Do you think slut shaming someone is appropriate?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I don't condone the promiscuous lifestyle, but I have learned if you're not going to help better someone or a situation then its best to shut up.

[TonyBologna25]

It depends on what’s considered shame. Women these days think that men being unattracted to their past is to be seen as shame alone. When a guy says, I don’t want to marry a slut, that’s seen as shame. So if men having particular standards is seen as shame, then I don’t agree with it. Deliberately going out of your way to put someone down for no other reason to inflict emotional pain- well I disagree with that. But from a purely logical perspective, shame does need to exist in a society to keep things in order. If I sleep with a stripper wearing no condom and wake up with herpes, I should feel shame. If a woman has an abortion because she was irresponsible, she should absolutely feel shame. This whole progressive ideology where there’s no shame is a bit toxic in my opinion.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Good points.

[I-am-a-nobody]

We should check our attitude, but not addressing the matter at all isn't necessarily the best course. Back in the "dark ages", before the "sexual revolution", fewer people were promiscuous, Was it because they were "shamed"? I don't know. But I'm do know the casual attitude toward sex today is definitely detrimental to both men and women.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

People always been promiscuous to the same degree.

[I-am-a-nobody]

I realize surveys on such things are somewhat unreliable, but there is no way in this world promiscuity was as common in 1950 as it was in the 1980's. Maybe things haven't changed much in the last 40 years, but if the birth out of wedlock stats are any indication. people are much more promiscuous since the "sexual revolution" in the mid to late sixties.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Dude, you're now more aware of it because of social media. It's human nature to be sexually promiscuous for the majority of people since sexual desires are very difficult to control.

[I-am-a-nobody]

Difficult, but not impossible, I know a lot of folks who were virgins when they married or are unmarried virgins now. Probably half my wedding party was.

I'm just thinking of polls on Christian's attitudes on premarital sex.
According to ifstudies.org/blog/sex-and-the-single-evangelical

"For example, in the General Social Survey (GSS), in 2014 through 2018 combined, only 37% of “fundamentalist adults said that sex outside marriage was “always wrong,” while 41% said it was “not wrong at all.” From 1974 to 1978, the same percentages were 44% and 27%, respectively."

So, the attitudes HAVE changed from the mid 1970s to 2014. In the early sixties, Christians were even more conservative (and Biblical).

Was Jesus a virgin? Mary was at the time of the birth of Jesus... and I'd assume Jeremiah and Daniel and were. I'd further assume Joseph was when he told Potiphar's wife, "NO!"
Think about it...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Religious people and secular people are a different story though.

[I-am-a-nobody]

There is some interrelationship. The church should be setting the moral tone, but sadly, the Church tends to follow the culture, more than vice versa.

[BlueberryTwist]

It's never a good idea, and it's never appropriate. If someone else's life choices bother you THAT much, the best you can do is politely state your concerns and then move on and let them decide how to proceed. Though someone being promiscuous shouldn't bother anyone to the core like that.

[Myonzon]

Unless it's someone they deeply care about for their own well being

[JustJen]

You're certainly not obliged to condone or agree of their lifestyle or choices, but how other people choose to live their life is really none of your business. Just don't lower yourself to the level of name calling and such. Don't associate with them, but just STFU.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Instead of slut shaming, you can simply tell them they're probably not making a good decision with what they're doing. But at the end of the day it's their choice.

[Girl_with_a_question]

You don’t have to condone it , but you should at least respect someone else’s choices. So I don’t think slut shaming is ever a good way to go...

[MarthaStewert]

I do condone safe sex and think shamibg anyone about anything, including sex, is rude.

Shaming someone is worse than being promiscuous.

[needy1234_]

Sometimes people just have to keep their judgment to themselves. But I do agree if you're not going to help someone or the situation it's best you shut up.

[ShortCircuit]

Obviously not, but slut-shaming is a non-issue that's touted by irresponsible hedonists to justify their behavior. Hell, prude-shaming is more prevalent in today's society.

[ClearSea]

Right.

[slatyb]

Never. Don't criticize people who aren't hurting others. You may believe they are making insist choices but keep it to yourself.

[slatyb]

Insist -> unwise

[Kimboslice0906]

I agree with you

[NineBreaker]

Terms like that get thrown around with nothing but detriment to others. Even if someone literally is a slut; what's the point of throwing it at them? It's called an ad homonym, and it's stupid.

Even if a label is warranted, it's not a good idea. Generally, shaming people isn't helpful and will backfire. That's not always the case. The best thing to do is be kind, be humble when you advise them, and if they refuse to engage, just walk away, but be welcoming if they decide to come around.

[Dargil]

No "shaming" is ever justified. Not even being Irish or Hispanic.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

If you must slut-shame, then its only fair that you fuckboy-shame too.

[zoe2187]

Are you a virgin?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Lol.. no..

[Stonernights]

I've never heard this in real life, only in movies or internet stuff saying it happens

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I've heard it in real life.

[Stonernights]

You might need to change the people you hang around then, seems negative. Fucking is way to awesome to be negative about

[Massageman]

My father once told me, "if you don't have a solution for it, don't complain about it". That might fit here.

[Mijopapiii]

Well I might not even comment on this since everything I say now gets deleted

[bannacookies]

In a way yes. Maybe not "slut" shaming, but letting them know their actions are not good is appropriate.

[Stan_Control_]

No. It's not okay to shame someone who's had more luck or action in their sex life than you.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

LOL...

[ClearSea]

I think it's rude and mean, but I understand why people do it. Promiscuity is disgusting.

[COMMODOREII]

No it is not appropriate

[Snakeyes7]

Only when the context makes sense (like all they do is one night stands and their body count is insane) and at least try to address it as a concern and not as derogatory.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Of course its inappropriate