Would you get jealous if your friend with benefits is intimate with someone else?

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ThePrimeDirective · Accepted Answer

friends with benefits only works under narrow conditions and does not work for everyone. It has to be someone you like to hang out with but don't have the kind of deep compatibility that would lead to something more.

If you are deeply compatible but there's some surface level barrier like disagreement on having kids then that's the worst because you'll fall for someone that would be a doomed relationship. So in this case, you should really only see them when you're having sex or not see them at all.

Some people just can't do friends with benefits at all because they get attached to anyone they have sex with. These are often the girls that push for commitment with every guy they see even if they are not really that compatible.

So if the friends with benefits fits the narrow parameters above then no, you wouldn't be jealous but often it doesn't fit these parameters.

Catsdaddy · Accepted Answer

Depends how much beneficial you are to him. If you are available to him with not much availability and have relationship type intimacy then yes. But if the benefits have no limitation and y'all are actually friends who spend time with each other and enjoy each other even more in ways that aren't sexual then the guy should have value on that in which its not worth losing over any other hook up. If that's not the case then y'all are just fuck buddy's but use the words friends with benefits to sound nice which just misleads what it is.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

The whole idea behind F W B, beyond the intimacy, is to be just friends and understand that each may have other "Friends" as well, even intimate ones.

I think where the real emotional problem comes in is when your F W B decides they want to commit to someone and tell you goodbye, then I would be crushed.

I know because I have a F W B and I would be if he ever told me goodbye :(

Would you get jealous if your friend with benefits is intimate with someone else?

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

It wouldn't be about jealousy for me. And would depend on what the agreement was. And if condoms used or not. But if there was an agreement that no other sexual partners, and so no condoms used, and then find out they were having other partners, wouldn't be jealous, would be pissed that someone put you at potential risk for STD'S. Another reason that that FWB/hookup culture is just wrong

Love2Jackit · Answer

No cause u know it's a friend with benefits from the get go. Which means they are free 2 do what they want. Just as u are free 2 do as u please.

JinRavage · Answer

If you are in a friends with benefits relationship then you dont really have the right to get jealous. But on the other hand I wouldn't be able to help wondering how I rank in the "benefits" department.

mamasan · Answer

I would, but I'm also not the type who can keep things casual. I get attached to people I sleep with, so I avoid friends with benefits situations. Plus, emotional hurt aside, I am way too concerned about diseases to sleep with someone who is sleeping with other people.

ushagomez · Answer

If you choose friends with benefits relationship then you should not be concerned. You have agreed for you both to be able to engage in multiple relationships.

MrKinktastic · Answer

I usually get little twinges of jealousy here and there but given my girlfriend and I are in an open relationship I’d be acting pretty weird if I got territorial with a friends with benefits

spartan55 · Answer

Eh, isn't friends with benefits supposed to do away with jealousy and cut down on the drama? Riiiiight. 😉

ZackBan · Answer

Well I certainly would be jealous if I was intimate with someone who has a friend with benefits that's for sure.

But if it's the other way around it will depend on how I actually feel. Like if I get jealous then it seems that I have feelings for my friends with benefits but didn't know I had and that's a problem I'll either come clean or step away entirely.

wagsingle · Answer

Does she share the details with me? Let me join in?

dwcl99 · Answer

Yeah, I'd get jealous. I know that technically if you're in a friends with benefits situation, then it's not really a relationship, but I know that I'd be jealous.

Grkgod12 · Answer

Depending on the situation.  Are you feeling that right now?

tony_baloney · Answer

You have absolutely zero right to feel jealous. There's no commitment in a friends with benefits relationship.

MarasMe123 · Answer

At the end of the day. They are still just your friend... just with benefits. So they aren't dating you and should be free to start an actual relationship given the opportunity

shreya_shiry · Answer

I am not into friends with benefits but if I ever have it then I think I won't be jealous if has other partners

bente2 · Answer

I wouldn’t get jealous but I’d be upset about it. Is he having safe sex? It could be a danger to me.

Vick2727 · Answer

No I wouldn’t

Miristheiss · Answer

I have only been monogamous... I could never be intimate with someone who was still seeing other people.

Finchie40 · Answer

Depends on the friends with benefits ‘s relationship, this is stuff that should of been addressed in the beginning , if you both agreed that you didn’t want to be in a no strings relationship then you can’t really be jealous. You can end the FWB’s knowing they slept with someone else but to be jealous about it is pretty much making you the hypocrite, Usually friends with benefits relationships don’t work out cuz eventually 1 partner gets to attached to the other and they aren’t on the same page anymore and causes heart break Why it’s best to communicate with each other and to make sure you are both on the same page when it comes to these type of relationships. I had a few FWB’s and I made it clear that we will have sex but if one of us meets someone else to have sex with then promise to end the FWB’s between each other.

Mickey9999 · Answer

No. Not jealous. That should have been discussed at the beginning of the arrangement truthfully. I’d be more concerned about STDs. Any sexual relationship be it a one night stand or a marriage, it has to be honest and forthright... ones health is too costly.

mmat2020 · Answer

If you're jealous then something is wrong with the way the relationship works friends with benefits situation needs to be clear that's all, you can agree to any kind of relationship you want