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What's the best way to reduce the pain from anal?

So before this quarantine I was getting into rough sex. This guy I am hooking up with is so hot and I love being dominated but he is kinda extreme with it. He slowly started getting more and more rough and I just got addicted. He started slapping and choking me, deepthroating me until I gag, hair pulling and skull dragging. Just man handling me. I am addicted. I've never been so into sex. I was a little shy around anal but one day he just told me he is going into my ass and it was sooo hot. Trouble is, pain.

I started crying because it hurt, he stopped and it just killed the mood. Well, this quarantine sucks and I've been at home sooo horny all day. We keep sexting and he wants me to play with my ass. I've been trying but it hurts so much to put anything up there. I don't wanna dissapoint him when corona goes away. Any girls have some tips on how to take it like a slut? I'm so excited to try these things
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  • I’m also really into slapping, choking, hair pulling, ass slapping, etc. when having sex with a woman. Although, you really have to make sure she’s into it and even then you have to be judicious with how much force or energy you’re using so you don’t actually hurt her. There should be some pain, but nothing to make her very comfortable. It should be pleasing, combining pleasure and pain.

    For anal, the best resources are all online, so you can look up “anal 101” or “how to do anal” and you’ll find expert advice to keep you safe. Of course, easing yourself into it using smaller objects and building up, as well as lube can be the best way to go. This might be a gradual process, not something you’ll want to jump into overnight. Either way, if it hurts still no matter how much you prepare then perhaps it’s best to just not venture into anal at all.

  • Follow these steps:

    1) get yourself a 6" to 7" glass butt plug and coconut oil.

    2) in the bedroom, assume position and relax.

    3) get your SO to lubricate insert the plug and insert it slowly into you.

    IMPORTANT: there should be ZERO pain. If there is, tell him to stop, take it out and try again. Add more lube if necessary.

    Repeat and relax. The vacuum in your anus will slowly suck the plug in without pain.

    4) get up, hug, kiss, walk around. Get use to the plug inside you for about 10 minutes.

    5) remove the plug (slowly, no pain if done right), wear a condom and lube up his manhood.

    Assume position and let him penetrate.

    Have fun. Anal is pleasurable, so no pressure.

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  • If *YOU* really want to do this, try working yourself up with some plugs of varying sizes. Also, 'pre-lube' some silicone with a syringe. If you know you are going to play that night, maybe leave one in for the day to keep things 'relaxed.' Some stretching is key, as is learning about your muscles. Bearing down, like your trying to go poo, can also help with 'accepting.' The anus will generally return to normal as long as you don't 'blow it out', by going real big, real fast. I had an old book by Tristian Tamorino (https://puckerup.com/smart/ ) that was my guide.

    This is some of what works for me, and I think I can take it like a porn-star. 😋😋😋😋 I've also pegged several guys, but that's a different story.

  • Apparently you had some mental defect at birth and have a genetic need to be trounced by someone. I would say if you don't want pain from anal then don't do anal, but you sound more like a troll than a genuine post as you sound just too extreme to be real. Either that or you are totally nuts.

    • And I can guess what kind of person the downvoter is. He is the one on the other end doing this stuff to her. That kind of person watches too much porn and rape videos. I can see him now with his whip and the ball gag he is ready to put on her.

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  • You subconsciously are probably tensing up your asshole knowing it might hurt and then because of that, it does. Just try to relax your body down there and most of all, use a shit ton of lub.

  • Pain during anal can be broken down into 3 types
    1: unrelaxed sphincter. Usually feels like you've fallen on your butt or had elastic band twanged against it.
    2: Insufficient lubrication. Gives a burning scratchy sensation
    3: penis hitting rectosigmoid junction too hard. a dull thud thud deep pain. Try a different position.

  • You just keep doing it and the pain goes away and it feels amazing then.

    • Also... Sluts don't have kinky sex like anal only us crazy Bitches who love to have sex know how to take it and men love it!

    • Another Xper 1 jumping like a fly on shit at these anal sex posts. You should post as yourself and not some fake pink account. The more a girl makes herself out to be some horny slut that would do anything, the more she sounds like a guy talking, because the guys love giving, but would cry like a baby if some girl shoved a 10 inch Dildo up his ring piece. They can dish it out but they can't take it.

    • Seems somebody has never had good sex before. Don't mistake what you see here bc anything I post about is pure fact. I don't need to make shit up about myself bc I way more interesting than words can describe. Sorry your having a hard time getting someone who knows what they are doing give you a good fuck.

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  • Tell him slow motion your tears should be happy tears not pain slow slow and deep

  • I am not a fan of anal. However...
    Give yourself an enema before sexy time. I need not explain.
    Deeply lube with a water-base lube. You anus does not wet itself.

  • Muscle relaxers. "Poppers" is a famous one but there are others that work

    • Honestly I'd ask gay men before girls, th in its literally the only way they have sex so they would know...

  • best way to lessen the pain is to stop doing it

  • Admit it, you actually get turned on by the fucckin pain you little pain s1ut!

    >;-)~~<

  • Definitely only do it cause you want to but what I do you should use your finger first with some lube and you should slowly put it in and then you can decide if you like the feeling of it. But it's definitely lots of preparation before it happens too hope this helps you

  • Don't do it.

  • Don't do it.

  • Don't do it...

  • Lots of lube? 😕

  • Use plenty of lube take your time start out with something small

  • Id say it's best to get some rest for a few days and do softer sex only without anal. If it still hurts after a few days youd better go to a doctor.

  • 2 liters.

  • There is a special lube called anal-eez or you can buy Oragel from the baby section and mix it in with some regular lube.
    Also, taking 3 extra strength Tylenol before hand will help. If you were my woman, I would just put your panties in your mouth to bite on and use your pain to make you cry and sob... and just keep pulling out of your ass when it gets dry and wipe my dick on your face to wet it with your tears so I can use them as lube.

  • You shouldn't risk your own health to indulge in sexually depraved acts - either yours or your sexual partner.

  • Start slowly, massage the area for a little while using your preferred brand of lube, massage nice and slow til your comfortable with the next step. Inserting a finger. Try different fingers til you find the one your comfortable with sliding in and out. All the while stopping every so often to massage the area then go back to the finger. This time try 2. If you can't do 2 right away go back to one. Don't get discouraged. This takes time. Eventually you'll be able to get 4 fingers in there and your boyfriend should be happy with your willingness and open mindedness to stretch your hole for him. Please keep me updated and if you need further information let me know. Good luck!

  • Use a LOT of lube

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