He left me for another girl?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with this guy for a year and basically the entire time he was seeing another girl. He told me she was nobody but a crackhead whore who was obsessed with him. All he would do is lie about her and claim she was psychotic and toxic. He ended up blocking her one week and told me he loved me and wanted to be with me and talked about having kids with me in the future. Next thing you know, I’m blocked on everything and I see on social media he posted pics with her. I feel so sick to my stomach and heartbroken. I gave this man everything. Just 3 weeks ago I gave him rent money, he didn’t have any car, I drove him everywhere. I was basically his bank even though he’s much older than me. I’m 20, he's 26. He claimed he loved me just 3 weeks ago... and now suddenly he’s so happy with this girl that went lengths to ruin his life. She made threats towards him just a few weeks ago. Seeing him happy with her hurts me so bad because I know how evil she is and so does he. But I understand maybe he has feelings for her. I feel so low and hurt I don’t think I can handle it. They’re always on and off, he said she was a prostitute and she slept with other guys while he was involved with her. I’ve been loyal to this guy all along and now he chooses some psychotic whore over me. I feel so used, so stupid. Do you think if things go south with her, he will come back? Or do you think he’s gone for good? I just don’t know how to make him regret his decision. I want to be happy but it’s so hard watching him with someone else, especially when this girl has done nothing but make his life a living hell. He can’t seem to get it through his head that she’s toxic and bad for him.

[Anonymous]

He’s going to come back, no doubt.
He probably took that money you gave him and went and bought drugs so they’re probably getting high together.

When he needs some more drugs he’ll come crawling back.

Also, these people don’t sound very hygienic. You sure he’s not giving you any STD’s? You should get checked.

The best revenge is absence. Once you disappear and he can’t get ahold of you, he will regret leaving like he did.

But it’s up to you if you want to take him back if he does. Just know he will disappear again.

[Asker]

So about last spring he told me he found out he had gonorrhea, and I remember him saying “and no I didn’t sleep with anyone else” he was lying obviously, he later admitted it was from this girl he left me for lol. I freaked out. because I only ever was with him, so if I got anything it was from him, not me. I am not even bashing this girl but she is seriously disgusting. She basically messaged me while he blocked her and harassed me everyday asking if I was with him, she told me he would never change and I would be stupid to take him back. But as soon as he blocked me for her, she took him back instantly lol. He posted a pic of them together on Facebook tonight. I know how toxic and gross she is. She’s a cheater and a prostitute. She threatened to do a lot of things to him, she’s just nuts. But so is he for even choosing someone like that over me. I’ve only ever tried showing him what a healthy relationship looks like and he threw me away for this trashy girl. What makes you think he will come back? I’m hoping karma gets him for how dirty he did me.

[chriscdi]

just how you dont get through your head that this guy is toxic and bad for you, you just dodged a bullet if you ask me, block him and keep moving forward, weither he comes back to you or not, fuck that nigga, get yourself someone you deserve

[Asker]

You’re right, thankyou. I just loved this man so deeply. And it was so easy for him to throw me out like I meant nothing to him for the last year and a half. And this girl he left me for is so toxic she’s caused so many problems in the last month. He told me he was done with her for good and just wanted to be with me, we spent everyday together and then suddenly I’m blocked on everything and he’s posting pictures with her. I feel so powerless like he won and I’m the one that has to sit here hurting so bad. It’s more embarrassing that he left me for such a trashy, toxic person too. I've only ever tried to make him be better. He’s a bum with no car and no ambition.

[chriscdi]

well that relationship didn't work once and it won't work again, the thing is that when he looses that other girl, he will see you aren't there either which he would be alone compeletely and regret what he did, move on, forget him, if he can't see how beautiful of a person you are, im sure someone else will, it might hurt now but you'll heal and you'll be happier when you find someone who will love you for the way you are and would be loyal to keep you until the end

[reptocarl2]

Well at least now you know instead of 10 years later. Most always in cases like this there’s red flags the victim chooses to ignore. Be glad he’s gone

[Iron_Man]

You live and learn next time date a good church mam

[B2281]

Very sorry to hear that.