Is my boyfriend gay?

Question

My boyfriend is from conservative culture, he is lovely but he doesn’t have any signs to tell he is guy. Once he told me he’s been touched by his gay business partner when he was an intern and when my bf’s boss learned about it, he did nothing, still kept sending my boyfriend to the meeting with that gay businessman.
One more story my boyfriend told me is that this gay man cried in front of him, saying he doesn’t want to be gay and he was drunk as hell. My boyfriend accompanied him to home. He mentioned these stories once when he saw my house, he said there was a gay men who used to live around me and it reminds him not so good memories.
Now, we live together and we are in a relationship for a year. Usually have sex 10 times a month. He lost his virginity to me at the age of 23. Once during doggy style he shouted “good boy”. I don’t know what he meant. He likes sucking my tits and he loves my big butt. So I am suspicious but today I had a dream I pimped my boyfriend to an old gay man, and my boyfriend was not cery happy with this, he said he didn’t like being with this man. I don’t know why I saw this dream and is he gay or not. We talk a lot, we communicate a lot but still, this is not the question you will ask straight.

foxrider77 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think he’s gay at all. I think maybe he had some weird encounters with a gay guy. If he ever experience anything that could have made him question before getting in a straight relationship. A lot of guys give anal to their partner. It has to be same sex to be gay. I’m straight and want to try a strap. It’s just going further with what your comfortable with.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So the reason you think he's gay is because a gay guy touched him and he's friends with a gay guy?

Admittedly the "good boy" thing is a bit odd but people say plenty of dumb shit during sex.

He might be gay but youve not really told me anything that would indicate he is

LifeIsGood00 · Accepted Answer

Start a conversation about sexuality and casually ask the question, “have you ever been sexually attracted to men ” ? Then take it from there. Don’t wonder too much just be honest with him because you guys are in an intimate relationship. Hope this helps.

Mia-Wallace · Accepted Answer

He's having sex with you, so he's definitely not gay. None of the things he said indicate he is attracted to men, so you can't even say he's bi.

Maybe he was sexually abused and that is why he talks about them.

laurieluvsit · Answer

I see nothing in the story you are telling that would indicate to me that your boyfriend is gay. I hope that helps :)

jaybee281 · Answer

He's definitely not gay.. Like being touched by a gay dude is something to expect honestly happened to me and to a lot of guys i know (in his case the gay dude probably tried to take it too far) .. Also the good boy thing is a bit confusing but everybody says some dumb shit while having sex so no big deal

eninning · Answer

If you have suspicions then you should find out before there's kids or you start feeling more for him. There's ways to find out

Dargil · Answer

The best I can do is that he has ambiguous sexuality. Not quire gay or bisexual but rather he does not have clearly defined borders. I think the culture has done that.

kangy · Answer

if you can't ask him directly for now, observe his behaviour. but eventually u still need to discuss openly with him

AngelLily · Answer

I wouldn't say he's gay

Mister-X_Y · Answer

I wouldn't say that he is gay. But I dont know what type your boyfriend is. I like the asking straight thing... I guess you should ask him... only take time to do it in the right atmosphere...