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Why isn’t he ever horny when I’m horny?

I must be still getting over the last leg of my period because I’m super bitchy! So this is all the time but currently this week Tuesday night I was super horny he was not. Wednesday night he starts making the moves but I had already contained my horniness. It was my bday and we did have great sex. So Thursday night I’m all fired up! Missed him all day. Nope! He’s tired. This morning I can’t take it I’m super horny and half asleep. I grab his arm over me for cuddles and shove my butt against him. Now I’m pretty sure I dreamed most of this but I thought I was grinding my butt into him. Nope. He turns over his back is stiff. He had literally just turned to face me. I guess I fell back asleep cause I woke up alone. So far he hasn’t given me the time of day today. I swear to god if he kisses on me tonight I’m gonna get up and be like nope. Had your chance Mister!

Lord give me strength to resist being grouchy with him and having sex with him!
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Most Helpful Girls

  • What is it with guys being less horny than women these days? Wait till you are together for a long time. My friend told me last week that she and her boyfriend haven't had sex in a year. She has always been extremely sexual ever since I've known her. They now agreed on a half open relationship so she can get satisfied. She is a stewardess, so when she is abroad, she can hook up with other men at hotels. She is really happy of course, and the pilots are having the time of their life, but I wonder how her boyfriend feels, knowing a bunch of guys are unloading their balls in his girl without having to commit or put in effort or anything. Knowing her, it won't be soft sex once every two months. I remember her having more than 1 guy at a time, breaking the bed, etc.

    • Wow! I don’t know

  • you need to set "expectations" with men. They do not read signals and often direct "I want sex now" still goes over their heads.

    99% of men think sex is all about them...

    Women don't have sexual feelings UNLESS the man does and "telepathically" tells his woman she is now allowed to want sex...

    arggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

    • Yeah I’ve literally done obvious things and he’s so oblivious. Men are dumb

    • What I have done is "make appt" for my man... either an official card or post it note, telling him I am GONNA have sex tonight and he BETTER be in the MOOD!!! Men are able to get hard pretty fast, as evidenced by the other night, he said he was too tired for sex, but then I was changing my clothes and next I know, he is behind me, arms around me, caressing my baby bump and kissing me.. Yeah, he was too tired... Your man sounds like he just needs "stimulation" and "encouragement"... PM me if you want some specific things I do to get what I want and need...

    • I don't know that I would quite word it as you did. But what I can tell you is that sometimes no spoken invitation is necessary. Temptation and anticipation ALWAYS 'activate' me. MEN ARE VERY VISUAL AND TACTILE. Give him peeks of your body at close range. Bend over in front of him either facing or away, whichever he prefers! When walking past him brush against his arm with your fingernails gently or less subtly sit in his lap and grind your behind into his crotch. Maybe reach down and playfully rub, feel or grab something. It NEVER FAILS WITH ME!

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Most Helpful Guys

  • With this virus shit a lot of people’s minds are all over the place And people are stressing and dealing with anxiety so to be on the same wave length with someone right now is a difficult time So I wouldn’t really hold it against him when he isn’t in the mood when you are vice versa , statistic shows a lot of marriages and relationships are going to go through a tough time during this virus crap and yes statistics show a lot of people are horny as hell at this time as well so best thing to do for your partner is be supportive even if you aren’t getting the affection you are desiring from him at this time , when he c’s that you are being supportive no matter what you will get the D lol

  • Don't confuse what you think you're conveying and the actual message he might be recieving. If you want to fuck. Tell him. If you want to suck his dick, offer. If you want him to tie you up and treat you like the bad girl you are clearly being then express your desires and come up with a safeword.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I know the feeling, me and my boyfriend are the same. He always knows how to turn me on tho.

  • Maybe he’s just not horny?

    • He seems to be every once in a while and it’s usually when I’m not

    • Well maybe either he has a low sex drive or he’s not very attracted to you or it’s fizzling or something

    • He does have a low sex drive.

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  • do you ever say no to sex?

    • Nope. But I’m not in the mood right now so I’m gonna start

    • that's a good plan

  • I hate that

  • Ok sex isn't everything

    You choose to stay in this relationship because sex isn't what's keeping you in it

    • Of course! I’m just pissed off

  • It would be easier if you were both just always, “horny”. Certainly makes things leas complicated.

  • Welcome to real life. Sometimes he'll be ready and you won't and somtimes vice versa. It's a balancing act, both you guys are going to have to learn to take care of the other, even when you're not feeling it.

    • I always do what he wants

    • I gather that from your posts. And he needs to do the same. I would lile to hear his side of it.

  • LOL Period is never, and i do mean NEVER an excuse to be bitchy.. Hormones or not, you can control your self.

    Now for the rest of your question.. Talk to him about it.. and honestly you both need to make an effort.. When he isn't in the mood you need to find a way to get him in the mood, and he needs to be more receptive.. same goes for you by the way.. this is a two way street..

    My wife and i do this for eachother... oh and on the period thing.. my wife is never ever bitchy to me on her period... We had that discussion 7 years ago, that if she couldnt control her self on her period, there is the door.

  • Not sure tbh

  • If he's not horny when you are then make him horny yeah? Havd you ever heard of seduction?

    • No he literally turns over and goes to sleep when he doesn’t want to. There is no persuading him

    • Omg I'm so sorry. He maybe has a very low sex drive, it's known that some guys don't crave it soooo much coz he knows hell get it whenever he wants

    • He does have a low sex drive

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  • Good luck! Do hope you both have a great fuck!

    • Sadly I don’t really want to

    • Bummer!

  • Don't play games with the pussy or ass. It's called sex as a weapon and very unattractive!

    • Then he need to respect when I want to do things

    • Maybe, but being immature trumps a whole lot of what you call "respect"!

  • My guess is he had to hit on you first

  • You could... i dont know... talk to him? Also, if this hasn't been going on for a really long time i think you need to realize dude's not always going to be horny when you want him..

    • We have talked over and over

  • Well you both need to more aware of the other ones feelings and not be spiteful

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