Met up with this guy from tinder and gave him a bj and left. Now where not texting anymore. Did I do something wrong? HELP?

[Anonymous]

So this guy started talking to me on tinder and I enjoyed talking to him, we got along.
After a month of talking and me constantly making excuses for not meeting him (which were mostly valid because this month has been crazy and I had a sprained ankle for most of it ) I decided to meet him because he was leaving the next day and I thought I had nothing to loose.

The night before I met him we were sexting and got pretty frisky for each-other which kinda set the intentions for when we met up.

So when I finally met him it was very awkward and I felt very uncomfortable and he was a little shy (I think). Long story short we were making out and I sucked his dick, which i am very unexperienced at. It was pretty awkward the whole time and I do not know if I sucked at it. I didn't make a lot of eye contact and he kinda finished him self off in my mouth. (sorry for the tmi) and then I kissed him bye, he said we should keep in touch and I left.
We haven't talked since it only been a dew days but I am wondering if I should talk to him first.

Can someone please give me some advice.

Is he not talking to me now because I was bad or because it was an awkward encounter and should I talk to him?
I don't know we used to talk every day so its weird.
Any advice would be appreciative

[SueShe]

You are not likely to ever hear from this guy because he got what he wanted from you and you, you got yourself a reputation. Case closed.

I would highly recommend that you have yourself checked for any STD/STI because that type of sexual intercourse bears an enormous risk of infection and that is through HSV-1 or HSV-2 (Herpes Simplex type 1 or 2).

You actually know that there is not much to expect from those guys on those lewd dating apps yet you took and accepted the risk.

Check with your GP or obgyn as soon as possible but right now, with the pandemic, you might have to wait for the test.

[Anonymous]

The only thing i can tell you with complete certainty is that assumption is the mother of all fuck ups.

Until or unless he explains what happened you will never know what happened.

You may never get an answer and you can tell yourself an answer if you want but do not presume to know or think you know the truth when you have made it up or allowed someone else to make up the answer for you.

[Asker]

You are honestly so right. No one can tell me besides him.

[Opinion Owner]

Its not even that simple because even if he did tell you something he might be lying, im not suggesting that i think he would be, only that unless you know something and you are right about the something which informs you that he is lying you wouldn't know that either. Its important to understand and be mindful and therefore caution when making choices about things because you never really know anything and most of the time what you think is happening is actually just your own projection of yourself. Lets take a classic example of a superstition, the black cat crossing your path: Its likely that the cat is real rather than something you imagined but even if it is you aren't seeing it in real time its very slightly in the past, because it takes time for the light to reach your eyes etc (Theory of relativity) If you are superstitous you might think that was a sign of good luck or bad luck. If you have a bad self image you might tell yourself the cat didn't like you or was running away from you or something like that. If you are a very imaginative or creative type of person you might make up some sort of story about where the cat is off to, an important business meeting or home to the wife and kids before he gets a bent ear or whatever. So you should do your best to take part in the reality we all share to the best of your ability but also try to be mindful that you, as with everyone else will fail spectacularly.

[jason222]

i would guess he is waiting for you to text him just like you are waiting for him. he is prolly just shy and nervous and i seriously doubt its bc u didn't give him a good bj. i would text him first and see that happens :)

did he know u were gonna suck his dick or was it a surprise, also who initiated? he might not have been ready

[Asker]

no no he knew, we met up to do something. Im just wondering if he still wants to talk or not

[jason222]

@Asker oh im sure he does. id be shocked if he didn't unless u bit his penis lmao

[joyhit6]

if u like him u should talk

[GuildLegend435]

you're on a hookup app though. its for sex not attachment.

its fine to wonder, but i doubt you will get the answers you want.

[Apope16]

Yeah. By doing that you showed you are a one night stand. Make sure next time communicate what you want. And make sure you guys going on a proper date. You can have long term relationships with sexual stuff on the first date. But a blowjob is more childish. Be a woman and actually have sex. Dont act like you're in high school.

But here is the key... dont meet a guy who says he's leaving the next day. Thats a classic line for guys who are ditching girls after sex.

[Asker]

no no he was actually leaving due to the pandemic and not being able to renew his work visa. and i would have done more if i wasn't on my period plus i knew exactly what i was going there to do and dont regret it.

[Apope16]

Then why exactly are you even asking the question. Why do you feel so narcissistic that you want some guy in another country to be messaging you with no ability to establish a relationship? I have notice that women do this. They feed off of attention from as many guys as possible. I know this becuase I am like a woman. I talk to 7 different chics to get that narko kick of constantly being wanted.

[Asker]

I think your being a bit rude. I dont want a relationship with him just curious why he stopped talking and wondering if i was that bad lol. he said we should keep in touch is it so bad for my mind to wonder.

[Apope16]

Yes I am being rude. You are right. I would say that you didn't do anything wrong. I think that you are being too judgmental toward yourself and you shouldn't feel guilty or bad about what happened. I know that you feel insecure maybe about your blowjob. I dont think that had anything to do with it. I am pretty sure you did good with your blowjob. The guy will remember kissing your more because it is something that is more intimate. Long story short. YOu are just fine. You have nothing to worry about as far as whether you are attractive or not.

[lawhawk84]

if you want to keep talkin to him then just message him. if he is really shy then you might need to.

[justcurious2019]

why would you give him a bj when you just met?

[Asker]

Because i make bad decisions hehe. But to be honest I don't regret, I wanted to. Would have done more and even though he offered we didn't because I was on my period.

[jason222]

@Asker was it ur first time sucking dick?

[Twalli]

First of all tinder is used as a hookup app for a lot of people. So that could be a reason. Let's say it isn't though. Guys don't text. We will only initiate a conversation if we have something to say. Otherwise it's on you. A guy is interested if he responds. He will also be interested if he initiates, but most guys don't initiate. Text him, if he's receptive he's still interested.

[ZSean]

I mean you left after blowing him seems like you were the one who was done with everything

[loveboye]

Ping him and see if he is busy or what.

[lpoots]

wait for him

[Jmmmfi4]

I highly doubt you were bad at it

[alleykat_t]

Not at all, using something like tinder to meet someone there is an obvious risk of being used for a one night stand. This sounds like a one night stand.

[Anonymous]

Tinder is a hookup app, and that's exactly what you got.

[Anonymous]

He's probably waiting for you to text. With this much information, I can't tell if he's after anything else but sex, though. By the way, if you let him finish in your mouth, you didn't suck at giving a blowjob