girlfriend suddenly says she doesn't want me to bring up sex? How should I address this with her?

[Anonymous]

So my (22m) girlfriend (22f) suddenly told me today that she doesn't want to hear about sex, and she doesn't want me to initiate it. She said she would initiate it if she wants it from now on.

I never even mentioned sex before this 😑

This came after I confronted her over her lack of communication with me. She claims she was upset because I was slow to respond to her texts, so she stopped texting me first. After we talked about it, she literally jumped to sex and said what she said above... right after I said I couldn't wait to hang out with her again after the quarantine (nothing even about sex).
How should I confront her over this next issue? I played it cool and just laughed at her, but this is alarming! She wants to control the sex, and I'm not down with that. I asked her before this if she still wanted to be in this relationship and she claims yes, but this shit pisses me off.

[Edd87259]

If I was in your situation I'd tell her I want to have a calm constructive conversation with her then tell her if she thinks she can just have sex when she wants without considering my feelings like that this relationship is not going to last because men aren't the only ones that want sex and sometimes men aren't in the mood it sounds to me like we doesn't understand how this works I'd have sex even if not in the mood for her so she should do the same right if she REALLY isn't in the mood I'd get it but a relationship is about compromise.

[ZackBan]

It takes being pretty cold to actually decide to "control" the sex. Like it's supposed to be something you both look forward to.
If it were me we'd be done and I've borken up for less before. It's simple she either wants you or she doesn't there's no such thing as rules and this or that.

You should confront her on all of it and if she insists on her decision then it's time end it

[djmzes]

Simple

[Asker]

So you don't think I should try to talk it out one last time?

[djmzes]

You decide. It is your relationship. You decide what is good and how to approach. If it backfires, accept the responsibility and repair it. At the end, it is about doing the right thing.

[Dargil]

Tell her she can wait as she wants to, to initiate sex. No problem. Just one thing. When she's ready, call or text someone else. Your relationship just became uneven and it likely has no future. Time to head for the exit.

[es20490446e]

If I was in that situation I had replied:

"That's good, cause my religion doesn't allow me to talk about sex"

[Aaron_Stone]

Make things clear to her.
Tell her, " You aren't the only one who has desires and feelings. If you don't care what I feel then there is no point in continuing this relationship.
You alone can't just decide when sex should happen. Both are responsible for fulfilling partners desires. "

[Nachowedgie]

She sounds too immature, you should probably find someone more mature who actually talks about things instead of leaving you guessing, it's a recipe for disaster and it always ends that way

[Asker]

That's the thing man. She's older than me, so I expected better behavior. I'm gonna talk to her about this then next time she tries to talk to me