I once gave my boss a blowjob. Is it normal that my boyfriend is so jealous?

Question

I work as a receptionist, but studied massage therapy. I used to do it at home every weekend to make some extra cash. Right before I was with my boyfriend, my boss asked me for a massage. He is quite the womanizer so I expected some advances I guess. I noticed at a certain point he had a huge boner and didn't really hide it. Then from one thing came the other. He asked for a blowjob and I gave him one. It was really stupid of me, but it happened and I can't take it back. Luckily it didn't get too weird at work after that.

Now we did a bbq with some of my best friends and we got pretty drunk. My friends brought up the fact that I have jerked off a few friends during a massage. I saw my boyfriend just laughed along but it annoyed him. Then my best friend hinted that my boss (who my boyfriend hates) got a little more and I had to tell the story. My boyfriend was clearly annoyed. They asked him if he was angry but he said it was ok. But now I notice he is jealous and asks a lot about my boss (if I saw him, talked to him, who his wife is, etc.). I also found out that he is constantly googling him and checks all his social media.

Is it normal that he is this jealous? We never talked about details, but he knew I was far from a prude and open to casual sex when I was single. What is it that makes him jealous?

SomeGuyCalledTom · Accepted Answer

Of course he's jealous, you spend every day working for a man who's had his dick in your mouth. This is why you should never mix business with pleasure, it comes back to bite you. I'm not gonna chastise you for being sexually active while single, but surely you must've foreseen something like this happening. It so doesn't help that your boss has a perceived superiority of status coz he's your employer and a known womanizer, of course your boyfriend is threatened, his response is entirely appropriate. Also why are your friends openly discussing your past sexual encounters right in front of your boyfriend? Seems pretty disrespectful, you should've honoured your man by telling them to mind their business.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

It happened before he came on the scene, so to speak. Tell him to leave the past where it belongs, in the past.

LingyRolls · Accepted Answer

Well it's humiliating as a man being in his position with his girlfriend still working under the boss and still having those male friends. Also, probably the biggest thing that caused this jealousy, is the fact that he had to find out from other people, and publicly. If you never told him about that, what else aren't you telling him? Don't get me wrong, I'm very sexual and have done many many similar things. But I am always open, upfront, and honest with my man and I haven't run into issues like that.

Mia-Wallace · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say he's necessarily "jealous". He seems angry and insecure that you hid this kind of sexual activity that you had. Maybe he wouldn't even start a relationship with you if he knew.

But even if he's in fact jealous, he has good reason to be. You're still working for a rich guy who had his cock in your mouth in a heartbeat. He fears he could do it again.

RoastedCharms · Answer

Makes total sense for him to be jealous. One an event like that happens, the feelings always tend to linger, as much as you think they may not... They do.

stanstraykids · Answer

he is indeed jealous

Dinklex3 · Answer

I mean.. its normal to be annoyed when rubbing past relationships (pure sexual ones) in his face.  Googling and checking social media seems a bit excessive but I can understand his initial discomfort.

Dargil · Answer

You had to ask this?

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Yes is norla, eslecialy if he hate you're boss.

winterfox10 · Answer

Of course it's normal... you work with someone you had intimate contact with. It doesn't matter if you were single at the time, you can't unsuck your boss's dick.

Hinky · Answer

I'm all for a freaky girl, but if you did that, as what you thought was a REAL massage therapist, you are wrong. You are not a massage therapist. You are literally an escort who doesn't charge for escorting. As someone married Tina former LMT, I can tell you two things, you are CERTAINLY A DISGRACE TO THE PROFESSION and the other thing is... when are you I'm tampa, I need a massage...

AgataO2 · Answer

He is jealous, it is normal because that other guy is still your boss

hhH2traveler · Answer

Well, you should of told him since it was so soon before you started dating him especially, and I’m sure he doesn't think its fair that your boss got to have sex with you and he doesn't even like your boss. But this happens, you didn't do it on purpose to hurt him. Just remind him that your not having sex with your boss and that your having sex with him now.

Aaron_Stone · Answer

What I can say clearly is that you're the who isn't normal.  He clearly is normal man.

Gedaria · Answer

It's not usually in your jobs discription. Did you get anything out of it?

Twalli · Answer

Probably he doesn't like the idea that everyone knows. Plus you swallowed the semen of someone he hates. Plus you are still un close contact with him, even if it only happened once

KrakenAttackin · Answer

I would dump you if I were your boyfriend.

Kenwoodman · Answer

I would never have a serious relationship with some one like you. Clearly a hook up and not wife material

MeatPuppet · Answer

Giving sexual favors to a supervisor is unethical regardless.

slicwhenwet · Answer

He can feel jealous about it but this was before him and if he can't move past it then it is a problem. As long as he has all your attentions now he has nothing to dwell on.