Great question!
It's a tough one, really. Because as a man, our minds can be saying one thing while our body says another. For example, your boyfriend might be okay with it philosophically, but once he gets in the bed with you, his instincts might kick in and he might still try to have sex with you. But that's because of a biological urge, not because he changed his mind about what he agreed to. So you might have to push him off a couple of times. But if he's a decent and respectful person then he will (resignedly) accept your [sexual] rejections. Just be prepared for that to be an issue you will have to deal with.
As far as me, personally, I probably won't want to sleep in the same bed with my wife until after I marry her. Because I just don't want to take the risk of losing my virginity before the appropriate time. It's not that I don't trust myself if she DIDN'T want it, but I don't know if I can trust myself if she DID want it. Just being honest. I can make good decisions during the daytime, but after a certain hour I'm not to be trusted. Just keeping it real. If it's 3am and you wake me up with a handjob, I'm most likely going to let you finish; I'm not going to refuse.
For this reason, I believe in sleeping in separate beds before the wedding (and separate rooms if at all possible.)
After the wedding, though, if my wife wants to sleep together without doing anything, I would be totally fine with that. I think it's perfectly reasonable to have a transitional period in order to get more comfortable and ease into sex eventually. (But if she wanted to fuck right away then I would be down with that as well.)
P. S., though: I think it was cool how Eric and Donna slept in the same bed together. I thought it was really sweet.
Thanks for the MHO! :)
Tell him you aren't ready. My girlfriend was originally not going to have sex with me the first night she slept over. We'd done oral and slept together naked and all, but we weren't originally going to have sex. That should work if he respects your wishes. Maybe to make it easier to resist temptation have you both sleep in undergarments or pajamas. My girlfriend will usually sleep naked, but if she's on her period she'll keep her panties on. Therefore I can only assume that most women sleep in their panties sometimes. Depending on your cup size sleeping in a bra as well could also be more comfortable.
If the guy really likes you, he’ll be cool with that. He may masturbate when he thinks you’re asleep though.
Not always true. He'll be cool and more happy in making you feel safe and comfortable rather than jacking off by himself
@Tstrbrainer that’s really sweet 💕
That experiment would be impossible to perform anyway
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Well, from where I am right now this is almost something I desperately want, just someone to hold me tight
Yes.
No, of course not
Perhaps I'm missing something... I thought the idea of sleeping in the same bed WAS to share sex. That's a huge temptation. At the risk of being rude, it's almost like asking a recovering alcoholic to meet you at the pub.
I am getting mixed messages now... and I don't even know you!
Sometimes it’s for sex but it can also be just to enjoy each other’s company.
I'm fine with it, but I'm not that needy and I'm used to it. I'd say that at all these ages, not just my current age. I'm more focused upon her comfort. Some people do not think that way and are selfish..."I want..." and don't care as much about the other. If that's the type of person, then it will be a problem.
So choose wisely the personality that has respect, honor, consideration, empathy.
quick blow job
its that
or he jacks off and watchs some hetai.
I Probably wouldn’t want to have sex nor would i expect it. But that’s just me
My girlfriend and i almost never have sex
When i get home from work i wanna go to bed, Not have sex.
We cuddle. Kiss each other good night and fall asleep.
Yeah no. Yes I would be so frustrated it would be very difficult. However spooning while hard is possible and it leaves the guy frustrated, but mildly satisfied and without blue balls (possibly). It is literally painful for men to experience high sexual tension for hours on end without satisfaction. I wouldn't do it unless it was necessary to save the relationship. And I would definitely judge a girl who would inflict pain on me, if she didn't have a very good reason.
If I knew going in that she did not fwel ready I would be ok...
A little detail will give a better answer. What would happen. What wouldn't?
I would be comfortable cuddling, making out, or whatever else we’d gotten up to at that point in the relationship, but I wouldn’t have penetrative sex with him. I probably wouldn’t be comfortable being nude around him either yet.
I could still work with it. As long as she makes me cum by some means, I'm good.
Yes I would be. I am not a dick and would allow it. But id wonder if she is the girl who would have a sexless marriage.
A female should have the sense to avoid sleeping in the same bed with a male if she doesn't want to have sex! And when a female let's a man long in advance that she doesn't want to have sex at some future time, she has psychological problems she needs to deal with herself
Normal females don't worry about future sex. If they don't really feel like it, but the guy wants her, she'll lay down just for him, because it's female duty.
Depends on the communication
What's the point?
And no, don't do that. Next you'll say he raped you. Dear lord.
Tried that, but never worked.
We fucked.
Sometimes I'd want that too.
Lol your question isn't possible to answer-- if I'm not fucking her, she isn't my girlfriend. She's just a friend who is a girl.
Not fair you have to cuddle at least then sleep or even. Hug is fine
It's a perfectly understandable and reasonable request if you see each other often.
To be honest, I look forward to that kind of night. Nights where there is no nookie can make or break a relationship now. Conversations, how you act, what you do, everything that is you is basically put under a microscope and judged. Sounds scary, but that's how you get a better feel for a person overtime.
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