I'm ashamed I can't get her off, help?
But the last 3-4 times we've had sex (probably 3-4 weeks in time duration) she hasn't got off from either PIV sex (I don't last long at all), nor me giving her oral, fingering or rubbing her clit and she's had to finish herself off and it makes me feel really insecure about having sex in the first place (hence the lack of it) - along with general other insecurities.
I feel like sex is a benefit to me but a chore for her, i'm not confident or anything so I struggle to "take control" and she's expressed she loves that but it's so hard to do when that's the opposite of me, especially for sex. I don't have a "big" or "small" dick, right on average but an upward curve makes some positions hard to even thrust (also my hips are really tight too so that doesn't help).
I don't know if this is normal, but when she starts to really enjoy it (I think) - that's around the time where i'm ready to cum and she always says "don't stop" or uses her hands to help me thrust more so I don't want to stop and change positions to try last longer.
How do you suggest I go about this? How should I bring it up?
I'm really sick of not getting her off and feeling so shit about myself and sex because I love her and do want her to be satisfied, and I can tell she just isn't.
What should I do to be better in bed? I watch all these videos (not porn) and try to implement some things but it hasn't seemed to help at all.
I just want to get her off and know I did it myself, not only for my self-esteem but more importantly for her own sexual pleasure and satisfaction.
PLEASE HELP - I literally don't want to have sex at all because of this.
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