Is it wrong to be upset that boyfriend likes games of thrones?

[Dutchgirl97]

I refuse to watch the show with how incredibly explicit and raunchy it is when it comes to sex and nudity. I can't bare to watch it and am uncomfortable with him watching it.. especially since we have a daughter now. Am I being too insecure?

[Boromir]

I think you’re exaggerating the whole story. People have been reading raunchy stories since they invented the press. The important part is that people can differentiate between fiction and reality.

Your attitude reminds me of the ostriches that hide their head in the sand out of fear.

Look, GoT also shows cruelty towards women, I prefer him being ‘aware’ about all the bad things people can do to his little girl and protect her better in stead of naively living on a pink cloud. I find your ‘suspicion’ that it’s a risk because the show is cruel and she’s a girl a way bigger red flag about how _your_ brain works then him watching GoT...

[Dutchgirl97]

Wow. If someone has to watch GoT to be aware of the cruelty in the world and to come out of living on a pink cloud, then they must have very little education. And by the way.. she's 5 years old.

[Boromir]

@Dutchgirl97 Ik ging er ook niet vanuit dat je het met me eens zou zijn. Je vroeg om feedback. So be it.

[Dutchgirl97]

True. I did ask for feedback- but I didn't ask for rudeness. But I can't be angry.. it's to be expected

[Boromir]

@Dutchgirl97 where exactly was I rude in my reply?

[Anpu23]

It's very controlling to limit media access. It's like controlling hobbies, or any other aspect of his time. To me it would be a very big red flag, and I understand the daughter. A quick, "could you not expose our child to that," might be appropriate but to say I don't want you watching this just comes off as domineering and very controlling. If that's your goal and relationship type then by all means get him a cock cage and control every aspect of his life. If that's not your relationship then relax.

[Dutchgirl97]

I've never demanded him to not watch it. Dont know where you came up with that conclusion. I simply said that I was uncomfortable with the scenes because of the explicit and violent sexual content. For instance rape, incest, orgys, lesbian and gay sex.. basically pornagraphy

[AzureGirl]

I would say yes, game of thrones does have a lot of nudity but it’s not only nudity. And it’s just a show, nothing to feel insecure about.

[CupcakeKiller]

Yes, you're being too insecure. I don't really have a better way to put it. That is extreme.

[Dutchgirl97]

So its extreme to not be comfortable with my daughter walking in the living room and watching orgy scenes?

[Red_Arrow]

Watch in another room or while she is asleep.

[CupcakeKiller]

Lmao. Don't make this about your daughter. Lots of people with kids watch tv not for kids without their kids seeing it. You don't want your husband all hot and bothered over the super hot women in the show. You asked for opinions.

[Dutchgirl97]

Well my daughter has a lot to do with it.. but yes that is true. I'm not sure a lot of women are comfortable with their boyfriend/husband getting horny and having a massive boner by looking at other women. I think it's a natural thing to feel a little hurt by it..

[Dutchgirl97]

Also, every person has told me that I'm being insecure. That's okay. But I dont like your bitchy attitude about it

[CupcakeKiller]

Okay here's the deal. It's natural to feel a little hurt by it but you have a responsibility to understand that dudes get boners when they look at hot women. You can't take it out on your husband. I definitely drooled over Henry Cavill in The Witcher watching WITH my boyfriend. I didn't point it out or anything or make comments about it. Now if he was doing shit like making comments comparing you to them or anything that would warrant being pissed.

[CupcakeKiller]

Edit to add: I am exhausted and I'm sorry that paragraph didn't make a ton of sense.

[CupcakeKiller]

I wasn't bitchy until you tried to scapegoat your child.

[Dutchgirl97]

It is different when you have a child old enough to understand what things are. Would I be as offended if she wasn't able to see these things? No. Yet I will admit I would still be a little uneasy. Especially since my boyfriend doesn't make me feel very sexy in the first place. Maybe that's the issue. Anyways thanks for your opinion

[CupcakeKiller]

I apologize, seriously, if I was too curt. To me it was frustrating that you asked if you were being too insecure, when I said you were, you immediately acted like I was vouching for your daughter to watch soft core porn...

[Dutchgirl97]

It's okay 😊 just a miscommunication. No worries at all

[longtimenotagoodtime]

Yea its just a body. Dont be offended by it. Everyone has a penis or vagina, we all know what they look like and its 100% natural.
Its not like he's looking at other women with the intention of cheating. So just relax.

[Red_Arrow]

Let him watch it. Just have him watch it without you or your daughter in the room. It is not that big of a deal.

[waaromniet]

Ben je wel echt nederlands? Die paar scenes zouden je toch niet meer kunnen choqueren?

[Dutchgirl97]

Yes. But born in America. And it still bothers me. Dutch or not.

[waaromniet]

Well guess you got the prudish from there :p Don't worry about what shows he watches, trying to control that is super toxic for a relationship

[Dutchgirl97]

The question wasn't should I let him, but if it was wrong of me to be upset.

[waaromniet]

I think it is, imagine him being upset over you watching something..

[Dutchgirl97]

Then I wouldn't. Simple. But i guess I'm more caring of others feelings.

[waaromniet]

Oh wow that is such a childish way to look at it. even on a hypothetical you not watching something when it upsets him, you HAD to throw in some 'holier than thou' attitude.

[waaromniet]

You shouldn't have to not watch it unless he gives some exceptionally good reasons. Srsly trying to decide someone else's private entertainment...

[Dutchgirl97]

I dont consider being considerate of ones feelings holier than thou. If I were to love Game of Thrones and he didn't feel comfortable with it since we have a child roaming around and because of my reasonings I wouldn't feel controlled. And it's not because of the simple fact that I dont like it, it's that I find it extremely inappropriate and sexually violent- rape for example.

[waaromniet]

If it was really about the child, your question wouldn't be is it ok to be upset at him for watching it, but how to make him wait till the kid sleeps. Interesting you bring up the little bit of explicitness again. There really isn't that much in it, you came in at an unlucky point

[Kaneki05]

Kinda yea. kinda weird to be upset at anyone for liking a fictional show. Unless he is watching that with the daughter there is no problem with him watching it.

[Dutchgirl97]

She asks questions about the noises coming from the tv..

[Kaneki05]

Haha the sex don't last that long in show the show is more talking than anything. And when she asks that you just it's just a show he is watching no need to explain more than that.

[Dutchgirl97]

I guess I'll have to say the same thing when she walks in on it too.. which she has

[Kaneki05]

Welp that's just called you letting your daughter walking into a room were he was watching an 18rated show. Which happens. When i was a kid i walked into my dads bedroom while he was playing resident evil exactly at a point were the dog jumps throw th window scared me to death. But should i say he shouldn't of been playing that no. He's a grown adult. It was my fault for walking in.

[Twalli]

The draw of the show is not the nudity.

[ZSean]

Easily over dramatic to be that strict. It is a show...

That is a fast track way to start severing ties if you are that controling and insecure

[EnglundUberAlles]

You're a freaking nutcase. How do you know how disgusting it is if you never watch it? And how come you have a daughter when you're so scared of sex?

[TheKidCantMakeUCum]

Yes, it is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's one thing if you don't like it, that's fine, but you can't decide for him what he likes and wants to watch (think if it was reversed how you'd feel). You can't "control" someone like that, especially in a relationship. It's only going to cause major problems. I think the bigger issue here might be that you two aren't compatible? You might be two very different people? Is that going to work long term? You might have to think about this some and make a decision?