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Am I being over sensitive?

It is my time of the month , this morning my boyfriend woke up horny as he does most mornings (we don’t have sex when I’m on my period) . I went downstairs to make a drink came up to bed and he asked me to wank him off I said yeh in a bit I’ve got a bit of tummy ache let’s have a cuddle for a bit first. I don’t have a problem pleasuring him when I can’t give him sex. He started having a wank while I was laid next to him I questioned it and he said I’ll give you a cuddle afterwards. I got a bit upset and he stopped wanking and said what the fuck you crying for I explained I thought he was being insensitive but he just replied I need a wank and continued till he’s finished. I tried to explain that I felt it was disrespectful and it made me feel like shit but he didn’t get it said what’s wrong with having a wank ! Am I being over sensitive? Thoughts?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You're not being over sensitive.

    If he had already been wanking when you came back up, I would have no problem with it. Heck, if all that happened was that he'd started wanking, I probably wouldn't have a problem with it - there's nothing wrong with masturbating with or for your partner.

    But that's not what happened. What happened was he ASKED you, thus giving you the power to make a decision (a power that's obviously rightfully yours, considering his suggestion involved your body) - and when you made a decision and he didn't like it, he ignored it and did the opposite of what you'd said. No negotiation, no follow-up, just wanking. That is not okay and of course you're allowed to react to that.

    I don't agree with the people that've commented that your relationship is dead because of this single event. People are shitty sometimes, and I hope and assume you have far more good days than bad. But he was clearly in the wrong here.

    • What upset me was that I didn’t say no I just said give me like 5 minutes to wake up have a cuddle etc. If I was not gonna do it at all I would’ve left the room and stayed down stairs let him get on with it ! There just seemed to be no compromise or compassion in his actions that is what upset me I think

  • I think your relationship is already dead. I mean he could wank under the shower if you refused sex and giving him a hand job. You could react more mature instead of crying, something like "seriously... do you really want that I watch this freak show..."

    • I didn’t refuse just asked him to wait a bit and have a cuddle first then I would’ve happily have pleasured him and got involved. Think i cried because he was being insensitive and I’m obviously more emotional when it’s my period

Most Helpful Girls

  • He is being a jerk he needs to be there for you and be nice when you’re on your period while you’re in pain. You’re not being over sensitive even if you were its his turn to be understanding and supportive. PMS is real.

  • He should have cuddled with you first.

    You’re British.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • It's not cool to talk like that and just whip it out like you've disappointed him. He could go to another room or see if you're ok with him doing it right next to you.

  • So he worded it like a dick but if u was not in the mood to pleasure him which is fair enough you can't really blame him sorting himself out

    • Yeh think it was the way he worded it and went about it... I don’t have a problem with him pleasuring himself often we will do it together etc and he likes to wank as I work shifts so not always around and tbh I like to just get myself off sometimes it’s easier. Just felt like he was being insensitive I guess

    • No I get that maybe all the blood rushed to his cock and he wernt thinking straight

  • His behavior was very selfish. He should have been willing to wait until you were ready to wank him. It's the least he could do especially since you offered. A decent guy wouldn't even expect a wank if you weren't feeling well. Instead he should be offering to bring you something for your tummy.

  • My question is why don’t you have period sex?

    • We both don’t like it as I don’t feel sexy while bleeding heavily etc

    • Yes period sex is not the option

    • @rookie_shubham it’s because you’re a piss poor boring lover

  • ugggh... this is awful. Did you meet him last week?

  • No you are right. He can't have pleasure anytime against your wish

  • No ,, you should not worry , maybe he was being horny that time

  • His actions were fine, but he should have worded things more gently.

    • Yeh think that was more the problem the wording

    • Right. You could mention that.

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