Do you guys think I’m moving too fast?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I had been talking to this guy I met at my job before I was laid off for about two-three weeks. I finally went over his house. I didn’t plan on staying. He had agreed to take me back home just as he agreed to come and get me but he tricked me into staying long story short we got to know each other more since we were now alone and face to face. We watched Netflix. He started getting touchy and close. Just really intimate and one thing lead to another and we had sex and he didn’t cut me off or anything and neither of us are looking for something serious just having safe fun with one another but when I got home the next morning, I still stay with my parents, I overhear my mom talking to my sister saying how “dumb” I was for sleeping over a “Strangers” house and then later on my sister ask me why I stayed the night then asked if I had sex with him in a judgmental tone and although I had fun that night with him and considering I’m not that experienced and he taught me some things sexually I knew nothing of, I enjoyed myself but they’re making me feel bad about it.

[btbc92]

Premarital sex is a sin. They aren't judging you for judgment's sake. It's for your protection. Sex is not about enjoyment, experience, etc. But being that sex is a marriage, and marriage is all about sex. They're upset because they care for your safety and that you were taught better. And they don't want that in their house if you keep doing it. That is very dumb. Because he only used your for sex and you have no self-control, did a serious thing that could have got you raped or dead. He didn't trick you. Nobody told you to go to his house. You let him trick you knowing he didn't take you to your closest neighborhood. It's not intimate. It's sex. And your mom and sister are not stupid about this. You can't teach sex. It is learned with your spouse.

[woody7979]

You're really the only one who can answer this question. I know that's not very helpful but it will depend entirely on what level of intimacy you can have and still look at this guy clearly to see any warning flags that may be there.

[Asker]

I mean I don’t regret what I did and like I said as of now we’re just two friends enjoying each other. No titles it just sucks to see how negative you’re own family can be.

[woody7979]

I can understand that. I don't have any siblings but my parents were pretty overbearing. It does suck but really you are your own person with your own needs and wants... you are not an extension of them so they really can't dictate those things for you... especially since you're an adult.

[NewZion]

Family always ruin the fun, and never have anything good to say.
If you like him and he likes you, I don't see a problem.

[Asker]

I thought it was just me that thought that lol it’s like they’re so use to me being the one in the house all day with no boyfriend or anything to do and once I find someone I like it’s a problem. My sister has a boyfriend and she slept with him after a week or two of knowing him as well, even got a hotel room but I’m wrong for doing what I did lol.

[NewZion]

Eh, I was once golden boy now black sheep, so you're definitely not the only one. Playing hard to get is one of the best ways to screw things up. It's a waste of time. Some people just can't be happy for you and bitch at everything you do. Go on and live your life girl. Be happy.