How to be attractive? or how do you know if you're attractive or not?

[Luna1998]

I live a happy single live and yes there ain't much to complain, I have lots of girls and guys friends, my personality is pretty good, i get along with lots of people very well regardless ages, sex, or nationality. But I don't think I am attractive in term of sexual attraction.

The last time I got ask out by a guy was 4 years ago. I guess guys don't really find me attractive at all tbh lol

My self-esteem is quite low about my look and my body, I wouldn't compliment myself as much as i do for the others, but I am sure confident in myself about other stuffs.

And yes mainly is, I don't wanna die as a virgin lol, any tips?

[PrudentGuy]

Many have shared their opinions when I saw this thread and I think most are good opinions.

I'll try not to repeat, but bring out a quote from "Sex and the City" (TV Series) -- "Are we falling in love with the same person over and over again?"

This statement is interesting because no one is "attractive" to everyone.

This means we will have to face rejections and be prepared to meet people who will not find us attractive. This is real, but a hard truth to digest because rejection is hard to bear.

But if you keep falling for the "same person" -- the type that make you feel unattractive, then you won't "advance" in your relationship.

Perhaps you should evaluate and see if you could date guys of another circle?

Who knows in that new circle, you may find one that you are comfortable with and feel / manifest the attraction and reach the sexual level?

A thought.

[Luna1998]

very interesting, i will keep that in mind! thank you!

[koosa1999]

I don't think you are unattractive, I think tour low self esteem just makes people feel a bit guilty to approach you maybe, sometimes people don't want others to think they want to use you, maybe make the first move, keep your head high and shoulders back you deserve to be looked at and be proud, confidence is sexy

[Luna1998]

im shy especially with the person i like

[koosa1999]

I know, if like like the person it's like you want to say a thousand words but don't want to make a mistake and loose what you got, but next time just try to ask one question, after the person answers just state your opinion, you don't even have to keep eye contact, just speak, afterwards you'll know what to do

[Anonymous]

Ok first things first. Do you dress in a way to attract guys. Are you more a t-shirt jeans and sneakers girl, or belted cowl neck sweater dress leather leggings and flats kinda girl?

[Luna1998]

I usually dress up in earth tone fashion

[Opinion Owner]

What is earth tone fashion?

[scotcheggs]

i think the only tip here, which you’ve probably heard a lot about is that you need to love yourself ✌🏼

[Luna1998]

tbh, I do love myself, and I guess its not enough

[scotcheggs]

oh okay. just sounds like u need some more confidence

[sawno]

Usually when I write mytakes it's around a controversial subject especially to those not understanding what I am saying. So while not universally agreed upon it does answer your question perfectly : 5 Reasons You Do Not Have A Boyfriend Yet! (From A Geek's Perspective)

[Timino]

Sexual attraction isn't just one spectrum, many people are attracted to many differnt things. Confidence is also attractive because its shows love. Everyone is attractive in their own, so just know you are going to find someone

[ailukkhan4]

Sexual attraction in part can also be based on emotional/romantic attraction. When I was a freshman in college, I lived on the same floor as this girl with whom I'd fall for a year later. I'd heard her friends commenting that she had a nice ass. I honestly didn't think much of her physically at that point in time. Over the next year though, we started talking more, seeing each other more... and I fell for her. All of a sudden I think she's super sexy. Sadly, I got friendzoned. A long time later, I moved on from her and when I saw a picture of her in passing, I wasn't all "damn" about her figure anymore.

[COMMODOREII]

Im not sure. Maybe they think you have a bf?