I completely relate to your boyfriend. I'm not sure if it's just your boyfriend and I as individuals or if there's something instinctual in men. But let me be very clear, I firmly dislike the the thoughts it other women that pop in my head when I'm dating, in fact, I even firmly dislike finding other women attractive when I'm in a relationship. I dislike it greatly. If I could somehow flip the switch and only find the person I'm in relationship attractive, I absolutely would. So trust me, and I assume your boyfriend feels the same way, when I say that just because the thought pops into my head, it does not mean we want to or even find the thought enjoyable. It makes me feel guilty, too. Even if my girlfriend doesn't mind the thoughts popping into my head, I don't like it. And I can assure you, just because those thoughts pop into his head doesn't mean those girls are more attractive or desirable than you. It's just a natural occurence that is difficult to prevent. And regarding what you mentioned about having those thoughts but not wanting to do it, I most certainly don't want to have sex with the people who are in the thoughts that pop into my head, and I assume that is the same for your boyfriend.
0 0 0 0For one, you need to be honest. Everyone thinks about what the sex would be like with someone they find attractive. EVERYONE! Yes even you. Which you admit to in your own story. Let's start with some honesty alright? Then we'll go from there!
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Six years with the same person, at this age group (25-35), that is a very long time and I am even surprised that he has not been cheating yet.
In a relation, the partner's body starts to lose its interest after about 3 years since there is nothing new to discover. Some people, mainly men, start to fantasize about other girls since they are sex driven for quite a number of years.
The fact alone that he fantasizes having intercourse with another girl is a cause for concern and usually, that is one way how cheating begins. The other way is by watching porn while being in a relation.
To me, that is a red flag and I would start to give serious thoughts about the guy and his true intentions.0 0 0 0It’s not the same as if he brought it up or flat out asked for an open relationship. I think he was just trying to be honest, and since we’re telling the truth have you really never thought about sex with a hot guy you run into?
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2 3As long as he doesn't act on any of his thoughts about these other girls... There's nothing to worry about... 🌸
0 0 0 0If he thinks it, he is going to do it the first chance he gets, honesty is such a lonely word, everyone is so untrue 💔
0 0 0 0he's just a normal guy don't worry
0 0 0 0You have NEVER fantasized about sex with another guy for just a moment? I can’t quite believe that.
No need to worry about it.1 0 0 0Anybody who says otherwise is a liar so you won't actually find anyone that is different.
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