Should we be punished for being curious about our sexuality or sexual desire?

Should we be punished for being curious about our sexuality or sexual desire?
Should we be punished for being curious about our sexuality or sexual desire?
Should we be punished for being curious about our sexuality or sexual desire?
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Recently I've gotten a few christians, saying repent and turn away from looking at lustful things. I'm aware of such teaching, it's the pressure of my life I'm currently in. I come to girls ask guys for the balance. To share my sexual thoughts and feelings in a safe place where I can get a different view on them. I was hoping this would spark conversation around that idea
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Most Helpful Girls

  • We humans can do all sorts of things that are not necessarily healthy for us but we do them nonetheless. Habits become habitual. Many things are not technically classifiable as 'addiction', but if one finds a dependence on something and there is an inability to stop partaking in it even if part of oneself wants to... well that could be an indicator there is a problem.

    Looking obsessively at "lustful things" could be something that needs to be curbed. But interacting with people, talking about sex and desire in mostly theoretical terms (especially as a single person)... these are very commonplace now. Otoh, just because "everyone's doing it" (seemingly), doesn't make everything in life right.

    The defining characteristic of something being unhealthy, or an addiction, is basically when it starts negatively affecting other areas of one's life, and those things get devalued, deprioritized, and start falling by the wayside (work, relationships, emotional health/stability.) Desire itself is not wrong. Acting on it in detrimental or inappropriate ways could be, but one cannot completely deny or ignore these feelings. I personally don't think you need to repent for these types of things. Manipulating others in order to satisfy oneself... that would be more wrong. If you are just exploring a powerful need/desire - that is alright. You're only human.

  • Not as long as it's legal and consensual, without harming others.

    What's so wrong about enjoying sex and exploring your desires?

Most Helpful Guys

  • We spend out lives accumulating experiences. We may travel to interesting places or immerse ourselves in nature. We may engage in thrilling sports or other activities. Yet people fail to look at sexuality in the same vein. Why the hell not? I think it's because of the influence of religion. Nothing else makes sense.
    Prior to the advent of reliable birth control methods, sex carried the high risk of unwanted pregnancy.
    STDs are a danger, but less than before due to advances in medicine.
    In the past, women were completely dependent upon husbands for financial security. They even needed a husband's permission for many activities that men were free to engage in.
    Society looked down on sexually active women while giving men a free pass.

    Today, women in the west are liberated. They have access to education and employment, they can sign contracts and own property. There is no longer any need for them to refrain from the engaging in the pure joy of sex. Only anachronistic thinking puts them down for doing so.

    Openness about sexual identity has recently become acceptable. It has become okay to talk about sex; to seek, explore and discover.

    I think anything that consenting adults do is fine. I am not in favor of judging or punishing people who enjoy their bodies. To hell with those who judge others and who make rules.

  • Absolutely NOT!! Christianity, and Islam are religions that control people, using sin, and fear, and regulations about dress, JUST TO CONTROL PEOPLE!
    Humans have a natural urge to have sex, for procreation. But you never know if it works, so maybe some "practice" a LOT!!
    All religious beliefs have their place, and I AM NOT CRAPPING ON ANYONE'S beliefs, but I can express my own, like everyone else!

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  • Of course not.

  • Only if that's what you're into 😉

  • Punished? No but you should take time out and think if thats the smart thing to do or if you should just leave it as a thought rather than turn it into an action

  • I don't think so, no. It's natural and out of your control. As long as they don't go beyond thoughts and words, it doesn't matter. Actions are the only things that need to be carefully considered.

  • Yes... we should be all spanked! 😉

  • I was raised to believe this... Was sooooooo happy when I turned 18 and left for college

  • NO.
    NO, GOD, NO.
    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

  • No, but it should be kept private

  • You shouldn't be punished! Our sexuality is also nothing to be embarassed about! Yous hould be you and you should be proud of it!

  • Only of it crosses a boundary of decency (necrophilia, beastiality, paedophilia), then there are punishments

  • Nope I don't think so

    • @jjpayne I totally agree with you

  • Tell us why you think you SHOULD be.

  • Nope

  • It's not a matter of should or shouldn't. Anytime you step out of the norm rhere is always a price to be paid.

  • Lol nope

    What is this, Saudi Arabia?

  • No, I don't think so. But it's not to be shared with the world. There's only certain people who should only know about it, not the whole social media & what not.

  • It seems to be the norm when those desires are contrary to social norms

  • yeah

  • no only religious people and idiots think like that

  • Nope. Nature made Homo Sapiens sexual beings. Need more celebrations about sex, not criticism or punishment.

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