Sexting before meeting in person?

I've been chatting with a guy from dating app for like a month. So far it was all good, but yesterday things heated up and we started sexting. I was in the mood but I don't usually do that, because I can't fantasize about someone I haven't met in person. It kind of ruins everything. We only have this idea of each other, but until we meet in person it is not real. I've done this in the past and regretted it after meeting the guy because there was no chemistry in person and I had to reject him. I felt terrible rejecting him after leading him on so hard with sexting. I don't want the same thing to happen now, I want to go back to normal chatting with this guy until this lockdown is over and we can meet. But he now initiates it all the time and wants more dirty talk, despite me telling him all this already. Why is he all of a sudden such a horny animal when he seemed like such a good, calm guy? Is there a way to go back to normal friendly chatting?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • No, relationships don't go backwards very easily. You can insist on no, but where before it would have just been 'not there yet', now it would be a rejection.

    Honestly, I'd suggest going ahead and having fun. Yes, you might meet in a couple months and have no chemistry and that will suck, but you'll have had fun while locked down. Or you'll meet and it will be briefly awkward before exploding like a nuclear bomb. Yeah, in general I think your policy is good, but these aren't 'in general' times.

  • You're not leading him on if he's the one initiating it. Still, it's good of you to want to put the brakes on. It sounds to me like you have a solid code of ethics, and I commend you for that. Just tell him to cool his jets. And if he doesn't, well, then I guess he will lose the opportunity to talk to you.

    • Thanks for the MHO.

Most Helpful Girls

  • This question is old, i found it by looking for new sext ideas. I just want to ask you how are things going.

    I started sexting with this guy I meet on a date app. 8 months later we are in a serious relationship with exclusiveness. Is not common but sometimes crazy things end in nice situations.

    Good luck!

  • You usually don’t do that but you’ve done it before? Hmm okay. Well that makes sense.

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  • Because you have shown him that's what you are into if u want it to stop you will have to address it with him and explain to hun what u have said here

  • Ffs, if you are not into virtual sex don't involve in a relationship that requires it because the truth is, no guy online is gonna put up with that attitude for long unless he really is into you.

  • I'm a true nudist so sexting before meeting is not a yes or no question. It is always Yes!

  • dude!!!
    once you start - you can never go back!

  • It's kind of hot but not without risk

  • Yeah, You can do it
    Not a big deal

  • Try to ask him so slow it down

  • No way!

  • Yes you can. But you have to do it slowly for normal friendly chat unless he will misunderstood you again.. first you share your feelings to him how you feel then tell him your point of view towards him. Make it clear to him. if he won't talk you again like normal friendship dont worry you will find another person to talk to you. if you want a friend then I can also be your friend. I will be there for you.