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I feel like no guy will ever love me just because I want to wait till at least engagement before having sex. Is my thought true?

I’m 22, I've only had one boyfriend in my life 2 years ago, and he understood about my thought about sex since I’m very fertile and don’t want to have sex until I know I’m with a guy who wants to stay in my life. He didn’t want to accidentally impregnate me so he agreed. When he broke up with me (he said he needs to focus on his degree more because of his low GPA), it was very sad. I feel like no other guy would ever love me because I don’t want sex until engagement. I still did other very sexual things in my past relationship, so he was very happy. I just don’t know if any other guy would ever love me because of how I want to wait that long till I have sex. Is my feeling right that no guy will ever love me just because I want to wait till at least engagement before having sex? I know most people comment “why wait? That’s so stupid!” But I just feel my virginity is a huge part of me, nothing can change my mind about that. If I were to lose my virginity before a huge commitment, I would be extremely depressed and would never forgive myself.
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  • It’s not that no one will ever love you, it’s just your 22 and most guys your age aren’t really thinking of marriage yet (where I am, in the US anyway). People who get married that young usually end up divorced. I won’t tell you it’s stupid to save yourself it’s definitely your prerogative but I feel this whole promise ring and chastity movement is just a last ditch effort to control women. Sex is an amazing thing and losing your virginity is’t the end of anything it’s just the beginning, it might take you years to grow a develop your sexual identity and learn your likes and dislikes and how to even have an orgasm. And what you see as not throwing away your virginity could also be cheating yourself out of prime years of your life, there’s still no female viagra to bring back the desire if you lose it after 40, 40 feels really far off until the day you wake up and it isn’t that far off.

  • I was a man slut buy i kinda wished me and my wife would have been virgins when we slept together the first time I've told her this and she laughed at me neither of us were anything similar to pure or virgins but there was some different the first time we had sex we didn't know each other that well and hadn't spent almost no time together only a lot of phone back and forth but something about that first night was special so i understand why some people want to wait but i think most men will have a hard time in todays society waiting especially if you expect him to be faithful to you and a very small dating pool to choose from if you only want a virgin also i suggest a lot of head and often and he may really be focased on his gpa and might come back to you after his grade are better or graduation

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm in a relationship and we are waiting until marriage as well! We love each other very much, sex should not be a dealbreaker! My moms advice is to wait as long as possible to see if the man can hold back with you because of he can then he will be able to just as much with other women later in marriage! I wish the best for you and your future love life!

  • I'm a virgin, and in a long term relationship. Well i had many relationships before and i can tell you, you may receive some push in first half of a year by any guy, but later almost all agree with your terms. So just don't worry and stick to your plan.

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  • Virginity is beautiful. And if the man really loves you, trust me he'll wait.

  • There's always someone out there who will likely agree to your wishes. I would if I loved them. I'm sure there are plenty of others! Don't give up. Stay true to yourself!

  • You can find somone that will loves you it just cuts the vast majority of guys out as most wouldn't be willing to wait look for partners that are religious

  • What is it about your virginity that makes you value it the way you do?

  • I will speak only for myself. Looking back...
    Deferring intercourse to engagement (or marriage) would have been discussed early in the relationship. If "we" could have advanced into regular mutual oral and 69 in due time, I could have suspended intercourse until engagement. Incidentally. Anal intercourse (which I would never do) is intercourse.

  • A fair number of guys would wait for vaginal intercourse if other things were being done with enthusiasm and you hadn't had it faster with past partners.

  • The right guy won't be put off. He'll be honoured you saved yourself for him.

    In fact the right guy may even have done the same.

    You take sex seriously, and it's refreshing to see that on a site like this one.

    The right guy is out there. Don't give up

  • If you think like this and want this in your life then find a person you can help you in this...

    • If you think like this and want this in your life then find a person who can help you in this...

  • Yeah. You're pretty SOL. no way any guy is doing that

  • Be patient! there's someone out there for you! I applaud you for keeping your virginity, because its almost unheard of these days...
    Don't let it worry you. , you'll ffg ind th ex right man when the time is right!

  • If you don't put something of worth on table to compensate for sex They won't.
    You should have very good personality, trust and loving nature
    also able to fulfill other sexual needs i. e except vaginal penetration.

    • As I mentioned above, I did other sexual stuff with my ex, but not vaginal penetration

    • Sexual stuff was last point. Are you providing other points.

  • Not true. Don't compromise yourself for jerks who only want to use you for sex; be smarter than that. After they get the sex, they would walk away from you because that's all they wanted or had to offer. There ARE men who would wait till marriage for sex; stand your ground, stick to what you believe in, and wait around for someone who will respect your principles and values.

  • I wouldn't propose until after sex. That's my value system. I could ensure that you won't get pregnant if you have sex with me. So if that's a concern, I can ensure that. Nobody can get pregnant from me even if they are filled with a liter a day

  • There are guys who are waiting too; infact, I happen to be one of them. You just need to be looking for us.

  • If I were you 8 would even wait till marriage to make sure she is the right one. Go on your principles and never compromise on them.

  • There are guys who would just fine waiting for that.

  • well people don't really think like that anymore. It has been proven that having sex and moving in together before marriage leads to a lower divorce rate. hence why the divorce rate is slowly going down and the only reason why it is slowly going down is because the taboo behind it is going away. but their are still assholes out there too lol

  • Just be slutty to one man and everything will be good.

  • Yes, I totally agree with you, that there are people who is still waiting for the opposites who deserves them and you know sex is a big thing. I am a guy and I am 24 still vergin. Basically what I am saying is the person who we Marry is the one we share everything of ours even our soul. Sex with out soul and love is an act of time pass.

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