How does a hug with someone you “ like” feel to you Imagine they hug you now. How are you feeling. What are you wanting?

I just wonder if for some people there is no such thing as a hug. If it is always sexually charged, if it is a gateway to sex. Or something bigger. I wonder if for some people it doesn’t even feel good to touch without sex, even when they like someone.

It is I INTERESTING to me, how some people can even get to the point of dating, in cases where the energy is so DIVERSE. I e one person just loves affection in itself , the other is only really sexually excited by it lol

I can see a This causing lot of feeling like

1 “ IF he /she liked me they’d love to just be warm and close and be in the moment. Nothing more.”

2 “ IF he / she really liked me, they’d really desire Me sexually in this moment. “

Im very curious to seems answers Bc I think so often this subject is superficially segregated into guys vs girls and I don’t think that Human behavior ever works out that divides my.

PLEASE try to really imagine yourself in the situation and answer based on how you would feel, not based on how you think you should feel or how you think others elder you to feel.

Thank You 🌺🌺🌺
How does a hug with someone you “ like” feel to you Imagine they hug you now. How are you feeling. What are you wanting?
This feels amazing. It is so nice and warm and I like him/ her so much. I wish we could just stay this way for hours.
Vote A
This feels amazing it is so exciting. I like him/ Her so much, I wish we could date and get to know each other ether and have lots sex one day. I’d be willing to cuddle.
Vote B
This feels amazing. I like him/ her so much. I hope we can date and get to know each other and have a lot of cuddles. I’d be willing to have sex.
Vote C
I like him/ her a lot. This is exciting. I wish we could have sex now.
Vote D
I like him/ her a lot. I’d love to have sex and Cuddle. Now or in future.
Vote E
II like him/ her a lot. I dont really like this. Hugs 🤢
Vote F
OTHER.
Vote G
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  • Please... . ! 🤗🤗🤗 ME! .
    I dont give a shit about Sex, Yeah its all well and good the rush and ohhhhh; but its fleeting, gone in a moment!

    I'd rather get to know someone, spending time together at first ; then maybe Saturdays; walking, exploring ( hiking , browse shopping) whatever...
    Then maybe evening ae could snuggle up and watch a good movie together or play a game of chess ( I love to play ),
    Or go out for a nice Meal !
    I believe... LIFE. is about memories, andcth ed more positive memories the better end to this life we'll have!
    I don't care, call me flakey, call me weird ,, , call me a Hopeless Romantic,,,,, There is So much more to any Solid relationship than sex, ; people, young and old need to realize and start looking for!
    Touch , is as very basic need : when two people exchange touch ie: hugs , snuggling and yes sex ! OXYTOCIN is manufactured in the body and Oxytocin is a natural hormone which helps greatly with sleep and mood ( happiness) to name a couple of things!

    Hug me , PLEASE ! 🤗

    PS: What a Lovely Question! THANK YOU for posting this ! 🤗🤗 and Two hugs for/to You!
    Have a great & blessed day! To You , Miss VIVANT and to everyone! 🙏😊🤗

    • lol you are very welcome. Thank you for answering so honestly !!! Question, do you think you developed this way in adulthood or wee you similar even as a young adult?

    • Funny you should ask! My mother always said " I never wanted held or restrained " said I tore through 3 playpens " dad , one time, looked at me and said " You , INDEPENDENT SON of a BITCH ! " Not a lovely childhood.; but I guess I've developed or rather educated myself and now know why I need to touch and be touched ! there's more to it than that... companionship, familiarity, compatibility, passion and LOVE ! All are needed and extremely personal and Necessary! 🤗😊

  • Yeah there is probably a mix , depending when you ask a hug/cuddle could be the sweetest thing ever and there will be other times, when lets face facts, it will "OMG I really want to... right now"
    So lets step back and say that most of us would like to do something that expresses love and affection ranging from embracing to tossed bed linen. What factors influence the thoughts age (older might say love is not all wild sex, much younger may have an idealised romantic or physical notion ) also oddly reality is a factor (I find the more realistic a possibility is the more romantic say someone you have a chance with could be more romantic dates daydreams whereas a celebrity no chance crush is very sexual fantasies)
    Bottom line, I dunno, everyone probably has their own fantasy tastes. I would not be surprised if you got quite the mix.
    For full disclosure and research purposes, I would say 75% cuddle and 25% sexual in the great scheme of things if asked a number of times over a period.

    • I would guess something to similar to your numbers in reality when people actually answer for themselves.. but I think what people say about “ people” ends up closer to the inverse lol Part of why I wanted to ask. Out some numbers to it for everyone 😊 Thank you for answering

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm so tired today. A hug would be great. Hmmm.. I imagine someone hugs me right now. And I don't want this imagine to end 😌. It's so peaceful.. so 😊. I couldn't decide on the options.

    • Maybe A 🤷‍♀️😊😊

  • This feels amazing. It is so nice and warm and I like him so much. I wish we could just stay this way for hours.

    • Lol that sounded nice the way you put it 😛😊

    • Thank you

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  • It's blurry in my case. With my wife, it often is a gateway, especially if she's barely clothed. But I also enjoy it after when it's not.

    It blurs both ways for me. Sex itself is a form of intimacy and affection in my book, and I'm not just talking vanilla missionary position staring into each other's eyes. I would use sex as the most passionate and most intimate and most affectionate form of "communication".

    I don't separate it from holding hands or hugging or kissing. I don't separate a passionate French kiss from a gentle kiss on a cheek or forehead. I don't separate either of these from an intimate conversation where we share a great deal about our innermost thoughts. It's all a form of expression and communication in my book. I don't limit the idea of "communication" to just verbal exchanges.

    • Thank you for explaining 😊

    • Cheers! There is a bit of an incompatibility though with my wife and also most exes I've been with especially with the gateway part. Like they might be lying next to me in bed, I'm a big spoon, and touching them makes me want to escalate things towards sex. But they're not in the mood. Ugh. I do find a difference in wiring rather with women in that they might not feel sexy if they are just lying half-naked in bed in a very "natural" relaxed state, whereas this suffices to get me excited and want to turn things up a notch.

    • [...] I do find a difference in wiring rather [often] with women in that they might not feel sexy [...]

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  • Man it would feel
    amazing rn 🥺
    i would feel so much less stress and just feel protected

    • Yeah.. that is nice ☺️

  • Well after getting friend zoned I just wanted someone to hold me because I felt vulnerable. But yeah it doesn't have to be sexual

    • I understand.

    • I mean over 5 weeks on I still feel a bit vulnerable to be honest

    • I think that is normal depending on how you felt about the person. it will get better 👍🏻👍🏻😊

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  • I love hugs. Sometimes a hug is like a handshake, except it symbolizes deeper friendship, trust and regard. I'm used to hugging good friends as a greeting.

    Hugs don't seem that sexual to me, although some can be. I don't get turned on when a female friend presses her breasts against me in a hug of friendship. I'd have to already be sexually attracted to her, as in, for example, a new girlfriend signaling her willingness to share intimate touch for the first time.

    It's definitely sexual if a woman allows me to hug her from behind, wrap my arms around her boobs and press myself against her backside.

    There was a time when I was young, in jr. high school, when the idea of slow dancing with a cute girl and feeling her boobies brushing against me was totally erotic. I eventually grew past that.

    • Lolol @ ending. Yeah I get that. And all you said made sense. Thank you for explaining 😊😊

  • With ones that are just friends, and I really consider them close friends, I love the closeness, and we both know it isn't sexual, nor want it to be.
    Others, maybe, that might still have feelings, and meeting later, still, I don't feel anything sexual, and just love the closeness, and friendly love.
    Even with the ones I might, maybe, have some lingering feelings for, it is still, just friends, and non-sexual, especially if their new BF/GF is watching!!
    With the one I am dating, loving, and really like, yeah, close, cuddly and snuggly all the way!!

    • lol yeah I find it very easy to separate. thanks for answering.

  • Just a little buzz and warmth, it feels like in my head

  • I don't really tie the two together.
    Hugging is its own form of affection as is sex. I dont think one leads to the other they just sometimes happen around the same time.

    But if I'm hugging someone I care about it usually is a moment I want to last and I'm not a touchy feely person but a hug sometimes conveys a message that can't be put into words

  • I don't emphasize with either of your interpretations.
    To me, hugs are neither emotional nor sexual, I just find them an annoying violation of my bodily integrity.

    You never decide to hug a person right at the same exact moment that they decide to hug you.
    It's not a mutual thing, you are just allowing someone to violate your personal space because they decided to do so.

    And since I don't like that, I don't do hugs.
    I don't like anyone restraining my autonomy in any way.

    • This was not an either or question. There was OTHER As well asI DONT LIKE THIS. Based on your answer I’m not getting an impression on how you feel about hugs themselves, just timing. Assuming the timing was good. How is the Hug. Do you simply not like being touched. Do you have sex? Does that not interfere with your autonomy?

    • I’m wondering how sex works for you.. a hug like anything ehse can be negotiated to fit both parties. 🤔 Ok how about spooning. It’s presumably a mutual non surprising act. Does that make you feel restricted?

    • I know, I voted "other". I just wanted to expand on why I voted that way, since you asked for us to explain "how are you feeling" in your question. And that's how I feel. I don't find hugs affectionate, I just find them intrusive. You don't obstruct or restrict anyone by simply just touching them, they always have the freedom to pull away. With hugs, the person doesn't have much of a choice but to wait until you let go. When you hug, you are dictating the duration of the physical contact, and since you can't read minds you could easily cross past the line where said contact becomes unwanted. That's why I don't like hugs, they come across as rude to me, because you disrespect the other person's autonomy in the process- gehh. I mean, it's not like I'm going to yell at someone for hugging me, or physically push them away. But the fact that I may feel like I want to do that, and the other party doesn't care, that's the rude aspect. It's like giving a person an unwanted gift. You really have no choice but to accept gifts and pretend that you like them, because otherwise you will be the asshole. It's depriving you of control, for the sake of entertaining someone else's will and desires, and your will is being disregarded in the process. That's why I hate both gifts and hugging.

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  • It feels trusting, supportive and leaves you feeling loved

  • Vivant if I'm in a relationship then I might well initiate sex by hugging. But lots of other times when I hug I'm not initiating or expecting sex to happen. And especially in a new relationship that isn't sexual yet hugging is a really nice form of close touching that is nice all by itself. That doesn't mean I won't have an involuntary male physical reaction to hugging because I probably will. But it doesn't have to lead to sex and that's okay.

    • Thank you for answering/ explaining your experience 😊

  • hugging and kissing at the right moments can not be a sexual thing, but when conditions are met they definitely become that. they both feel amazing if you have feelings for the person

    • I agree. But some people it like never crosses over. Others they are always at 100 But I’m inclined to think despite stereotypes indicating the inverse and or obverse.. it is more often dependent on context. Thanks for answering 😊😊

  • Marked. I like the cubs 'lion whisperer'. Check on after covid.

  • My mood flows between B, C, D, E.

  • When I have a special Girl in my life a hug feels great, I want more like cuddling, kissing, necking , snuggling

    • Thanks You for answering 😊😊

    • You're Welcome :-D :-P :-)

  • I don't recive hug very offten and for me is just a strange feeling that i don't know how to react at.
    When somebody hug me i just hug them back just because that what i see in movies and to other couple.
    For me a hug is shoking and is feel like something start to move in my stomak.
    When i have a girlfriend i whas having this senzation for a very long time whit her, even afther we get in a relationship, but afther a month or 2 i become very clingy.

    • Interesting.. I can actually identify really well this. If you are not used to being touched or if you are uncomfortable with it, it can feel really weird, even bad, even if you like someone.. To me, It’s like sex.. . Till you get used it, It’s very difficult to know how you feel about it.. and it is easy to confuse not being comfortable with the unfamiliar, or not having total control, with not liking something.

    • I'm unconfortable even whit my family, mom, dad, sister. In a time a have a bad month whit a lot of horible thing hapeing to me. And a friend (girl) of mine try to suport me and give me olso a hug. My brain whas like "Ok Alex, so what should we do now?"

    • Ohh I can’t stand being touched by someone I’m not in love With~ I get nauseous. If I see it coming I duck or turn it into a side step distant side pat lol 😅😛😊

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  • I just want someone I feel comfortable holding close to me.

  • “This is nice... ok... that’s enough.”

    • lol yeah I wanted to add that but ran out of options. Should’ve combined it with #1 as this or that. Oh well 😁

    • @vivant I’m a hugger. I like giving and getting hugs. But they don’t have any sexual energy unless it’s my husband.

    • Makes sense.. I wasn’t even thinking of Sexual energy with random people lol awkward. Hmm maybe I should have clarified ” like” as being someone you have feelings for 🤔😊

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  • I don't want to make this personal, so I'll just have it apply to a generic woman and not anyone in particular. I voted A, B and B. D and E wouldn't exactly feel correct for me. C is debatable, depending on your interpretation.

    ... What? Of course there is such thing as a hug. I have hugged my male friends and my female friends. Nothing sexual about it. Though it does feel different (emotionally) with a female. It makes me melt a little, tbh.

    How would it not feel good to touch without sex? That doesn't make any sense. A loving touch always feels good, whether it's sexual or otherwise.

    Regarding cuddling vs. sex, I don't take sides. I think they're both great!

    Side note: That boy lion needs to watch the placement of his left paw. (Unless, of course, his name is Joe, in which case it's perfectly okay.)

    • Lolol @ joe. You’d be surprised. Some people get offended Or just freak out. It don’t care for it. .. even if it’s by affection. even if it’s from someone they like.

    • Oops- I said B twice. Sorry!

    • "It don't care for it"?

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  • No a hug can mean that but also has many meanings for doing it.

    • There are many meanings that is why I posted the question I’m not really asking about intent but feeling in the moment how it affects you 😊

    • It always feels good but if it is with a girl I like it is definitely different and sexual

  • I voted B

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