Girls, does your guy habitually anal finger you when giving you oral sex?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. We started having sex, hand stimulation and intercourse for the first few times before we began doing oral on each other. Funny thing is that from the very first time and every time since, he slides a lubricated finger up into my bottom while performing oral on me. He doesn’t finger bang my butt or anything. It’s like a ritual, he lubes his index finger, gently inserts the tip into my anus, starts using his tongue around my clitoris, gently slides his finger all the way into my bottom, and parks it there until he fishes me. After I come as much as I can, he withdraws his finger and cleans me up back there. I won’t do anal sex and he says he doesn’t want to have anal intercourse. I’m ok with a finger up there, it doesn’t hurt and it’s not uncomfortable for me. But it doesn’t do anything for me either. It’s just there, a finger up my butt. It doesn’t intensify orgasms or add any spice for me, not when I think back on my previous partner for comparison. I’ve asked him what he gets out of it, and all he does is shrug and say because he just likes it. He’d rather have his finger up my bottom than in my vagina. So I’ll keep on letting him do what he wants. He’s a good guy and a good lover, and this seems to be his only quirk. But I have to wonder, is this a quirk or fetish I’m unaware of.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • It seems this isn't an issue. He doesn't want anal and you don't want it as well. It doesn't seem to hurt, bother or make you feel uncomfortable with his finger up there, so why not just let it go? I mean, there's no health issue here as well, so just be happy he's happy to go down on you lol my girlfriend group can't find such a man - like looking for a unicorn (mythical and not sure they actually exist!) 😂

  • To answer your question no honey you aren’t the only woman whose man fingers the ass during oral. Mine does it frequently but not every time. In our case he knows I like it and respond to it. For me it makes orgasm more intense. If you ok with it keep on keepin on. He sounds like a sweetheart. My man is great at the act but somewhat of a dick dealing with the aftermath tho.

Most Helpful Guys

  • People tend to do the things they would like someone to do to them. When my wife grabs my hair it's a sign that she wants me to grab hers. If it's distracting to you and not pleasurable, then tell him to stop. If you're having sex or giving him head, and you can reach his ass, try sliding your finger in.

    • Thanks for the input. I in fact asked him if it was a hint that he wanted me to put a finger or toy up him, and he said no not at all. If I scratch his taint or go anywhere close to his anus he clenches his cheeks. It’s puzzling to me, and I think in a way it is to him too.

    • He needs to wiggle it. Even a little bit. And it sounds like you could easily take something longer or wider. Try to be open to experimentation. You are over the tough part -- allowing something in. Now you just have to find your "spot."

  • Lol honesty sounds like he prepping you for a penis up there edventually. Would you maybe try it?

    • No I don’t want his penis up there.

    • @Asker i think he does lol. why won't u let him try? is ur butthole pretty tight?

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  • 3 words. Try 2 fingers

  • He's teasing you probably to see if you'll like it enough to accept a backdoor entry.

    • You know your men...

  • Thats really hot.. i had a girlfriend who i would put a finger in her ass while having sex with her.. we both loved it

  • Sounds like he could be doing better. I mean if it does nothing for you then he could be using those fingers to stimulate your G spot inside your vag.

  • Well, in my case my girlfriend would probably get angry with me if I didn't put a finger in her ass while giving her oral or while doing her doggy style. It just makes her orgasms so much more intense so it has become an expectation.

  • Try doing the same to him when giving him BJ

    • He doesn’t want HIS butt messed with at all. It’s strange.

    • I'd you are ok then let it be.

    • That is not unusual. I will eat a girl's ass all day and twice on Sunday. But I don't ask for it back. That's not why I do it. I mean, it has happened, because a few girls really wanted to try it on me. So -- great. But that is not really my aim. I want to see her orgasm on the tip of my tongue.