Guys, Why doesn’t he want to be fwb?

[Anonymous]

I’ve known this guy for a few years now. We’ve talked here and there and have hung out in groups.

I’m recently out of a serious relationship with a man I was very much in love with. That being said, a woman has sexual needs.

The guy I’ve known reached out to me on insta and we started talking again. Things got hot... virtually. I asked him if he wants to be friends with benefits, no drama and no commitment. I really just want sex every so often but I don’t like one night stands with strangers.

He told me that he would love that and it sounds great but he can’t be friends with benefits... IRL. He said “only look but no touch.” He doesn’t have a girlfriend or anything, he lives alone, doesn’t have STDs... so I don’t understand why he doesn’t want friends with benefits but he still wants to have video sex and I know that he’s very physically attracted to me. I thought friends with benefits was a man’s dream situation. What’s wrong?

[Anonymous]

Probably the same reason why some women won't, they don't want to get attached. He might know that about himself? Maybe he's been down that road before? Not everyone is capable of having that kind of "relationship", some just can't do it, both men and women.

I learned that about myself. I've had only 1 fwbs but I know now I can't do it because I become attached. Yes it's more common for this to happen with women, but it does happen to some guys as well.

You might ask why the video sex then? Because there's no intimacy there.

[Dargil]

Guessing he's holding back for a committed type relationship. He knows you don't want that so he can't advance with you. He might also be concerned about being a rebound partner.

[Red_Arrow]

You need to ask him. But it sounds like you need to be looking for someone else. Most guys would jump at the chance. You should be able to be very picky in choosing one.

[Madhatter920]

Not every man is the same. Some men feel uncomfortable having sex outside of a relationship.

[ecfresh]

He doesn’t want to get you pregnant

[AynonOMouse]

Maybe he wants a relationship instead. Not everybody is into sex outside of a relationship.

[one1wild00]

He may think that he couldn't keep it at friends with benefits as he may have or get feelings for you.

[tim7610]

He may not be into friends with benefits at all. He probably would want to be in a relationship before having sex

[Shamalien]

just goes to show you don't know men as well as you think you do

most women don't, their stereotypes are totally misplaced

in the world im looking at, there are more relationship material men than women

[Jerre]

Sounds strange to me. I love friends with benefits and we all love to fuck. Don’t know what his problem is...

[Anonymous]

Wtf? Yoo naaa drop him. Dang man, why is it when male ask a female answer is no. When a female ask many guys she hears a yes. But this dude says no. If I was get to asked. I will say hell yeah I can go right now lol.