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Am I unreasonable in my strong dislike of whores, sluts, or hoes?

I really dislike these types of women, but I’m open to hearing their reasonings, context, and specifics to why they are the way that they are.

It may make me feel differently about their situation.

I’ve tried to honestly tell myself why I really do dislike these types of women and I’ve always come to one main reason and that is OBJECTIFICATION.

I just don’t like feeling like a number or object, which is almost bound to happen if a woman has been with many men before I.

She even won’t be able to help herself think of me as another number or object. If we were to have sex, it’s out of her control to compare me to or think of all her past partners.

I’ve tried telling myself if it was insecurity, but I truly do not believe it is a primary factor, although perhaps it is a small factor.

The other issues besides feeling like a number of object are the pair bonding issues, diseases carried, etc.

Pair bonding, in this case, refers to the erosion of the love-feeling mechanisms within the brain due to certain over stimulation, most likely over stimulation of having been with one person, after another, after another, and so forth. It may prevent lack of subsequent bonding for future partners one meets and may further cause one to see future/subsequent partners more like a number or object.

I don’t want a whore, slut, or hoe that has given sex easy to many men. I don’t want a woman that many men have had sex with, why would I? Why would any self-respecting man want such a thing? Why would any self-respecting woman do this?

My opinion? These men are most likely not high quality and don’t have firm morals, beliefs, principles, etc. They take whatever easy prey that they can bed with. The women, on the other hand, most likely have other preexisting conditions. Perhaps it’s something biological mixed in with traumatic past events, abusive partners/partners, drugs, etc. I don’t think it’s simply “liking sex.”
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How I’m defining these three terms: Whore, slut, or hoe: a woman who has partook in many instances of casual or indiscriminate sexual encounters. NOT a woman who dresses a certain way NOT a woman who sends nude pics NOT a sexual/nude cam model
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I’ve NEVER heard of a reason why being a whore, slut, or hoe is a GOOD thing. Most people have said something like “she just likes sex” or “it’s her choice.” It’s never a logical, in-depth, or drawn out reason like I’ve posed above. People want to believe this is right for some reason, when it’s clearly not right and not healthy. in my opinion, it doesn’t even spawn from right or healthy origins or reasons.
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  • No. It's not unreasonable, and the reason why also makes sense to me.

    Personally, I have a similar way to an extent, but I further have more disdain for pimps and enablers.

    I also like your first update that defines these terms. I will further add:
    Whore or hoe: Sex worker; one who is paid in some capacity for sexual acts, or attains favors by trading them for sex
    Slut: A woman who partakes in excessive, indiscriminate, or extremely risky sexual behavior; especially with a large number of partners.
    Pimp: An individual (often a man) who facilitates the work of a whore for pay. Often follows a business model.
    Enabler: An individual who encourages any of the above.

    Who is not (in addition to dress or sending nudes): Anyone who is coerced into any sexual situation is rather a victim of rape or sexual slavery. A lot of the women who are whores today are not so by choice. I know it's an obvious distinction, but I think it's important top emphasize.

    Let me make it clear though. I don't hate sex workers, or even promiscuous people. I don't like what they do, and I don't condone it, but it doesn't mean I hate them. As for victims of rape or human trafficking, I feel A LOT of sympathy. Breaks your heart to know what a lot of people (women, chikdren, or men) may go through. Makes me mad actually.

    • I agree with all of that and I’m glad to have someone intelligent and professional understand my what I’m getting at.

  • No, its perfectly reasonable. Its in your nature to want to avoid that type of woman, I don't see any issue with having standards (as all data shows promiscous women are a risk to men in more ways then one).

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  • What's the maximum of sexual 3encounter you find reasonable?
    I am very open minded and understanding of others while opting myself to a more prudish lifestyle.
    Usually in my community it is not well scene for a woman to loose her virginity before marriage.
    I don't believe that, but for me I prefer to wait for a serious relationship.
    I have had the opportunity to have sex and I went to numerous party scenes abroad with my friends who has sex there but I didn't.
    Unlike you though, I don't find their behaviour wrong. I think each of us regards sex differently. I can't get turned on unless I have a connection with the guy and feelings but they can so why not🤷🏿‍♀️
    It's the part of being compared is related to insecurity.
    A girl doesn't have an expiry date or has a manual that says after x number of uses she will be spoilt and good to throw.
    Human beings are a bit more complex than that, even if she had several partners doesn't mean she can't have anymore any deep connection with someone and can't fall in love anymore.
    I don't get why you think that.
    Also a woman can be very sexual active due to certain issues, that doesn't mean that with proper support she can't get back on track either.

    • Not well seen***

    • Friends who had* sex Meh ignore my typos I just woke up and didn't proofread

    • Did you read everything I wrote? Just in case you haven’t, give it a read. I feel like some people haven’t read it

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  • Nope. I’m a straight female and I am really put off by slutty behavior. I think it’s sad that so many women now have no sense of self respect. Then they justify slutty behavior and having sex with 20 guys with the excuse , “it’s my body, stop slut shaming” ... yea girl, it’s your body but you cheapen yourself with every new guy you spread your legs to. But that’s just my opinion. I keep my mouth shut... I’m still a virgin and I’m 20. I’ve only kissed one guy. I’m not just going to give myself away so easily...

    • All these girls in the comments getting mad. Find me a reason why being a slut is a good thing. It’s not.

    • @Juliannaxoxoxo you are not alone in this. I feel like you do, and I'm a virgin who has never kissed anyone. Ignore the bs and the fools who spout it.

    • I don't mean any disrespect or mean to piss you off but why are you a virgin?

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  • 'People want to believe this is right for some reason, when it’s clearly not right and not healthy. '

    Everyone's entitled to their own opinion but are you implying that there's a universal and absolute definition for what is right?

    • Yes. We know that their are sever consequences to promiscuity. Study after study has shown it increases the rates of depression, anxiety, fatherlessness (which itself increases rates of criminality and poverty), stds (currently we have STDS that are becoming antibiotic resistant due to how often people get them), increased rates of cheating and divorce (which has similar affects on children as single motherhood), decreased satisfaction with long term relationships (resulting in unstable enviroments for children) as well as decreased satisfaction with sex. I mean if your talking about morality, well morality is the ability to trust others and trust they will not harm you (to boil it down to its most basic form, it exists to facilitate cooperation) so in that way promiscuity actually does harm that and as such can be argued to be morally wrong, but it is objectively "not right" to do because of the obvious health consequences as well.

    • Not saying some one can't sleep around, just that pretending like it has no consequence or that its healthy when its provably not is not appropriate or right to do. Kind of like claiming their is nothing wrong drinking until you black out and risk drowning in your own vomit. Sure you have the right to do it, but its not healthy and its not "right" from a moral standpoint as you are avoiding responsibility for your actions and that makes you unreliable as a person (as far as immorality goes, its a minor one and preferable to many others but its still detrimental).

    • I see. Very interesting that these ‘studies’ have such findings only after a woman behaved in a promiscuous manner...

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  • In your profile bio...

    "I want everyone to remember me as a man who was courageous, with a heart of gold"

    ... it will be hard for me to remember you as such a man after sharing such disdain for those to whom you disagree so profoundly when they are on a journey through this page of their life.

    Am I unreasonable in my strong dislike of whores, sluts, or hoes?Am I unreasonable in my strong dislike of whores, sluts, or hoes?Am I unreasonable in my strong dislike of whores, sluts, or hoes?

    • Just because I don’t like whores, sluts, or hoes means I’m not courageous? Means I don’t have a heart of gold? I’ve even said, if you read, that I’m OPEN to hearing out a woman’s why and her reasonings. I’ve also said on here that it’s not healthy for men as well. I don’t actually treat whores disrespectfully. I call out their wretch behavior, but if they’re honest with what they’ve done then that’s the right thing to do. I treat everyone with kindness and patience. If a woman who is a whore, slut, or hoe needs my assistance then I’ll gladly give it.

    • You have made me very sad today Mr ETP :( ... that's all

    • Well, I actually feel kind of bad now lol.

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  • maybe you just need a good blowjob and you'll feel differently

    • You offering? Lol

    • ahh so you wouldn't mind one... would you like one from me?

  • I consider cam models, porn stars and people who sends nudes to many people to be a hoe as well 🤷‍♀️ But yea i wouldn't want to date a hoe either (and in this case im referring to a guy who has slept with many people in a short amount of time with lack of feelings for each... i mean i consider hoes to be any gender and i honestly use hoe towards women as a substitute for whore/bitch/slut because i dont like those words)

    • Porn stars obviously lol.

    • Cam girls/guys too tho. Theyre hoeing by whipping their dick out showing everyone. I wouldn't want someone like that unless we were committed and having sex in public and others just happened to watch

    • I gotta agree. Well said Dizzy.

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  • I mean I get not wanting to feel like another blade of grass...

    I prefer to not be with a guy who has slept with many women, but I don’t think he’d see me as an object if he had real feelings for me and respected people in general

    i don’t think enjoying sex Automatically means you objectify everyone, though I’m sure in many cases that is what is happening.

    • I think the “good thing“ about enjoying sex and not having sexual hang ups is you won’t be Sexually neurotic in life.

    • He CAN indeed have real feelings for and respect for you. But, think about it, while he’s being intimate with you or sleeping with you, it’s almost uncontrollable for him to not think of the other women he’s put in the same exact positions, touched the same exact way, and said the same exact things to. Especially if it was a lot of women. He’s lying if he says he’s just thinking about you. I think that’s one of the weaknesses of women and I’ve been guilty of this as well. Women are very gullible and believe many things that come from a man. Think of it as collecting different types of fish. A man sleeping with you is like a man who is currently siting ogling at the new fish he captured, all the while taking quick glances at his wall of every single different type of fish he’s ever caught.

    • It honestly feels good to get this post out because I’ve been thinking about this for quite a bit. It’s good to have others chime in. Of course this isn’t an exhaustive post of all my thoughts on the matter, but it’s a good start. My only issue is whether I should’ve used the words “whore,” “slut,” or “hoe.” I think they can be bad and insensitive words, but I’m referring to a certain type of woman, behaving in what is clearly a negative, harmful, and unhealthy manner.

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  • Dude, get over your belief that anyone else owes you an explanation of how they live their lives or why they live their lives a certain way. Would you like people to pick apart your life and ask you to explain and justify why you do X or Y because they dislike it? I'm sure you'd tell them if they don't like it, move on. If a girl who has no problem with casual sex and sleeps with a lot of guys turns you off, don't date her. It's just that simple. It's like someone who complains about a TV show. If they don't like it, just turn the damn channel.

    • Read what I wrote, this time, SLOWLY son. It’s fucking idiots like you that I can’t talk reasonably to because you miss the point. I never said I want to make this illegal I never even said they can’t do what they want I never said they should listen to me I’m just calling out what I see

    • Don't get condescending with me, you dumb shit. You're just a judgmental, arrogant asshat. "I want them to explain to me why they do this cause it's immoral, it's wrong, It’s not good. It’s not even healthy. It’s potentially very regrettable, especially for women. It’s disease infested. It's this, it's that." IN. YOUR. OPINION. You don't get to set the morals or the standards of what's right for everyone else. You read about pair bonding in some facebook post and now you think you're some fucking expert on human behavior. "I never said these women can’t be whores, sluts, or hoes." Wow. What a great guy you are to allow them to be whores, sluts or hoes if they want. Get over yourself, asshole.

    • If I’m saying this, then it’s obviously MY opinion. Why do I have to constantly say it’s my opinion? Anyone reading can tell that this is MY personal take. A lot of what I say can be backed up by scientific literature, but you wouldn’t care if I actually provided you with the sources or not I’m guessing. Again, I’m writing about MY take on certain types of women. What don’t you understand about that? Even a lot of the women on here seem to have more of understanding of what I’m saying. You probably glossed over everything I read and answered emotionally instead of really understanding what I’m saying. Look up the terms “pair-bonding” and you’ll see it’s not made up. There’s real literature on this.

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  • I guess some people just like humping like bunnies. If that's what they want out of life, to promiscuously go hopping from bed to bed then go for it. Promiscuous- demonstrating or implying an undiscriminating or unselective approach; indiscriminate or casual, or having or characterized by many transient sexual relationships. If a STD was like the Coronavirus (COVID-19) I think they would change their ways, at least temporarily.

    • Nobody is saying that they can’t “go for it.” Just be honest about what it is. It’s not good It’s not even healthy It’s potentially very regrettable, especially for women It’s disease infested Numerous negatives... People still smoke even after being told it’s literal poison and it WILL kill you and fuck up your lungs... Same thing with alcohol

    • That's true. Some STD's can make a woman sterile and she won't be able to have her own children. But then I'm kind of thinking they will not settle down until their body stops being attractive to men. Then she will be like an old maid - nobody wants to get it passed to them.

    • I do not think an Older woman who is a Virgin is getting more dates than an older woman who had lots of sex ~ maybe I’m wrong? And you don’t automatically get stds bc you have sex. You can get an std from one partner and you can get none from many. You can use protection.

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  • No you’re not being unreasonable... but I want to ask you what your definition is if a slut? A whore? A hoe?

    Correct me if I’m wrong... but I think you base it on a woman who has slept with multiple people?

    Also... what is the collective noun for a man that has slept with multiple people?

    • Sleeze

    • Womanizer 😎

  • Everyone has preferences, I guess. Some guys have a thing for only marrying virgins. Some guys think pussies are something that should be chaste and pure.

    I, for one, have had quite a few girlfriends and not one of them was a virgin. Every one of them was a good girl who had the same hopes and dreams as most average girls. They wanted to be in a relationship that would lead to marriage and children. They were tender hearted, loving moral and ethical. In almost every case, I was the one who eventually broke up with them because it was I who didn't want to settle down. But I loved them and didn't treat them like sex objects as long as the infatuation that I mistook for love lasted. Yes, they had relationships before they met me and they had relationships after me. Eventually, every one of them found the right guy, married and had kids.

    So I reject the bogus Pair Bonding "studies".

    In regards to those studies, I'll repeat that I, myself, had quite a few relationships. In my mid-30s, I finally decided that I wanted to settle down. After a couple more relationships, I met a woman when I was 39 and married her two years later. We've been married for 24 years. No one could be a better best friend and we trust each other completely. We bonded just fine. by the way, she wasn't a virgin, either.

    I feel that women have every justification to engage in relationships and experiment sexually. They have libidos, just as do men. The stronger the libido the better. So what if a woman has sexual experience. Good for her. It means that she loves life, is willing to take chances, is capable of experiencing successes and failures without giving up, learns from her mistakes, and doesn't have sexual hang ups.

    Bottom line, while I completely disagree with your attempts to use logic to justify your personal prejudices, I support your right to have personal preferences. Everyone has personal preferences. They are normal but rarely logical.

    • The key distinction hear is the frequency and excessive indiscriminate sexual encounters with different men. We all like sex, that’s no secret. But once you add in the key words “indiscriminate” “many different partners,” “casual” and perhaps more, then you get a different picture. All behavior has a preceding reasoning. Why one doesn’t do what another does has a reasoning. From what I’ve seen, it’s usually never just about “liking sex.” We all can conjure up our own personal experiences but rarely do we know the intricate web of causality between what we experience and what we’re seeing. In other words, if I examine all of my girlfriends I’ve ever been with then I might find that I only have a subsurface idea of their sexuality. “She was very horny with me, so she must be a horny woman and like sex.” If I extend this logic to ALL of my girlfriends, then my life is going to be believe that all women are horny sex creatures with little distinction from men. So, when I find opposing viewpoints, my limited examination of my relatively limiting past will cause me to revolt. Such as what I believe you are doing right now. It’s not strictly about liking sex

    • It still sounds like you are trying to psychoanalyze women that you don't know in order to justify deep seeded prejudices. Why don't you just stick with your preferences and quit judging women.

    • No, the evidence is out on this topic. Again, I’m talking about something specific here. Everyone judges everyone. It’s human nature and built into us. I don’t think you understand what I’m getting at, whether unintentionally or intentionally.

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  • no you are not. It's your value system and something deep within that says these women are not good, or good for society, or good for you. You have a right to an opinion... who has a right to tell you you are wrong? But... you also have to accept that is who they are or where they are at in life.

    I never have been attracted to such people... in early school, I thought was gross... I felt there was something wrong with them.. and often I was right. I've learned though that people are different and I cannot project my perspective onto them... I accept them as they are. So for example, if I went to a prostitution house, I would talk to the women there same as I talk to anyone else.. I'm not going to judge her for her life or situation. I would certainly seek to find the better person inside her. Maybe she doesn't really want that life, maybe she's trapped, maybe she was abused and she continues to function out of decade old wounds from childhood. And maybe that is all she knows how to feed her kids at home? That creates other feelings of empathy as a person doing her best.
    To me in the end, life is about living your best life, helping others to live their best life... that you care about and making a difference where you can. You cannot control others and it can take decades for people to realize what they are doing and why... and that it isn't really what they want. That unfortunately, is the power of this world and how we work.
    Be careful with the emotions you are feeling because they can end up turning to anger, rage and end up hurting others because of how you feel. It be a sad twist of fate. Jesus loved these people... he didn't like what he saw, but accepted them as they are?

  • To each his own i guess. You're in no way obligated to like these women you have categorized. But also at the same time, they're also not obligated to change themselves to impress you or guys who think the same way as you do.

    • Exactly. I’m not saying they should be obligated to do anything, but just be honest about what they’re doing. Smokers know they’re killing themselves, literally, slowly. Same with chronic drug and alcohol users. Whores, sluts, and hoes are delusional. They think it’s just “liking sex,” even though it’s not simply just that.

    • I agree you can feel anyway you like but, How do you know it isn’t simply just that they like sex? If that’s how it is for them then that is how it is. Sex itself isn’t bad for your health it’s actually shown to have many heath benefits. It’s not a good comparison.

    • Can it just be that they like sex? I’m sure for some, of course. Is it likely that it’s just liking sex? Especially if it’s many times, in a casual, indiscriminate nature? I’d say no...

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  • Actually, it is reasonable for you to have a strong dislike of whores, sluts, or hoes. A woman who has partaken in many instances of casual or indiscriminate sexual encounters is also my definition for whore, slut or hoe.

    • Yes.

  • Simple answer, DON'T INTERACT with those!!
    Who are you to try to tell anyone how to live, because of how you, uh, imagine?
    Everyone has the right to live how they chose, and if you don't like those, stay away, but don't post judgmental hate, like you should have some control over women, or other people's lives and how they choose to live!!

    • I say what I want. If there’s bullshit, then I call it out. I never said I want to make illegal this. I never said these women can’t be whores, sluts, or hoes. Do what you want, but be honest about it. I’m expressing my dislike for something I see, that’s it. What the fuck are you on about? Did you read what I wrote? Read it again slowly

    • @EmbraceThePain Yes, I read it, mostly, as a long RANT. You have every right to post your whatever, and I have the same right to say I think you are just ranting and judging!

    • Well, I can agree with that. We, as humans, judge all the time though. On EVERYTHING

  • Why the need to judge others just because they don't hold your subjective moral standards? You sound like a religious bigot. If that's not what you like, just go your way and don't be so damn judgmental.

    • Definitely not religious at all. Human beings are judgmental, it’s biology, get over it.

    • Most of us try to be better than brute beasts.

  • No way man, you aren't. Its like how i can't stand a guy that just wants to go around and bang every girl he sees lol. And its for the same reasons, if i was with some guy who was like that i know id only be seen as just a sex toy and not anybody to value.

  • Well first of all, people with many sexual partners are just as capable of strong feelings as you are. Although you have every right to your dating preferences, also also have a streak of judgey. Just flat out denying someone for that one factor, you might miss out on the love of your life.

    • Id rather die then. She would never be the love of my life. Id feel used and could never love her. Ever time I would have sex with her, there would always be that baggage lingering atop my head. There would be a lot of different things going on, as I’ve mentioned in my post. Read it if you haven’t

    • Yeah I get it. I guess as long as you are treating everyone respectfully (whore or not), who cares.

    • Yeah, I obviously dislike these types of people, but that doesn’t mean I won’t be kind to them. I’m kind and patient with everyone, even those that hate me, want to kill me, dislike me, etc.

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  • Whether if it’s right or wrong, you are entitled to dislike anyone that you want.

    • Well... duh... That’s not what I’m asking though.

    • I was responding to your main question.

  • EmbraceThePain--- You have EXTREME double standards for men and women regarding sex. And I think that it's interesting that you don't think sending pictures/videos as problematic behavior... Because that would make me feel like "just another number" if I found out that he had sent pictures or videos of his body to a bunch of women.
    Don't invite me to questions like this anymore.

    • I don’t think I do. I’m intimately interested in women, not men, so that’s why I’m talking about the types of women I wouldn’t want to be with, which is the context for this post I never said men can do this and women cannot I never said it’s healthy for men to do this, as it can be unhealthy even for men All I’m saying is that, there IS a difference. It affects men and women differently. Pictures are nothing... actual actions matter more. I don’t want to dilute or generalize what “whore,” “slut,” or “hoe” means. It’s very specific. Yes, I may not like a woman who sends nudes out to many men, but I’m not going to call her a whore, slut, or hoe.

    • @EmbraceThePain I agree with you here. I don't think sending nudes is either wise or helpful, but there are worse things. So I wouldn't reject a woman just because she had since nude photos to someone at some time (though it would be disappointing, of course. ... But I've looked at porn so I'm not innocent either.)

  • I don’t know, but my heart broke reading all of that.

    • Why?

    • Because she is a slut

    • @Милашка 😅jesus love you are rutheless. I hope you don't mind me asking this is inappropriate I know but I ask you to forgive me in advance but what are your views on the subject and what is your sexual background.

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  • No, but you are hypocritical because you’ve expressed before that you think it’s acceptable for yourself and other men to be whores, sluts, and hoes.

    • I never said it was acceptable. I’ve said it was DIFFERENT and that it affects men and women DIFFERENTLY.

    • "I never said it was acceptable. " But it's clear from that post that you are in fact a slut.

    • @wagsingle What?

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