Do guys find it to be a turn off if a girl is a virgin?

Question

I'm 19 and still a virgin. I'm not waiting for marriage, but just the right person that I want to have sex with. I've met a lot of guys that are only interested in sex, and I didn't want to lose my virginity to guys who only saw me as a one night stand. I'm talking to a guy that I like, and if the time came to us having sex I'm afraid he'll think it's weird I'm still a virgin, or a turn off cause I'm not very experienced. Would most guys think that way?

JstForSmiles · Accepted Answer

Even in my early 20's, I always hated the idea that I was might change someone else forever. Most guys seemed to enjoy the idea of "deflowering" a girl/woman. I disliked the idea because if the relationship didn't work, I would have somehow felt guilty... for changing her forever and leaving her.
A lack of experience is NEVER a turn off. A lack of enthusiasm, or lack of genuine interest, is the world's biggest turn-off! A lack of experience is a turn-on... unless I am about to taint her purity forever.

0112358 · Accepted Answer

Most guys find the idea of sex with a virgin hot. most are not as keen on not-having sex with virgins. Some (not all) guys who want hookups only think virgins are either a waste of their time or will get attached.

But generally relationship minded guys like virgins assuming they're on a path to sexual compatibility relatively quickly.

Chriscunning · Answer

At your age I would only want a virgin (provided we got into a relationship). But now that I am older I wouldn't want a virgin. I am a lot older than 19 :-)

Madhatter920 · Answer

I think most guys would find it a turn on, actually. I know I personally would prefer to be with a virgin. I just accept that at my age it's very unlikely.

Grkgod12 · Answer

If he cares about you, it doesn't matter! How long have you been together with him?

SjE78 · Answer

tbh some do most dont, me personally i have dated virgins and experienced women alike and in every case they were a huge turn on

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

Not a turn off.

F-eight · Answer

There's nothing wrong with that and those who do find it as a turn off are the actual turn offs. And no most guys would not think the same way. He should obviously know why you haven't had sex yet and that if you do have it with him, why he's the one you're doing it with too. As far as I've seen, many of the guys want virgins to marry and settle. That's what a turn off is.

Dargil · Answer

Not necessarily. If you are totally abstinent, there's nowhere to go and I will need advancing sexual intimacy to remain interested. If you are deferring intercourse, I can work with that.

Passinggas · Answer

My girlfriend is 19 and was and we are staying together. No, that is a wonderful thing actually.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Nah guys don't really judge a girl for being virgin; as long as you're willing to explore new things then he won't mind. There are plenty of promiscuous girls who just lie in bed like a dead starfish. And there's plenty of virgin girls who get turned on just by the thought of having sex, and want to make it a good time for all involved.

imafreak67 · Answer

Nope not at all

MannMitAntworten · Answer

No. Besides, it isn’t something I even asked when I dating during puberty. The only way I would know is if they told me. Still, it wasn’t a big deal either way.

es20490446e · Answer

At 18 a turn on. At 30 a turn off 🤣

genericname85 · Answer

absolutely not turned off. but it's certainly not a "bonus" or something. it's just a fact. as a non virgin, you don't tend to give a crap about virginity XD

one1wild00 · Answer

No, it's not a turn off, rather the reverse for me. I'd like to be able to open a gal up at least once in my life and teach her the joys of sex. work with her so it is good for her.

willisg · Answer

You are ok, we don't judge that because it's nothing to judge. At least they wouldn't be worried about getting VD.

SeanshterMonster · Answer

I'd say it's more of a turn on to be her first. But in the end. It doesn't matter whether she is a virgin or not. Love is love and the relationship itself is more important.

MountAverage · Answer

A lot of insecure creeps find it a turn on, most guys neither find it a turn on nor a turn off, and a lot of other guys find it a turn off simply because at their (older) age it would just be weird.