Is sex better than masturbating for you?

Question

As a woman who has not been having sex until recently I don't really feel like it's all that it's made up to be.
It feels nice but I feel much better when doing it by myself because I can control it better and I can cum whenever I want. As with sex I don't feel like I can cum at all until now. Porn seems to be showing an extremely false and overblown reality of how good it feels for the woman. I have no problems at all having vaginal orgasms by myself but with sex it doesn't feel like I can come anywhere near this point. So I believe that much more women can actually have these orgasms but it just seems like that sex doesn't allow for the right spots to be activated.
I am guessing men don't feel this way since they can cum basically everytime without much problem.

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

Logically, sex is definitely better, generally speaking. Otherwise mankind may stand at the blink of extinction.

A reason I think you feel masturbation is better is because you have not convey to your guy how he can get you off accordingly to the way you like it.

I think if you can "train" him to do it until you could orgasms during foreplay, your enjoyment for sex will greatly increase.

This is because of the intimacy present, not just physically, but also emotionally and mentally. The warmth of your bodies, the connections of your minds and hearts, these contribute to a special rush of chemicals beyond solo acts.

My opinion is: sex is better. And I suggest you reach out to better communication with your guy. You will like sex more, even a lot more, when you really connect.

AndyOh · Accepted Answer

I think a lot has to do with your partner too (guessing), no disrespect to him. But a lot of guys tend to become self absorbed when it comes to having sex. A lot of guys just want to get in and get off, without much concern for their lady. Maybe your man needs to learn to be a better lover... just sayin'.
However, if you have been masturbating all these years till finally throwing in the towel and 'doing it', you probably are pretty good at how you like it, how it feels, the 'control' you speak of, etc. Hard to let someone else have the control and you are supposed to enjoy whatever happens. That is where finding a good lover comes in.
Just my two cents.. there is hope. :)

MissKittyz · Accepted Answer

It all depends on your partner really. I've had bad and good experiences with men as well. My bad experiences made me hate sex and made me prefer masturbation. While with my fiancé, which is the best experience I've ever had, I do enjoy sex waaayy better than masturbating because he actually tries his best to pleasure me and try to make me cum. And not just with penetration. Sex isn't only intercourse. Foreplay plays a huge part in it too and helps build up your Arousal to the point that penetration just feels so much better.

Communication is the key too. Telling your partner how you love to be touched, telling him the angles/positions that feel better to you and also touching yourself while being penetrated can help as well.

janette802 · Accepted Answer

It depends highly on the men. I know some girls how had bad sex because the men was not respond to her preferences. If you have sex with a men who really know what you like it is way more fun. But i also know girls, who are as you and like masturbation more

Dr3amPho3nix · Answer

The people probably didn't know what they were doing, experience is where good sex comes from

integrale77 · Answer

I'd say there bothe as much fun but they are both different experiences.

But as you have experience it's hard for most women to orgasm from penetration alone so don't be afraid to assist with your fingers this might enhance the experience for you!

sbnalenon · Answer

Sex is a different pleasure, while masturbating has its own goodness.

Mia-Wallace · Answer

Absolutely.

siferius90 · Answer

They are different. I enjoy both very much

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

yes, sex is bether then masturbating, in sex you will cum only when you are very excited, much more then when you masturbate and cuming from sex it will be more sensitive and intens then cuming from masturbating

Ihatesociety2000 · Answer

I don't know. I've only experienced masturbation.

Tony_Askalot · Answer

Men and women are different. I think that you appreciate masturbation more because you know exactly what you want and need but any guy you're with will never know exactly what you want unless you tell them. Once they figure it out, after much practice, im sure you'll appreciate cumming without spending any energy

HeyMikie · Answer

You are absolutely right about porn. It is designed to be visually stimulating and has very little to do with real sex. Sex has a lot to do with chemistry, communication and learning about what each other wants. It isn't automatic. It has to be learned. Masturbation on the other hand is easy because you already know what you like and can react instantly to changes in how you feel. Sex, when everything is working right is awesome. But masturbation is more consistent and is nearly always available when you are in the mood.