Why does lying about having sex with a girl boost a guy’s ego? He didn’t actually do it?

Found out my brother who’s in high school has been lying about having sex with this girl. He acts like he’s so cool for having sex with her and it’s so embarrassing to watch.

Why does this boost guys egos? It never happened so why do they think they’re a stud lmao
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Thanks for everyone’s responses. I did tell the girl and she told me she confronted him in person but he denied ever saying that :/
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  • It makes you feel like you did do it even if you didn't and when people start thinking you did it can boost your popularity. I personally think that lying about sex is wrong but sometimes there is a methode guys use to take control of pure pressure and get a girl to actually have sex with him. Also if the guy is popular enough the guys will take his side no matter what and sometimes even some of the women can take in on it and start to believe it to and at that point no matter what the victim says about it no one is going to believe them they'll just say to stop hiding it and just admit it. I only know that guys will do anything for the attention even put innocent people to shame. So if this happens to you then I would confront him in front of his friends or a crowd and let all of your pent up anger out just don't start throwing the punches. oh and the reason the people listen to the guys and not the women is because women often spread false rumors and gossip and when the truth comes out no one can be trusted. so if this happens to you just know you caused you own downfall ( that is if you spread gossip)

    • Disgusting

  • The truth is, it does boost a guys status to have sex sex with an attractive girl.

    now I’m not sure that lying for your ego is a good idea because you’d know the praise was hollow and not based on the real you.

    but the status boost is real

    • He is spreading false rumour about the girl

    • @hi_it_is_me123 Yeah, well if people believe it it will boost his reputation among male peers. I'm not saying this is okay, smart, fine or something I ever did, but if it 'works' people will look up to him for it. A more generic question is why do people lie for status when you'd think that would make them feel worse, same question as to why girls catfish with hotter girl's pic etc, I don't know, I think it half makes them feel good as they receive the benefits of status, while half feeling terrible it's fake, I don't know. I think it's unwise.

    • If i was the girl, i would hire a hitman

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  • Boys/Men are way more insecure about what their friends think about their sexual conquests. This is even why they sometimes avoid dating girls they are attracted to if his friends wouldn't think she's hot - "my boys would give me so much shit for it." Girls go through a little bit of pressure at a young age but most girls dont really do that to each other and we usually dont make fun of our friends for how their partners look to an extreme level or at all in many cases. It's kind of odd. But then women are also more likely to labeled sluts and whores for sex so there's less incentive to brag about it. It happens to some girls but not as many. Men are praised for being extremely sexual and feel less masculine when they dont get female attention, so its not uncommon for them to lie on a girl, especially if they want to hurt her reputation. Its fucked, I know.

    • If he had to lie he could’ve just said he had sex but not being this girl into his lie. He didn’t have to say her name you know?

    • they'll do it though, a lot of them dont care. If they want to hurt you and dont respect you, they definitely dont care. But I agree with you. A lot of men are deeply insecure and deeply crave approval - from both men and women. Young boys are even worse.

  • I had same concept as truckycrossiant. It's to make themselves feel better about themselves. Being a virgin to a guy is very low in the ego factor. Makes them feel small when they hear other men t as long about their sexual activity. Makes them feel ugly and like a loser.

    So, the first chance they get with a girl, they might make up lies to tell their guy friends to feel like "the man"

    • can't they do that without harming someone

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  • Because he's a good liar.

    • lol what does that have to do with anything

    • He knows he is able to manipulate people into believing it's the truth. With this in mind, it in turn raises his self esteem because he believes the other people now think more highly of him. Regardless, this guy sounds like a total tool.

    • he could’ve just said he had sex but not say with who

  • Nobody ever believes those guys, they go along with the story and then laugh at them when they’re not around.

    • Hopefully they doubt him and will ask her themselves

  • I think because it’s boosts their social status.

  • Guy points. Wheyyyy you fucked someone you are man we are jealous teach us your ways.
    🤮🤮🤮

  • much of the time the lies some lads say is down to peer pressure to conform to the group as anyone who hasn't done what the group has is suddenly mocked and treated like a loser, then left behind.. for some or rather many teens nowadays this can be depressing and scary as their friends (or so they believe them to be) are often willing to ditch those who dont fit in...
    however no one should change to fit in, if those friends can't accept anyone for who they are... they are not true friends

  • Doesn't boost anything, it's all an act.

    • How embarrassing when people find out it’s a lie

    • Yup, it's worse social status than lack of experience.

    • Why do you think he chose her in particular?

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  • Cuz he lacks self esteem about himself so he feels this will boost his ego and make him appear cooler to his friends , The girl he is claiming he had sex with is probably a girl all his friends said was hot so by him saying he had sex with her makes his friends jealous and make them think he is the shit cuz he got her in bed , it’s a stupid tactic people with low self esteem do and usually it comes back and kicks them in the ass once truth is released especially if the girl finds out he is running around saying he had sex with her , People that actually had sex with someone don’t lie about if they did or not , so if she ever gets confronted with this question and she says No she never slept with him then that’s the truth , if she really did have sex with him and she regretted it she still would tell the truth , why it’s stupid that people lie

    • Exactly

  • It's really not that hard to understand. The primary motive of most biological organisms is reproduction, if they are able to show their peers that they are deemed attractive by the opposite gender they automatically get moved up in the social hierarchy which does affect their chances of survival and reproduction in a non non significant way. This is a practice with generally more male participants because evolutionary psychology, there's more to it but I won't go into it.

    • But why did he say he slept with this girl in particular? From what you said all he had to do was just say he had sex not name names.

    • If that girl is in the upper echelon of attractiveness it is automatically assumed that others would like him too? His statement doesn't really hold that much value if it was with (if you replaced her name with) someone that most people would consider not that attractive.

    • That is not an excuse to be an asshole

  • I think it boosts their ego because of how their peers react. In my opinion men/boys value their peers opinions of them a lot more than women do.

  • This happened to me before. My ex went around telling people we had sex when we never did. I hate his guts to this very day.

    • I know I would too! I feel bad for the girl he supposedly as sex with. We’re you guys in high school when this happened?

    • Yes and also 20 isn’t my real age lol.

    • You should humiliate him

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  • Coz they're the walking embodiment of "cringe" lol

  • That is one of the biggest problem of our society. We had to be worried the day when lying about "the score" became more socially accepted than telling the truth

    • Why do you think he would lie about this girl in particular?

    • These pricks need to be shot.

  • Well some guys like that are just dumb lmao, pull your brother aside and call him a dumbass for doing it and then tell his girl, he's stupid for doing it and its clearly not okay

    • I’m thinking about telling her... but why would he choose her in particular?

    • he's dating her right?

  • If everybody's telling stories, it isn't about the ego really. It's just about not wanting to be left out.

    • He spread lies about a girl

  • lol cause people think he did, personally i dont like bragging about shit that isn't real, but he is just getting some clout, poor girl for spreading rumors about her but all she gotta do is deny

    • Why do you think he told people he had sex with her in particular?

    • she's probably hot, if she is hot, if she looks good then he thought maybe saying he fucked her would bring clout his way, i honestly think its a bad idea cause if he actually had a chance, he ruined it cause when she finds out, its all over smh

    • If i was the girl, i Would destroy him

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  • It's a conquest. A competition.

  • Because it makes him seem like a big man in his own mind let me tell you something right now he was fooling yourself never lie about having sex with somebody a gentleman never kisses and tells

  • Your brother has a tiny ego and wants to appear cool in front of his peers.

    • But why do you think he said her name in particular?

    • Ask your brother. I'm not a psychic nor will I try to pretend to be one.

    • Exactly so he didn’t need to say her name he could’ve just said he had sex with a girl

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  • Uh... so like @krakenattackin said, how do you know it's not true and that he was lying?

    • Cause I know when he’s lying he’s my brother

    • Lol right

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