You don't owe this guy this kind of explanation, and it's doubtful it would make anything better. He could have been more understanding, but, as you wrote, it was also a LOT to spring on him when you didn't have a more established relationship, so I can't fault him TOO much.
I understand that you wanted some real closeness - even for a night - but it's really not realistic to expect that from a hookup. You need to be looking for a guy who WANTS to be in a relationship, and who is emotionally open and available, and you need to be in a relationship with him, and you need to be comfortable enough with him to be able to tell him this stuff BEFORE you try to have sex together. He needs to have some idea of what might happen, and what he might need to do (many guys WANT and are WILLING to help, but they often have no idea WHAT to do to help, so TELL HIM that you may need to just cry and be held, etc.).
I'm sorry that these things happened to you - it wasn't your fault and you didn't deserve it - but just like if you'd been in a car accident and had a badly-broken leg, you not only need time to heal, you also need some therapy to help restore normal function. I fully believe you can "walk again", but it will take some work and you're going to have to endure some pain and discomfort along the way. In the end, you'll be stronger and smarter if you can tough out that hard part.2 1 0 0I wouldn't open up to this person. If you told him about the assault and all he wanted to do is bail, he's not the right one. It is true that you looked for love in the wrong place: A hook-up is not a good start for a great relationship (maybe there are exceptions, but I'm sure most good relationships don't start like that). It is very sad to read where that was coming from, and I don't understand and can only imagine how terrible your pain must be to feel the way you describe. You're a great person, and you deserve someone who loves you. If you need a friend to talk with online or vent to, feel free to message me.
1 1 0 0Wow thank you so much, this helped me.
I'm glad it helped
Do you think I should explain though, because I only said that I was raped the morning after, when I was about to leave. So it wasn’t the best time to tell him.. over breakfast when CNN was on..
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0 7Don't unload him that text. Call him and talk to him about it
1 0 0 0No. You have nothing to apologize for. Your only mistake was choosing someone who didn’t want any emotional closeness. You explained your behaviour and their reaction wasn’t encouraging. I’m sorry. Not all men will behave like that.
2 0 0 0Do you think I should explain though, because I only said that I was raped the morning after, when I was about to leave. So it wasn’t the best time to tell him.. over breakfast when CNN was on..
I think you should invest your emotional energy in someone more compassionate.
Yup.
0 0 1 0I would change the problem at the end to fault.
0 0 2 0Go fuck yourself.
0 0 3 0😔😭 sorry for all that happened 😔
Don't worry I am your friend you can tell me your problems 🌹🍫
Now smile please 😊1 0 0 0It so sad that you selected someone to share your pain and love but he didn't accepted and due to which you cried whole night it really hurt deep inside the heart you explanation says how much pain you have inside your heart. I pray that you will find someone better whom you will love like he is your king and you are his queen. Best of luck and If wanna talk you can message me whenever you want. I will be blessed to help you.
2 0 0 0Thanks for your kindness😢 Do you think I should explain though, because I only said that I was raped the morning after, when I was about to leave. So it wasn’t the best time to tell him.. over breakfast when CNN was on..
Nope now don't talk let him contact you
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