Girlllllllllllll thanks for being so open and honest. I really appreciate. I have experienced some of the things you have and I think it definitely has an impact... So sorry for your hardships
Girlllllllllllll I am so glad we are friends this is literally me "you withdraw from Life, don't want men touching you, you become a depressed sad person." Like no lie!!!
I am glad we are gfs too!From 16yo to 17 yo, i was a lesbian into grunge. I dint want any men touching me, including my Foster Dad hugging me. I dint shave my legs, pits, or pubes. I dint use make up or wear deodorant. I dint cut my hair or style it. I had rat snarls in my hair. I wore the same clothes day after day until our housekeeper made me give them up to wash.I would go after Needy girls, usually the chubby insecure ones. They needed attn and I would treat them like I was treated.. controlling, they must obey me to get what they want, and often I was very mean and hurtful... hurtful with my words and during sex. I admit I enjoyed making them cry out in pain when I would bite or pinch or sometimes use a needle to poke them.it was a very dark place... and my mom put me there by taking away my Step Dad who loved me, treated me as his own daughter, and he kept me from killing myself 3 times when I was 14yo.Take away a person's support structure and they self destruct!
In cases of sexual abuse/ rape the search for control and self worth is just as much an issue. Often after one has gone threw a sexual assault/rape the act pf sex becomes a coping mechanism used in the attempts to find control in a situation that didn’t have any. The euphoria created from the dopamine release of sex as well as the additional release of dopamine in the case of PTSD and sex result in what people Mistake or misconstrue as control over the issue when in fact its everything, but control, and doing it over and over eventually gets said person addicted to there own dopamine production during the act of sex. Ultimately this much like the example before it creates its own cycle of addiction.
Therapy is always the better option, but if we all actually did the things we needed to do instead of the things we assume work then odds are fair we wouldn’t have as many disorders. That being said though as humans we often do the thing that feels good or makes us feel good rather than the thing that actually helps us.To summarize yes sexual abuse, assault, and rape can lead to sexual fetishes, but those fetishes are not only derive from these terrible acts, but and more so come from the need to feel in control and the depths that someone or many may go through to find that control.Well i hope I’ve answered to the best of my abilities and that someone may find help in this article.
I wanted to let you know... I really appreciate you taking the time to write this for me. It was so real and super informative. Thank you sooooooo much ⭐
Thank you for putting out really good questions that allow me to give honest open answers to. 🙂
No probs Love
This was so interesting to read. Well done.
Thank you, and my pleasure
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OMG yessssss!!! It's literally like you're in my head! Awesome feedback
Thats what she said.
I've been abused in my past, sexting , is one of my favorites
OMFG!!! I didn't know this stuff at all!!! This was extra helpful. I really appreciate it ⭐
I dont entirely know the reason behind it all. I know with the little thing they said it was because they want their innocence back and so they naturally become littles. And with the climaxing part, the chemical high in your brain from climaxing creates an addiction on something negative. So many enjoy sex after some time again but may feel guilty or have triggers that are related to the incident (s)
This resonated a lot with the me.. Well done Love
Thanks so much for the honesty!
You're Welcome :)
I don't know if it has got to do with what happened but I like being dominated.
WOW! Thanks so much for sharing your story... Some of the things you mentioned I also struggle with... The constant masturbation and the fantasies of being completely dominated... It's crazy how that stuff messes with your head
My thoughts exactly but I can't help but feel that it has an impact for some... Negative of course
I think that, for some, the fetish they develop may be reminiscent of the abuse they suffered, and they react negatively to that. Which is sad and understandable, but still doesn't prove one developed because the other happened.My advice is, don't feel bad about your kinks. They're what gets you off, here and now, and they are things you want. Don't compare them to your past.If daddy was physically abusive to mommy when you were growing up, and now as an adult you like calling men "daddy," like it when they take charge, and like to be spanked, that doesn't mean you crave the abuse your mother experienced, nor does it mean you have fetishized what she went through.It just means that there is something you like, that you want to be a consensual part of.
Love the way you broke this down. Thanks for taking the time to do that for me.
of course, my pleasure
Nailed it⭐ Thanks
Loveeeeeeee this answer! Thanks
Glad you like it. You're welcome
Thanks for the reply
You are welcome
That’s pretty much the plot of Monster, she was a prostitute who just had enough One day and started killing her johns. She was going to kill one guy but figured out he was mentally challenged so she gave him a hand job and let him go.
OMFG that movie was crazy. I watched all three ... Me and the girl in the first one have some things in common
Spit on your grave was one helllllllll of a movie.
Hell of a movie but it feels like you wanna chop someone's dick off lol
No I didn't get the revenge. But it was nice watching a girl get hers
Revenge is not the answer but she was a dominating bitch at the end. She's got no mercy, she killed the retarded guy.
You're right about that... Revenge is never the answer
That's correct my friend❤
Same here. Thanks for being open and honest. It's appreciated
Wow! I'm learning a lot here I never knew that
@bklynbadboy1 it's totally a thing... Weird but true
Wow I'm gonna in box you okay
Extremely helpful as always. Thanks a bunch
You know where I'm at if you would like more detailed information
Of course. I won't bother you though. It'd be intrusive.
Basically I just invited you, not intrusive at all
Lol thanks friend
You're very welcome my friend
Thanks for the insight. I appreciate you
I don't share that on public posts but thanks for asking
Even I was abused but I kind of gave into the act. And liked it, so am responsible too for not avoiding with all the force
This one is sooooooo true
FACTS! Thanks for the reply
Also the ones who continue to be in abusive relationship s
@askmewhy66 so true
I totally agree. Unless she was abused by a woman... Girls do it too
i never knew women sexual abuse other women
thats very sad and evil
Interesting! Thanks for the speedy reply
Exactly! Nail on the head lol
Thanks so much for leaving some feedback
I didn't even think of it that way... As a means of avoidance... That's interesting
This is helpful. Thanks for the speedy response
Thanks it seems like a majority of the gals I've been with were total freaks. And abused in past.
I meant either don't like sex
Thanks for the insight! Super helpful
OMG nail on the head. Like it's basically a way to take that power back... By making the incident normal
No dear. That's incorrect.
I've yet to be proven wrong so
I totally agree. It's VERY unfortunate for the victims
Thanks for the feedback love
Oh I completely believe it. No question
Thanks for the response Love
Actually i meant to say that it is actually very common
Oh that's relieving! Thanks a bunch
No worries! Thanks for the reply though
so you are saying she gets raped by family member, so she would want a guy she is dating to rape her? Like she is used to it.
No that's not what I'm saying lol
Yeah I think so too unfortunately
After it happened to my by my youngest daughters mother. I was no longer interested in sex. But, a lot of my female friends that it has happened to. Have had some crazy fetishes.