How to give the best blow job?

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Dargil · Accepted Answer

Warning. Word wall ahead. I call it Blowjob 101. Try to stay awake.
No drama. Just do it.

*Most girls do not know how to give an effective blowjob. They have to resort to trial and error because guys can't verbalize what they want. Over time, I have received quite a few and, as important, watched AV clips that ended in visible evidence of ejaculation. What struck me is how much alike they all were. So I laid out a successful routine.

*What happens in the foreplay stage varies from guy to guy; teasing, play, etc. Many girls have certain teases that are good for starting arousal. I favor a nipples to knees erotic massage. The goal is to get us hard and flowing precum, but not too near to orgasm, so the "tank" has time to fill. While there's always some on hand, arousal induces emergency production of semen so volume will be bigger and orgasm contractions will be stronger. With little or no drama, here's what always seems to work.

*A blow job is not romantic, interactive sex, it is one-way sexual therapy. You make it all about him. The best blow job is a combination of hand and oral. The head wants bobbing, sucking and licking, slick, soft and smooth. The shaft wants vigorous hand stroking. Conversely, vigorous stroking overwhelms the head, and the shaft doesn't respond as well to a mouth as it does to a hand. So a good blowjob is "suck and stroke". In the early stage, they can be synchronized, with your hand just below your mouth, bobbing and stroking un unison.

*Once you start, never stop or slow down. Build steady tension to the finish. It is OK to level off to "edge" him, make him last longer, so long as you don't lose ground. When he starts to buck and breathe deep, he is approaching orgasm. Go aggressive. Increase sucking and bobbing to as fast as you can sustain for a few minutes and break away hand stroking, going as fast as you can with a moderate grip.

*He wants to cum in your mouth while you suck and stroke. Be prepared for it and don't skip a beat. When he starts to ejaculate, stop bobbing and straight-suck only. Keep hand stroking, but at a slower pace, to coax out the last squirts. If you may have a gag reflex at ejaculation, curl your tongue up to deflect the stream.

*Stay "locked on" (sucking without motion) until he unplugs. It feels good to drain out and shrink away under vacuum. Also a little brief, occasional "suckling", like a baby on a pacifier is a good tease while we drain. It will make him jump, but he will like it.

*Be careful not to scratch or bite. It can put the fire out. Particularly true with braces.

*Deep throating and "face fucking" are useless porn antics. Your mouth and tongue will give a better sensation that your throat ever could. He may instinctively try to drive deep when he cums. It's nothing personal. It's biology. You can avoid choking by gripping his penis firmly in front of your mouth so he can't drive it deep.

*Swallowing is up to you as it gives no pleasure but may give him an ego boost. I actually like her to spit the load into her palm so we see how we did.

*There is nothing that will make a man feel more loved than a skilled blow job, where he can be indulged without feeling self conscious. Developing this skill can help cement your relationship and make it less likely he will cheat. A blowjob is "girl power".

*One more thing, This Meme is funny but absolutely true.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

When it comes to giving a blowjob 'correctly' and him finding it super hot, enthusiasm trumps all. Whatever you're doing, looking like you're enjoying yourself will make it feel a million times better. So just look like you're really into it, ideally actually be into it, and you're halfway there! The mental aspect of knowing the girl has your dick in her mouth and is not only genuinely enjoying herself, but wants to do what she can to let you enjoy it, will make ANY guy feel like a king way more than any porn-star quality techniques.

Focus mostly on the head. The shaft itself doesn't have that many nerves on it so though paying attention to the area as a whole feels good plus builds anticipation, make sure to flick/lick around the head when you're coming up. It's a good way to maximize surface area being touched to just put the outer fourth in your mouth, swirl your tongue around it and the head, while paying attention to the shaft/balls with your hands. Two birds with one stone!

Most guys like some ball play. Start gently, with just barely making contact with your hands to feel out this particular guy's sensitivity to pain down there. Once you've got that taken care of, it feels good to suck on one ball at a time, though again not too hard as it's quite a delicate area. Most say to minimize hand use during a blowjob, as they can give themselves a handjob the best. But as long as you make sure to incorporate some mouth action, I'm sure you'll hear no complaints.

My guy loves it when I get the whole shaft nicely lubricated with some spit at first before paying attention to just the head & last 1/3 of the dick. Don't forget to include lots of tongue action here, like swirling, etc.. While you're doing that, right under your mouth, work the shaft with your hand. Moving up and down in tandem, or doing twisting motions works well. Another variation on that is to work the last 1/3 with you hand, doing a twisting/stroking motion with extra stimulation on the head with your palm when you move your hand outwards and at the same time, pay attention to his balls with your mouth.
(a myTake of mine on this very topic that's a bit more detailed: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a24149-how-to-give-amazing-head )

AmyLittle · Accepted Answer

What threw me off the most when I started giving blow jobs was that one guy would REALLY like a thing and then the next guy would hate it. Playing with his balls can be like that. Focusing on the head of his dick has always gotten me good results. Deep throating can drive a guy wild but I found it hard to learn and it seems like the novelty wears off for a guy after the first few times you do it.
If I'm giving blowjobs regularly to the same guy then I usually start asking him what he likes. I do one thing and then a different thing and ask which he liked better.
I also had a great experience early on of giving a guy head while we watched porn. He picked out some blowjob videos showing techniques he wanted me to try and it ended up being fun. But... when I've tried that again with other guys it's been less instructional and more like having the guy use my face to masturbate. Which is degrading in ways that I personally enjoy but that I think most girls would find intolerable.

Lliam · Answer

A main thing is to enjoy yourself as if he's a delicious meal that you are savoring.

Think of it as making love to the man's cock. Look at it with awe and adoration. Start out slowly and tenderly the way you do when you begin masturbating. Don't just attack it. Teasing and starting slowly will increase his anticipation and desire.

Hold it gently in your hand. Stroke it tenderly. Give the tip a few tender kisses and tentative licks. When you close your lips around the head, roll your tongue around and suck as if it's a Tootsie Roll Pop. When you start bobbing, pull at the back of the head with your lips. Use your mouth as if it's your pussy. In and out, right? You can occasionally let the head pop free of your tightly closed lips as you suck, making a popping sound.

Take breaks to run your tongue and lips up and down the shaft. You can vary that between lightly touching, almost ticklingly, with the tip of your tongue, to using your lips and the flat of your tongue as if he's a popsicle.

Lift the cock, bury your nose in his scrotum and lick his balls all over, including the back of his scrotum. You can take his balls in your mouth, one at a time, and roll your tongue around, but be very gentle. Don't pull at them.

Take his cock deep occasionally, but don't feel that you have to deep throat or gag yourself. Long, deep strokes are good, though, when varied with shorter, sucking strokes that pull at his head.

You can also get his cock wet with saliva, wrap your hand around it and jack him off as you suck the head, or jack him off when your mouth gets tired and you need a break. Focus on the top portion of the shaft. You can also twist your hand as you stroke him. Again, make sure he is good and wet with saliva.

As he gets more and more turned on, bob faster. At that point, don't stop the rhythm. Do it as if you're hungry. Tilt your eyes up to look at him from time to time as you suck.

You can hum "Mm! Mm! Mm!" in a way that sounds like both encouragement and delight. When he cums, make encouraging humming sounds as if eating something delicious combined with alarm at the force and volume of his gushers. Suck and keep your tongue moving as your mouth fills. Swallow if at all possible.

Learn to love sucking cock and eating cum. It can be an acquired taste.

ArrRenn · Answer

I used to worry about this all of the time, and it made me unhappy that I never seemed to get good at fellatio. After many years, I finally figured out what I had been doing wrong. I had been so worked up about the guy’s pleasure that I stopped enjoying the process when my jaws began to get tired. When I stopped enjoying the head job, I lost interest... and he did not get pleasure. Of course, I felt like a failure.

Don’t think about giving “the best blowjob”. Focus on your own enjoyment of the taste, the smell, the feel, the look, the sound. Don’t worry – the guy is going to enjoy it. Don’t worry about taking it deeper or if your jaws get tired, just enjoy everything you notice as you try new things: sliding your lips along the shaft like it is buttered corn on the cob; taking his balls into your mouth, one at a time, and “spit shining” them; getting your hands into the act, stroking the shaft while giving your jaws a break by focusing on just the head. Come up with your own ideas!

Head is a very selfish thing. He gets his pleasure without having to do anything (he does not even have to move his hips, so he does not even have to break a sweat). Why should you care, then, about what he is feeling at any given moment? Feel the crown of his glans against the inside of your lips and the twitch of his shaft just before his load begins to fill your mouth. Smell the sharp musk as your nose passes by his pubic hair. Taste the sweat on his balls and the drops of precum at the tip. Hear the erotic squishing of his cock passing through your saliva-dripping lips. See the change in his penis from soft and pale to hard and erect and red. Experience the triumphant feeling of power when he cums. Savor the bitter/salty/savory, thick and sticky result of your efforts.

Enjoy what you are doing, and you cannot help but give great head.

Sleezybo · Answer

Don't suck till you know he has took a shower cause most guys go without shower 1-3 days at a time and don't swallow cum it could taste disgusting

TheFlak38 · Answer

make him cum and swallow and thats it. You earned your blow job degree.

George090 · Answer

I have no knowledge of this sorry

Anon481 · Answer

Pretend you're a vacuum and try to suck any dirt out of his cock

OddBeMe · Answer

Focus on the tip of the dick. Whether using tongue or back of the throat (if you can). That’s where our g spot is.

sonu789 · Answer

Love is a key for all type of sexual desire

keepupthemood · Answer

well I love it when the woman has piercing on her toung and tease my cock head with that

asyouwishcallme · Answer

For me , you just sit on my face without any clothes and your asshole just on my nose and cunt on just my lips and I lick it while sniffing your stinkhole, and at same time you play with my dick bj.. do you understand the position