Should you give money to your Boyfriend?

Question

I caught my boyfriend cheating on me for 5 months while we are in a long distance relationship. He lived with another girl in a city while he left me alone in our house in province.
I was so devastated because I gave him everything my money, body and even life, only to find out in the end, he was only cheating me with a woman who is not even beautiful or sexier than me. He said, I can't take care of his needs enough like money, food, home, medicine, good sex. He said, he can't sacrificed his life with my small salary of 500USD per month as accountant. The other woman blamed me that it is my fault because I was not good enough for him. I returned all the stuffs to my boyfriend apart from his motorbike that is under my name that his family paid for. We agreed with my ex boyfriend that I will sell it and return the money.

A month ago, I found out this woman was only a prostitute and I could not believed that my boyfriend replaced me for her just because she lived in a condo. And, that gives me an answer when I saw a pack of condoms to my boyfriend bag when we are still together. This month, I was able to sell his motorbike but I did not told him yet because he was really giving me a silent treatment.

Suddenly, my ex boyfriend chatted me out of the blue. He said that he is struggling paying rent because of the two months quarantine. He said, he can't earn any money and I assume that the prostitute girl too. He asked me if I could help him find a good job and making me feel like he needs again my help but I did not bother to react. I really want to return the money but whenever I remember the things they did to me, I feel so mad and I want them to have a taste of their own karma.

Should I return the money today or just later? What is your recommendation guys, pls vote. Thanks

jemismyname · Accepted Answer

honestly, you should give the money to the guy whose motorcycle you sold... i mean, it's his money... you aren't karma. karma is karma... you don't want to have anything to do with karma...

does that make any sense?

I hope so. karma works by itself, but if you get involved with a certain type of karma, then you get "dirty:" with that karma. then you have to work through the karma until you are clean from it.

so the best thing is to give the money to the person who owns it... and it doesn't matter how that person treats you.

that helps you to work through dirty karma... then you can get some nice clean karma...

right?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

in my opinion, you are far kinder than I would be in your situation.

Has he paid you back any money that he owes YOU? If not, then tell him to fuck off.

If he has (if your story is true, it seems unlikely that he did), then give him the money and be done with him. Tell him you are finished and that he should have no further contact with you in his lifetime. The sooner you are done with him, the better.

potatoiswhoiam · Accepted Answer

Girl, he cheated on you and that's the worst thing a person can possibly do in a relationship. You don't owe him anything neither does he have a right to ask you for anything! He made his own choices. Now let him pay the price. I'd say don't even respond to him.

katjmj · Accepted Answer

I think you should return the money as it originally came from his side (not because you're helping them out). Aside from that, cut them off. The nerve of him to ask you help him find a job. 🙄

AustinMan · Answer

I didn't vote. I'd suggest that you return the money. Despite the title to the bike being in your name, it was his and he thus is owed the money. I'd suggest telling him this is a one time gift (or whatever you want to call it) and that you don't want to hear from him again.

drsatan · Answer

Did you buy him the bike in the first place?

thepirate18 · Answer

It was his bike, cutting charges if any give it to him. It's his money, though he is a scum bag & you aren't. Let him live or die, you give away what is his.

EmmaMary · Answer

Return the money at the earliest opportunity and completely rid yourself of this fucking pathetic lowlife parasite.

boggboss · Answer

Just return the money and cut them off

jamesgoldman · Answer

It's his money... I'd give it back or he'll take legal action and it will cost you more than just the money involved

Ynot34 · Answer

Hell no!

hellacray · Answer

How are you only making 500 a month as an accountant?  That just doesn't make sense.

Twalli · Answer

It's his money, he needs it. If it's your money then you don't have to give it back, but any money that is his should go to him. Especially now that he needs it. But that's it, you don't have to do anything else to help him.