How can he feel so damn content with having sex with me and also having sex with her?

[Anonymous]

So, My friend and I finally hooked up this past week. He has been begging me to have sex with him, smh. But yet! he is throwing his stuff around with someone else. Like, I don't have any evidence that he is sleeping with someone, but it's in my gut. It's like 12a. m or 1a. m and he hasn't been active online since yesterday. And, I'm that he isn't at home, he's probably with this chick at some hotel. Smh. Then, tomorrow gets here, he's going to hit me. Just having a conversation. Like, I don't know if she is the main girl or if I am the side peace. I don't know, and idc. Why are you having sex with me, then go around and fucking her, or vice versa. This is NOT! the time to be doing that trifling shit. And when I do turn him down, he gets all up in his feelings. But yet, has another chick to dick down. He did recently asked me, to get a room with him. But, I'm like nawl. And sex between us isn't the same, so I'm good on that. My sexual attractions and my feelings are fading. I'm a selfish lover, and I don't like to share. He's not my boyfriend and I am Most definitely am not Trying Trying to make him my man. (He'll No.) But my point is: if he has another girl he has sex with. Then why can't he just be done with me and leave me THE FUCK ALONE?

[MrOracle]

When you deal with someone with low morals, you generally get as bad as you allow.

Did you talk to him about this and set rules and expectations in advance? Even if you're only casually hooking up, you still need to do that if you expect someone to follow those rules - you can't just assume that they share the same feelings about it that you do.

And if you DID agree to rules, and he's broken them (and at this point, you are running purely on speculation here - you don't KNOW anything), then you kick him to the curb and let him know to lose your number.

YOU make the rules about who and how someone enjoys access to your body, and if you don't make any rules, you can't expect those "rules" to be followed.

Men and women are different, and we have different perspectives about sex. You cannot assume a man is going to feel the same way you do about it - in fact, you should assume that they don't until otherwise proven. So, you need to take some action to protect your own interests - no one else is going to do that for you.

[Asker]

What do you mean by. (You can't just assume that they share the same feelings about it that you do.) Like, I been involved with this guy for so long. On and off like. Smh. And to keep it real with you. Sex was never suppose to happen. We hooked up back in 2014 when we first met, well months down the rule. I had him wait, but it seems like ever since that moment, he let sex get in between are friendship. And he finally came out in (2018) how he has been with other girls, but it's not the same having sex with them, the way he does with me. His words not minds. He also, said with me- it's meaningful. But to me, it's sex and free pu$$y he's getting.

[Asker]

And years ago. Back in 2014 and 2015 he made rules that it was going to be only him and I having sex. I just agreed. But lately idk- he and all this sex- it's not safe.

[Asker]

WHAT, would you call this type by of behavior from him, am I doing something wrong or is it just him? ↗ Can you answer this

[mattmanyah2]

I want marriage not a ons or friends with benefits but if I did why would I not want the opposite of marriage instead of one person with all my emotions attached why not a bunch with very little emotions attached... All I'd have to do is convinced them that they want it too or I love them more... Once again it's not my thing I'm looking for a wife and want to be emotionally invested

[Asker]

I see your point kind off. But I have outgrown the friends with benefits with him. To me it's old, I would like to get married and have a family some day. Not just keep sexting him.

[mattmanyah2]

He might not be ready for that and attracting a man that wants to settle down and friends with benefits are two different task... You seem like a smart woman start dating men with the character you wish your future husband to have. Write down what his character would be and if you are dating someone that does stuff opposite of your list stop dating them.

[Asker]

Yes. I just can't keep doing this like this. At the beginning the sex was good and all. But I am not comfortable with him sexting someone. I can't. And also. Can you answer this. mhttps://www. girlsaskguys. com/qt/guys-behavior/q4147509-what-would-you-call-this-type-by-of-behavior-from-him-am-i-doing

[mattmanyah2]

I am sorry I can not I'm on a phone and when I paste the hyperlink it pops up with an error code

[Asker]

Sorry. I'll try it again. WHAT, would you call this type by of behavior from him, am I doing something wrong or is it just him? ↗

[mattmanyah2]

That one works give me a sec =)

[Asker]

Prefect! Thank You and Ok

[Zarapeachy]

Basically, he respects neither girls (if he are doing what you have a gut feeling he is doing). Secondly, he is getting to have sex with two girls, no strings attach! Thirdly, the reason why he will get in his feels when you try to leave is because he likes the control he has of you. He likes the reaction he gets from you. Honey as much as you wanna deny it, feels is there whether it’s a lot or small.

I’ve been there... for an entire year and six months... I was the side piece. When I try to leave, I was the worst thing out... constant arguing if I tried to leave, showed up at my work place etc. butttt he is still having sex with his partner. So basically I get where you coming from

[Asker]

I'm glad you got out of that. And that's another thing he will do, if he don't see me messaging him for some time. He'll msgs me. Like on Sunday, he got his good on with her- but msgs me on Monday. And said, hey how are you doing? I didn't reply to @ all. I feel a bit bad, a little. I feel that he is starting to get curious a little. And today is Tuesday! I haven't said, anything to him today either. Nor has he. My friend said, don't say anything to him until next week. Or... If he really wants to talk and hear from me, he'll reach out.

[Asker]

And as far as the side peace or girlfriend. I'm not sure, if he is dating someone or not. I do feel like, he likes both me and that GIRL. I do feel that him and her are way more connected, but he still is attached and attractive to me as well. Like, on Thursday: of last week. Sex wasn't the same, sadly. And my body and libido is running low. I just don't feel it anymore. Ugh. But, (sighs) I do feel that he is wondering what is going on with me and why I am MIA. Him and I are very connected. If I am right about what I am sensing and feeling. I feel as if he will reach out to me once more. Some guys will just give up and walk away. But nope not him. Yes, he enjoys his cock being wet. But he also wants me in his life. SMH.

[Nobodycares]

I dunno, if you don't like him, dump him? Or if you want, you can confront him on it via email instead of real world. Whichever option is easier for you.

[Asker]

That's the problem, my happiness is more important than what he wants. And the times that I tried to tell him. I can tell that he hurts his ego but also his feelings. He is to attach. So I try to leave him alone and keep away from him. And that's another problem. I like him, wayyyyy to much. But I have outgrown this type of behavior with him. Like it's getting old and it's past due

[Nobodycares]

It might help if you display your feelings for him in some way. Maybe he's just unaware, and if he is aware, then he doesn't care, and you can find out. It's harsh, but it's part of growing up.

[Asker]

He knows that i like him. But he doesn't know how much I like him.

[Asker]

Can you also answer this. WHAT, would you call this type by of behavior from him, am I doing something wrong or is it just him? ↗

[Nobodycares]

I'm a busy man

[reptocarl2]

Because you keep spreading your legs

[Asker]

But what about the times when I haven't.

[reptocarl2]

He knows you will

[one1wild00]

IF it is the case he is having sex with you AND her then He probably likes bot of you and what your bodies are like (Possibly minds too) and he doesn't want to give either of you up and go to only one.

[theCobbler]

Because, everyone wants more; more is better; the bigger the better; the more the merrier... Name your cliche . it's sad people have to think & act that way! I'm sorry for your troubles!

[KrakenAttackin]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/nc_LIR5ExIU

If you had better taste in men you would not have this problem.

[ask4any]

You really need to get a grip on reality. If your not exclusive as you say and he's not your boyfriend so you say then why do you care who he sleeps with. It's basically none of your business.