Is BDSM only painful?

[Anonymous]

I think I’m interested, I don’t know yet because I see different things about it and some of it looks terrifying. Is it only painful things? That kinda puts me off the idea of it..

[oldguystillhasit]

Not necessarily unless you enjoy giving or receiving pain. Most people do the BD part, bondage and domination sometimes with some spanking. Only some practice the SM part sadism and masochism which requires more "trust" in your partner in setting boundaries and limitations.

[Asker]

Oh, I never really understood what it stood for but that makes more sense now

[AustinMan]

BDSM is about power exchange. Do you know what that means? Never mind the details for a minute.

[Asker]

I don’t think so

[AustinMan]

When you enter a sexual situation, which role do you gravitate to? The one calling the shots and maintaining what happens to whom or do you wait for direction from him. The power exchange is where the submissive or sub gives control over to the Dom because she finds it sexually more fulfilling for the Dom to drive? Said another way, does surrendering to his masterful side turn you on?

[Asker]

The idea of it does

[AustinMan]

Then you need to sit down and think about your desires and limits and write them down. An experienced Dom is gonna want to know what you're up for and what you're not. Set up a safe word so if you're ever more anxious that expected, you can stop things. Get on Google and read about the role and responsibilities of a sub. PM me if you have more questions.

[Asker]

Thank you I appreciate it. I’m still hesitant about the idea at the moment but I think it could be something that interests me. Not the hardcore stuff though, maybe the more vanilla stuff. I will do, thank you 😊

[AustinMan]

Go ahead and PM me and we can chat about the parts that interest you now. Refer to our BDSM conversation when you do. I get a lot of PMs but I look forward to your.

[purplepoppy]

Think of it as eating hot chillies. Some like jalapenos others prefer habaneros. There's a certain amount of pleasure that comes from the burn and everyone knows their level. It's the same with bdsm, some like a hard caning others just a light tickle.

[Asker]

Is it only just hitting?

[purplepoppy]

Hitting is probably the most common but it could involve dripping hot candle wax, electrical stimulation, pricking with pins, painal etc

[Asker]

Electrical stimulation? I’m kinda scared to ask what that is lol

[Grkgod12]

It depends on the people involved!
There are many different levels.
How do you feel about it?

[lawhawk84]

Lots of women are into light bondage... meaning you are ok with being tied up and/or blindfolded and maybe some spanking, name calling, things like that. Just be clear about your limits.

[Twalli]

You can just be restrained and verbally abused or degraded. I guess that could be vanilla BDSM.

[Asker]

Eh that doesn’t sound appealing

[Twalli]

You don't have to like BDSM. What if anything about it interests you?

[Asker]

I think it’s the giving up control part that interests me

[Twalli]

That's fairly easy as long as you agree on boundaries beforehand

[FrenchyRomain]

BDSM is about limits... discovering new things within the limits of what you consider tolerable or fun.
It's also about respecting those limits. So no it's not just about pain at all, you're misinformed if that's what you believe

[Asker]

It’s not what I believe, it’s just what I’ve read so far.

[FrenchyRomain]

well then so far you are misinformed ^^ BDSM is not just about pain ;) far from it. I've been practicing BDSM for the past 6 years

[Asker]

What else is it about?

[FrenchyRomain]

In one word : pleasure

[duzdo]

There are lots of different things. A lot of pleasure and pain is the same

[duzdo]

I enjoy you the intense pleasure from having my dick bitten and my nipples pulled x

[Asker]

That sounds painful 😖

[duzdo]

It is but its the build up and the feeling. Its really hot

[duzdo]

I'm happy to answer any questions you have. Duzdo@aol. com