Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

[Anonymous]

We live together. On 16 February he gave me his phone and we were joking, he said I could check his messages. We are from different countries so he has many friends who speak different language from me, so I couldn’t understand most of his messages but he has a translator installed on the app.

I check it and I came across his coworker, my boyfriend sent him funny sexy gifs and joked with her, the sexy gif means there was a guy with tiny dick masturbating and also the animation with sex scene. They didn’t sext or anything. My boyfriend was telling her to not give up on her goals and blah blah blah and they were joking.
This girl said she’s going to come back in April. So my boyfriend messages why not meet in restaurant and drink some beers? I was furious because this is the same restaurant we went on our second date.

I asked him and he said the gifs are not serious and they are just for joking and making fun and I do not understand his language, what he meant is that team must meat in April, not only two of them. He was always very loving and caring and he is very jealous person himself. We had a huge argument and I believed him but I still cannot forget about it. I feel crazy jealous from time to time. He says he doesn’t message her anymore but how do I know?

[potatoiswhoiam]

I don't think he's cheating. Most men who cheat would not ever under any circumstances allow you to see their messages with other people. If he was ok with you seeing those messages then he probably had nothing to hide

[Asker]

I want to believe it. We are first for each other but why would he send sexy gifs to this girl? Did you read everything?

[ydhvr]

Cheaters actually do that, they show screenshots or app to make you to believe it. It happened with me. You don't know that you were able to read entire chat or not. by the way, Pot, are you still angry?

[potatoiswhoiam]

Asker, yes, I read everything and the gifs are annoying indeed, even as a joke, since she's not some male bestie or whatever. I think tho, only time can tell, and one thing you can do is tell him you're not comfortable with the gifs they're sending each other. Which is perfectly fine to want your boyfriend to be more considerate. But other than that, esp if their convo is normal, you can't really accuse him of anything, and it's actually wrong to do that. Cuz all you really have is assumptions.

[ydhvr]

like you know everything.

[ydhvr]

So-wise girl can we talk please?

[mandowood]

They are memes, maybe they both have that sense of humor. Honestly I don't hear enough evidence to support the claim he is cheating.

[Asker]

Yes I agree he has that kind of sense of humour but I don’t like it. He didn’t send it to me, when I asked why, he said because I don’l like these kind of things. I just don’t understand why would he send these gifs to a girl. I have very bad temper and serious trust issues, I trusted someone and he does it. I don’t really understand why.

[mandowood]

My wife doesn't have that sense of humor, would roll her eyes or get annoyed if I sent them to her. I have a female coworker/friend who has the same sense of humor I do. We send them to each other because we both would appreciate the humor, but there is absolutely no sexual attraction between us. Think of it the same way as if your boyfriend loved a tv series you didn't like, and had a friend who did, they would probably talk about it or discuss it. Same theory

[Asker]

Thank you. I talked with him and said that I just felt hurt he shares these kinds of gifs to other girl. And I told him he would feel the same way, If I messaged these gifs to a guy. If I didn’t say it I would think about all the time and couldn’t forget. Now I feel better after explaining this. He doesn’t agree with me but we love each other after all.

[1828avaava1828]

He needs higher character

[Asker]

What do you need?

[Asker]

Oops sorry I meant what do you mean? Haha

[1828avaava1828]

I must think that’s not a noble conversation type for a committed person to have with another

[Asker]

I agree... I love him a lot but I think same as you.

[1828avaava1828]

🤗 🤗

[Asker]

How can I let him know about it? He still says he likes this kind of joking

[1828avaava1828]

Hmm 🤔 let me think

[ayushh]

hello