My girlfriend gets dry pretty quickly & easily - how can I keep her wet?

[Buckzor]

So last night I noticed this again and we talked about it. She dries up quickly (it was because of the fan mostly this time) but in general she does unless she takes 100% control but she loves it when I take control more. It's also a mental thing as she gets stuck in her own head unless she's feeling lots of pleasure (aka a rough/fast fuck).

That's also why she doesn't like to have "long" sex, and tries to make me finish myself off quick by a "fast fuck" since it'll get uncomfortable & painful for her.

I don't want that to be her thoughts on sex, so does anyone else suffer from this & how can I keep her wet / make her wet throughout?

If I notice i'll go down on her but it's not the same as her being wet like she usually is when we first have sex - she specifically said that the first time I penetrate her when she's wet it feels really good, so how do I keep her turned on?

I can't finger her unless it's at the start. I give her oral and I rub her clit after I finish everytime - but i've really been struggling to get her off, she dries up and it's just not as easy with her specifically.

We used a vibrator last night, and she got herself off that way. But she also said she can't get herself off from penetration like AT ALL.

To be honest, it made me feel an inadequate lover - the fact she needs a vibrator to get off with me. She said it shouldn't emasculate me and that it's just a fun addition to sex. How would other guys feel, and is it wrong for me to feel shit about her using one with me?

[longtimenotagoodtime]

A LOT of women can't finish just from penetration so don't worry about that, its fairly normal. In terms of orgasms you might just have to get good at using your fingers or mouth for clit stimulation to get her to cum. A lot of couples will make love until the guy cums then he will finish her off in whatever way they enjoy. If she has trouble staying wet then you might need to buy some lube. Sometimes my girlfriend needs a bit of lube and its actually a bit of a feedback loop. The lube makes it slide easier, which feels good for her and then once it feels good it gets her natural wetness restarted.

Also, don't be afraid to explore ways of giving her orgasms without your penis being involved. There are endless possibilities in that department. My girlfriend loves 2 fingers in the vagina, just moving VERY slowly while I rub or suck her clit but every girl is different.

Also, don't be afraid of the vibrator. Its just a tool. Instead of her using the vibrator why don't you "take control" of the vibrator and use it on her while she just puts her head back and enjoys it. Furthermore, you can buy one of the big massager style vibrators like a hitachi wand or body wand. They are fun because in some positions you can hold it on her clit while you have sex and it will make her cum while your inside her or you can just take turns using it on each other because those "massager" style vibes also commonly make guys cum as well.

[whitlee34]

...🔥 HOT!!

[Buckzor]

I know that's normal - i've done a crazy amount of research. And I cum first, then I either rub her clit, or give her oral, she doesn't like fingering after like I mentioned. Maybe lube's an idea, i'll bring it up. She doesn't like anything "slow" because her mind wanders, that seems to be the main issue. Which is also an issue as naturally she dries up with faster movements & more friction. I guess i'll have to experiment more and just ask her what she likes. I tried that, then she ended up just taking it off me and using it herself. I really don't have any interest in the other stuff sadly, again it makes me feel inadequate, maybe i'll warm up to it. I have no issue getting off, well I guess it's probably too quick but yeah.

[AustinMan]

Google long lasting vaginal lubricants and see what you find. I'm confident there're products out there to help.

[Buckzor]

I'll have a look, thanks.

[whitlee34]

My Vaseline

[AustinMan]

@whitlee34 NOT good at all. Destroys condoms and isn't good for mucus membranes. Water based lubes are much better and slipperier.

[whitlee34]

Oh... see I don't use condoms so I didn't know

[whitlee34]

😂 Aww shit... get out of your feelings. Your not inadequate your just getting started. Dame.. when I was 22!! Wow!! I have to learn bc I didn't anything like GAG. If I wanted to know about sex then I HAD to ask MOM! Yikes bc I didn't wanna ask my mom would you?😂

Now... message me and I can definitely help you out with your sex life.

[Buckzor]

It sure makes me feel inadequate, I haven't got her off myself the last maybe 5-10 times we've had sex. Although I have got her off early in the relationship which doesn't really make sense. Do you really think you can help?

[whitlee34]

I guarantee you I can give you some advice now it's up to you do do it.

[lawhawk84]

Use lube