Would you date someone with a fetish?

[BlackWidow93]

I'm talking to this guy who's super nice but he disclosed he has a fetish. It completely freaks me out and turns me off and I don't know how to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

It seems to me that the vast majority of people have some sort of fetish. Some very tame, some more extreme or "out there." Some people just like the fetish as a nice plus that turns them on more, some people almost can't get turned on without their fetish being met.

So I would say it just depends on what fetish he has and how important it is to him. If it's something that you really aren't into and can't see yourself trying but he's okay with not having that fetish met, that's different from if you aren't really into it but you would be willing to go out on a limb and try it and he's okay if it's not met, and that is also VERY different from something you really aren't into and would never try and the other person can't get aroused without it. That last one is obviously a bit of a problem, the other two not necessarily.

I'm not saying you should tell me what it is, by the way. Presumably this person doesn't want just anybody to know what it is. I'm just trying to give you an idea of what I personally think of it in general.

[Finchie40]

Everyone has some type of fetish , it just depends on what kind of fetish it is and if it would bother you , but most fetishes are not that intense , like mine , I get turned on by girls wearing sexy shoes , seeing her in sexy shoes is a turn on to me , now I don’t ravish her feet and jerk off to them it just gets me turned on to want to take her to bed , now if his fetish is intense and creepy then that’s something you have to decide if you want to be with someone like that , but don’t instantly assume his fetish is creepy , just depends on what it is

[BlackWidow93]

No its creepy

[Finchie40]

LOL what is it then

[BlackWidow93]

Pet play

[Finchie40]

Dressing up as pets or using pets?

[BlackWidow93]

Dressing up, getting dragged around

[Finchie40]

Lmao ok that can be some creepy shit

[BlackWidow93]

And he doesn't understand why it completely turned me off that he did stuff like that

[Finchie40]

Tell him to go to a Furries convention if he is into that shit lol

[BlackWidow93]

Well he did say we didn't have to but I'm still creeped out

[Finchie40]

Yea I don’t blame you , eventually he would be pulling out the costume for you to wear lol

[Finchie40]

Thanks for MHO , I would just ask you to wear lingerie 😋

[BlackWidow93]

Thanks that's normal

[Finchie40]

But if I pulled out the bunny ears it kills the mood lol

[BlackWidow93]

I mean not necessarily. Things that are demeaning and provocative aren't my thing like fantasy rape or BDSM or pet play...

[Finchie40]

Yea I agree , I think people that have to resort to that to get turned on have some fucked up issues in their life , same way I feel about sex toys , if you need toys to get off with someone in bed then something is off 2 people should just be naturally turned on by each other shouldn’t need a toy to bring On the mood , a sex toy should be a joke like hey let’s try this vibrating cock ring one time then I see that being ok but to have to resort to that every time then something is off

[BlackWidow93]

Oh you brought back funny memories... but you are correct and then when you say you dont want to date them because of it they get all offended and say you be discriminating against me...

[Finchie40]

That’s when you leave it at that and move on let them find someone that likes to dress up on pet costumes , they have those Furry conventions every year let him go take part in that shit lol That sounds like what he needs , the stories I hear about those conventions is some crazy ass shit lol

[CandyCaneZoe]

Simple solution. Don't do what you don't want to do. We all have fetishes, or things that we like in bed, but we also have our limits. Stick to your guns. If he can date you without ever living out the fantasy, you'll be good, but if he will continually pressure you, forget him and move on. I dated a woman for a while that wanted pain BDSM type stuff. That's not my thing. She tried talking me into it, and initially that wasn't a big deal, but then it got annoying and obvious that they were disappointed in me for not going through with it.

[BlackWidow93]

Thank you

[Plzfixbroke]

Just tell him you’re not into it and not willing to do it

[BlackWidow93]

I did and he said that's ok we can stay away from that but is it weird?

[Plzfixbroke]

What was the fetish? I think everyone has their own thing and what they like, certain things may cross a line but I don’t think telling him you don’t want to is weird at all

[BlackWidow93]

Pet play

[Plzfixbroke]

Yeah I’ve seen that one, it’s strange to me, but I would never shame someone for having a fetish unless they actually enjoyed live animals and/or children or non consent fetishes

[BlackWidow93]

That's a good point. At least it's not possession. I don't know how I feel about it

[Plzfixbroke]

As long as he doesn’t try it without your consent Or talk much about it, I would say don’t worry about it or think too much about it, depending on if he’s a dom or a sub person, I’d say it’s more about either wanting to show some dominance or be dominated, or if it’s a lifestyle thing I’d say it’s more of just wanting to be cared for or care for someone, not really about the whole pet thing

[BlackWidow93]

You're so right. Thank you. We get along well. I shouldn't let that get in the way

[Plzfixbroke]

I’m sure you guys will do amazing :) good luck to you, don’t let some little thing get in the way ❤️

[BlackWidow93]

Thank you!

[MrOracle]

Some people would, obviously. At least be happy that he disclosed this up-front, so that you can make an informed decision.

[laurieluvsit]

I have the most hilarious story about that fetish that a guy I met was telling me about.

I am hesitant to tell it on your post but I will if you want me too Ms BW, even though it might later be removed by a moderator :)

[easily_andrew]

Tell me o m curious or DM me

[Paris13]

Lol Is this what my Fiance's Three fabulous Personalities are called? xx

[drsatan]

It entirely depends on the fetish.
If they like feet or balloons or just something that's a little weird, that's fine.

If liked pee, and everything else about them was perfect and amazing, I might let them occasionally pee on my foot in the shower or something.

If they are into anything to do with kids, animals, shit or vomit, they can kindly fuck off and never touch or talk to me again.

[Shy_701116]

What type of fetish?

[BlackWidow93]

Pet play

[Shy_701116]

Okay, ewww but I would say NO just NO But maybe if he cares about you a lot he will stop ❤

[BlackWidow93]

Yeah he said it's not a big deal. We dont have to do it.

[Shy_701116]

Oh, I'm sorry!!😔

[BlackWidow93]

It's ok

[Hannibal_Lecter]

If it turns you off then you aren't really meant to be together. I have a mild hand fetish but I think other people understand it. A guy with thick large hands rough but clean well kept and veins and not too hairy. Anyone interested in men would find the hands kinda hot. It just adds to the attraction.

[Petra150]

Well I don't really care if a person have a fetish for feet height boobs or whatever , the result might be the same he will finally show you he love you. Can't se why we women aren't said to have fetish for tall guys , that about the biggest fetish, and that's a pretty shallow fetish as it's only the height in a guy some women want, and I'd guess they don't give a shit how the guy behind the tall body is. While I personally know lots of guys have a fetish for tall women, and I much rather like this than a guy who don't like tall women. If he got a fetish or no doesn't bother me, as long he love me I don't care

[me_ni]

Depends on the fetish.

[I-am-a-nobody]

You don't have to deal with it.
Run in the opposite direction... let him figure it out on his own.
(How do some people get so freaky?)

I wish you the best!

[Tamera952]

Depends on the fetish.
Foot/Shoe fetish = sure why not
Necrophilia = not so much

[EmbraceThePain]

Depends what the fetish is...
There’s hundreds of them...

It’s like saying “Would you date someone who likes sex?”

Well, most people would say “yes” but they’re not talking into account how this someone likes sex. They could be into certain positions or things in sex that you’re not into at all.

[AndyOh]

If you like this guy and want to date him, you are going to have to like his fetish as he will want to do it. With you or others, but he will need to feel the fetish, whatever that is; now or years in the future.
So, you need to decide if you can live with him and his quirk, or move on to someone who is more vanilla.
Good luck.

[ecfresh]

Sure

[mattmanyah2]

It depends on the fetish

[ADFSDF1996]

I only date women who have the same kinks as me.

[Agape93]

Yeah why not?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

If the fetish is too weird , i would just tell them I'm not interesting
in participating in it. If you don't want be involved in any festish
than tell him how you feel. I was once on this website called
Experience Project and this Woman had a fetish where she
wanted a Man whom she dated take her car and run it in the
mud but she like for him to treat her car as if it was a adult
Female Child of her like age 18 + yes some people are far out

[MackToday]

It wold all depend on what exactly her fetish was. If it's some really weird shit forget it.

[NewZion]

Depends on the fetish. What's the fetish?

[imafreak67]

First of all what's his fetish