Do men have raping fantasies?

Question

I've seen a couple questions, and several opinions, considering whether most or all women have a fantasy about being raped.

Which has me wondering. Do men ever have fantasies about raping? From just pinning their arms to much more severe, anything rape-y in some male fantasies?

OBVIOUSLY I am not asking if men want to rape people. Because I don't think fantasy always translates to reality, especially with stuff like this. If a man actually plans to rape somebody that's FAR beyond having a rape fantasy, so please don't equate the two any more than you would equate a woman having a fantasy about being raped to her actually wanting to be raped irl.

David_Kek · Accepted Answer

Pretty much every woman I've gone out with has been into that to some degree, after you've given them a shoulder to cry on and made them feel safe enough to truly open up to you.
It took my last ex, who was always openly into BDSM and stuff, over two years before she opened up in detail of an abusive ex she had, and how it didn't live up to the fantasies she used to have before she got into it. Funnily enough after she opened up to me about all of it, she asked me to start reenacting some of it, up to and including making her bleed using the handle of a knife, and telling her how much she deserves it for getting off on it.

And to answer you question, yeah, pretty much. However, I've never even considered playing any of those fantasies out until i came across her, because i trusted her that much.
What they don't tell you on this subject, is it's not just a vulnerable area for women. Do this shit with your girlfriend because she asks you to, and yet later when you break up she decides to start making some accusations to your friends and stuff because she's pissed off for being dumped; that's the type of thing that can get a man killed.

Obtuse · Accepted Answer

That's totally restricted to girls and a very small minority of bona fide psychopathic males in my experience. I've plenty met of girls who like me to get forceful, have my way, pretend like I won't take "no" for an answer (even though I absolutely will!). But I'm not so into that. I'm into some energetic types of sex since I have an athletic background but hardly the type where I beat her over the head and strangle her and cave her face in and cut her tits off or whatever the crazy things they actually want to do while I just compromise by smushing their faces with pillows.

MrNameless · Answer

Have I had a fantasy of raping women in the past? I don't remember vividly, but I might have, but that's because the mind wonders, and its not with someone i know, just a faceless person in dream.

However, I would never want to, and even just fantasizing it makes me feel terrible. Sex is just not enjoyable unless its with consent.

Grkgod12 · Answer

It's more of a dominant thing. But, not sure

aceleon · Answer

i absolutly have it and i am not slightest bit ashamed about it, if i was gonna rape anyone i would have already done it but i absolutly admit that it turns me on, also my usual style of having sex is borderline rapey (no without consent thing but if i was ever getting recorded or caught up during it it would most likely look like rape.

MillenniumBill · Answer

Sexologist will tell you that fantasies are perfectly normal. According to Dr. Deborah Phillips in her book "Sexual Confidence" everything from r@pe fantasies to being r@ped to having sex with Donald Duck is perfectly normal.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I'm a male, and I do not have a fantasy of raping

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I have a fantasy of having her tied up, completely at my control. But her willingly involved, not against her will

dreamstar72 · Answer

Fantasy? Real rape fantasy is sick; the role playing fantasy might have merit if every one is on the same page

chriscdi · Answer

not gonna lie, I've had one before but in my defense, it was some dark times

ThiccNigro · Answer

I don't. I have dom fantasies but not raping. I'm more the gentle dom type so rape isn't my style

reptocarl2 · Answer

I’ve never had that

JimboGB · Answer

No, thats a woman thing.

convo_king89 · Answer

Me yes, having her be the schoolgirl

Subboy44 · Answer

I only have fantasies about being raped

Pete671 · Answer

I'm male and have fantasies of raping, I really get off on rape porn, but the idea of the real thing is disgusting to me,

Unknown29 · Answer

I’m a male, and I find being sexually dominant very hot.

ZSean · Answer

I def do not have rape fantasies and tbh... I've seen more females bring up rape fantasies tbh especially here

andy530 · Answer

I think some do but many probably wouldn’t admit it since there is a lot of cultural stigma around rape

tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ · Answer

Yeah but not really, my fantasy is that I can control girls with my mind so they do whatever I wish, but after its over they don't remember a thing. I would never want to traumatize someone, but I do love sex, so it is what it is.