Is it normal to be in love with someone Who treated you bad?

[jenfever001]

So, last year I dated a boy for almost 2 months and it ended because he didn’t want to wait for me anymore to be ready to lose virginity. The last night I saw him he got angry and threw a condom on the ground just because I had told him I wanted to have sex with him but when we finally went to my room I got anxious and we couldn’t do it. I had told him I wanted to have sex with him only Because I was scared he would leave me. Then he went away screaming at me in the middle of the night and he didn’t even greet me in a nice way. That was the last time I saw him. He blocked me on Instagram and we never heard from each other after that day. A week ago , 9 months after our break up, he started to follow me on Instagram again and he wants to start again. I don’t ever want to see him again or to start a relationship with him, but in my mind I always dream about the memories we have and the moments we lived together. I still dream about him, and in those moments I forget about the bad things he did to me, I only think about the beautiful moments. We could never start again in the reality, but he is in my dreams and he will stay there for a long time. Tough I’m determined not to give him a chance, I feel guilty towards myself to be thinking and secretly craving this person. I feel like I’m a crazy and stupid person.

[archiz]

No it happens to long for your ex especially if you have sentimental memories so don't blame yourself for that, it's human.
The good thing is you are aware that you shouldn't give this person another chance, cause in my opinion you shouldn't. He disrespected you and acted childish. That is not how we behave as an adult mature person 🤣
Also he is not invested in you as a person.
I think you should put yourself out there more and start dating other people. There are really nice people out there who share the same values as you.
And of course keep investing on yourself to develop as a human being. It helps you get distracted from heartache and boosts your self esteem.

[archiz]

Thanks!

[evilpiglet]

Well u still love him but gal you better move on those kind of boy only want your body. And if he treated you bad that means he don't really love you. I know it's hard to take the fact that he's like that but if you keep on chasing over him, u yourself is gonna get hurt. Promise me, he isn't the one for u. There are still plenty of fish in the sea, just believe u are gonna find your half that's perfect for u soon or later. Stand up, be strong, and enjoy your life.

[jenfever001]

I have a new boyfriend right now and he treats me well and respects me. I love my boyfriend, but I also think about this boy.

[Hans222]

It happens in many relationships. What you discribe is probably more him feeling hurt by what you said, and can certainly be repaired.
I would say that of after so many months he comes back to you, there's a good chance to repair your relationship. If the attraction would not be very strong, he would never come back after so many months!

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

At your young age, you're confusing feelings with reality... You need to learn there are good dudes out there that will treat you better and respect you.

You don't need people in your life that disrespect you and humiliate you. Move on to better. Trust me, you will meet better out there.

[OlderAndWiser]

This is a good example of an approach-avoidance conflict. If you are not familiar with that concept, Google it.

[Secret6620]

Yes this is VERY common and normal behavior. No worries. (◠‿◕)🌸💘

[Stoner710]

Nope

[GennySanders]

You don't have self value ur deff not thinking str8 🤦💯

[Iron_Man]

No its not

[Dchrls78104]

If you're stupid or a masochist, it is.

[larry69]

Do not give him another chance. He acted very wrong.

[pizzalovershouse]

Not healthg but not un normal

[sonu789]

Yes normal

[tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ]

It's called daddy issues / stockholm syndrome.