbour blamed me for everything that happened. The day after i just exploded and ran off. My close friend came after me I couldn't find it in me to tell him how I felt. He saw it as teenagers being dumb and for the longest time I thought so too. When I finally told someone they said it was sexual assault. I don't really know if it was or not because I said I didn't care. I'm still on the fence. Lately I've just been depressed and I just want to go back to my old habits.
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