Why is it that girls are usually less willing to have sex?

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I think the fact that females are less willing to have sex than guys is so obvious.

nightdrot · Accepted Answer

Evolution at work - big time - as well as just the inescapable fact that women actually do bear some greater risk in sex than do men. Consequently, as both a conscious and an unconscious matter, women will tend to be more cautious. It being added that this is a tendency and by no means an absolute.

In evolutionary terms, it starts with the origins of the male and female sex drives. For the man, evolution has programmed him to put his sperm into as many females as possible and thus make as many babies as possible. It is how the species has endured for several hundred thousand years.

It should be added here, in shorthand, that changes in the woman's body chemistry after she is impregnated lower the man's testosterone level and incline him to stick around to protect mom and baby. A man hopped up on testosterone would be inclined to wander off to find other females to impregnate and may even be a danger to his own offspring. (It being added this is why you tend to see a higher incidence of child abuse in families with step-fathers. Evolutionary habits are alive and well.)

For the female, on the other hand, is only capable of bearing one child at a time and it requires all her energy to feed and care for it. Therefore she is, again in evolutionary terms, looking for the alpha male. The male with healthy sperm - suggested by penis size, but that is another story - to sire healthy babies. Then after to that to find food for mom and baby as well as ward off rival males and predators.

Suffice to say, built in to all of this is a natural imperative. The man wants a lot more sex than the woman. He has lots of sperm, but she can only bear and nurse one child at a time. (Twins, of course, are not the norm and, in nature, were apt not to survive.) So women are generally less willing to have sex at an instinctive level.

Of course, man is the only being on Earth who is more than the sum of, and can transcend, the sum of his instincts. Other creatures live by instinct, but man (and women) can choose. However, life in society just reinforces the general instinct.

Raising children in an economically, technologically and culturally complex society is even more expensive and, paradoxically, women cannot rely on male instincts. The burden of raising children - not to mention the 9 month burdens of pregnancy - fall inherently on women.

To be sure, the laws and technology - see also birth control - are modifying this and mitigating it. However, even the law and technology cannot change basic biological realities and so women act more cautiously. Again, in general, as the rising incidence of out of wedlock births suggests, this is a tendency and not a hard rule. Still, it is broadly true.

alex202020 · Accepted Answer

Not that hard to figure out why either the repercussions from sex are far more dangerous then for that of men. I couldn't imagine straight a bunch of chicks and then having turn creature developing in my stomach and also the stigma if that guy goes talking to all his friends your stock has just gone way down and with men it's high fives all around and then a little spin move. got the Bee Gees singing in the background " oh you can tell by the way I walk and talk on a woman's man that's what I am" and for the woman she's not finishing high school or college or whatever.. so that's one reason. The other reason is naked women looks so nice and we men like their private parts and they got more of them. They got the boobies in the top than the buns in the bangs in the boons. Men only have a trouser snake. Talk to women about it man very common for a woma woman and not be disgusted by the thought of being with another woman what they know is attractive I don't care how good you look in your man I'm not up for that.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Contrary to porn, all sex is not good sex. In fact, for women, most sex is bad sex ie does not feel "good" or can downright hurt if with an inadequate, inattentive, or selfish partner. Women have different sexual response cycles while men, particularly young horny immature men have very short cycles. 2 minutes of "sex" is not going to be worth the risks of :
-slut shaming
-stis
-pregnancy
-it could be painful
- it could be boring
- overcoming years of media perpetuated body insecurities
- lying to friends and family
- is this guy going to talk and spread rumors about me
- is this guy going to "film or record it" which could damage my entire career prospects for life
-if I want to stop halfway through because it is painful or does not feel good is he going to get angry and continue, get angry and seek revenge, or actually respect me and the fact my experience is different than his
-etc
For the record I would also like to state that "longer sex" does not also correlate to "better more pleasurable" sex, if the partner is horribly unskilled and unwilling to take the time to take feedback and adjust techniques accordingly.

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

-women are biologically more susceptible to STIs, as well as negative side effects such a cervical cancer
-women can get pregnant
-continuing on the previous point, the onus on organizing and actually using protection often falls on the woman
-negative cultural/religious stigma tending to fall on the woman’s shoulder in sexual contexts will often make it difficult or even impossible to arrange the above
-slut shaming prevents many women from pursuing anyone to save face or even remain safe, in some more extreme cases

laurieluvsit · Answer

Because girls are the ones that have the babies and the guys that are wanting every girl they see to have sex with them are the first ones to run off and leave her alone with their newborns... does that sound fair?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The consequences are more real for woman if something goes wrong - she has a higher body count with her next lover who might judge her for it - she might get pregnant and have to be a single mom and do all the house work and child rearing and work while the guy who got her pregnant has no duties other than giving her a bit of money each month - its tough - plus woman are less likely to have sex with no attachment and men are much more likely to have sex with a girl and feel absolutely nothing the next day

katiesmuff · Answer

Probably because the girls you are asking are still wearing diapers!

SucreFleur · Answer

If you mean not willing to have it with strangers then yes 👍 I do not see why anyone can be intimate with someone they do not know, because they can do harmful things to them.

whitlee34 · Answer

I'm the total opposite. I'm always at level 110 and men are like 55

MarthaStewert · Answer

Because women want love not sex.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Not always the case, age and scenario dependent. Women have serious responsibilities out of it and societal pressures limit them, although that has changed a lot in the west.

hsshannah96 · Answer

Because usually guys view us as objects  I don’t want to have sex and give my body to just anybody

rflulling · Answer

Simple, women stand to loose more from the encounter than men. Never mind the resulting emotional attachment. Just keep in mind. You don't have to know anything about it to end up owing child support! lol

dogcrazylady1993 · Answer

Not being on birth control and Fear of getting pregnant and having to raise a kid on their own

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Not in any particular order;
A few come to mind below:
1. They're not of legal and/or moral age to engage in sexual activities yet.
2. They're beginning to realize the value of self respect.
3. They're afraid of getting STDs.
4. They're afraid of getting pregnant.
5. They're influenced of hardcore feminism values.
6. There is a lack of (any kind of) attraction.
7. The (potential) partner's over-eagerness or aggressiveness is turning them off.
8. They see guys (or girls) as creepy.
9. They're simply asexual.

summiter · Answer

First of all they stand the chance of getting pregnant, others are conscious of their body image and then during their period some girls do not like sex ( some do)

Apple1996 · Answer

I think its biological. We are trying to pick out the perfect mate to have baby with. Like why would we not be picky about that?

ChronicThinker · Answer

We have more to lose in a situation where we just casually have sex.

1) Our reputation can go down. We become the "easy girl," "the slut," "the irresponsible one."
2) We can get pregnant. AND if we choose to abort, we're bad people. If we choose to KEEP IT, then we're "ruining the poor guy's life" who doesn't want the child.
3) If you have sex with someone you're not familiar with and you decide you no longer want to, you're an asshole, a tease, or you can even be put into a dangerous situation.
4) Fucking STDs.
5) If we REALLY like you but have sex with you "too quickly," you'll suddenly decide we aren't "girlfriend material" (not in every case with every guy of course)
6) If we have sex with someone we really like it can easily turn into a situation where all the other person wants is "something casual."

So... why would we just jump right into sex exactly?

ZackBan · Answer

It's all relative to the person. Some are some aren't same for men. You simply have met the wrong women, and seeing how you're only 14 you're still not old enough to go places like nightclubs and and bars where women actually loosen up and have lots of sex.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

Firstly, your age says you're 14, you haven't even made it through puberty yet.
Secondly, different ladies have different standards. Some ladies don't want to have sex right off the bat. Since you're 14, if your trying for girls who are older than you, they might be concerned about the laws and girls your own age might not be ready to have sex.
Just make sure to use protection, kid, it would be devastating to lose your childhood and early 20s because you had a child so young.

BCA6010 · Answer

At your age that's pretty normal. In a few years the tables will turn and you'll be wondering why the women have gotten so promiscuous at best and trashy at worst.

Tamera952 · Answer

It’s because females are not physically driven on a hormonal, chemical, and physiological level that males are and females have their emotions all intertwined and wrapped up in sex —whereas men clearly don’t — For men it’s very straightforward it’s a physical act, physical pleasure, the end.
Women get their emotions involved in their Twat and it confuses everything that goes on ‘downstairs’ and they make it about something that it’s not.

normalice · Answer

Pretty much the exact same reason that men are less willing to have commited relationships than women. Priorities.

Luckyman3541 · Answer

Tbh I think it's an act because they don't want to be judge. Most girls I've been with (granted not a ton) were actually the one to initiate sex the first time. In at least half my relationship experience the girl has also had a higher sex drive too. Maybe I just attract sex crazy women or maybe that's just women in general but it's a secret

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