Guys, I think he thought the sex was bad? We had a hookup?

[Anonymous]

There was a guy that has been on and off trying to talk to me since highschool. I graduated 2 years ago and he just kept texting me ever since then. I had a boyfriend while he was trying to get with me, so I always either ignored him or politely turned down his advances to meet up. My boyfriend and I broke up and this guy texted me again and asked for my snapchat. I gave it to him and we kinda talked back and forth for a week or two. He is really good looking and he told me nothing but compliments then whole time we talked. He seemed really nice. He texted me one day and asked to meet up to have sex just because we had been sexting and we were both horny. So I invited him over to my house and he came over. Said he was excited to see me and that he had wanted to fuck me since high school. Well, we ended up having good sex (in my opinion.) We kissed, he ate me out for a long time and gave me multiple orgasms, I sucked his dick and he told me it was the best head he's ever gotten. And then, we had sex in doggystyle. As soon as he put his dick in me, he came. After that, he continued to fuck me but he kept going soft. He didn't seem embarrassed or anything, but he left right after we fucked. He told me he would text me, and he never did. I finally texted him and said, "thank you for coming over. We should do that again sometime." And he texted back and said, "yes, I really want to do that again if you do." And I tried to start another conversation with him and he has ignored me ever since. Wtf is wrong with me? Is my pussy bad or something? I really feel like that must be the problem.

[Apope16]

There is nothing wrong with you. Thing about guys is that we are very blunt. We aren't complicated like most women are with double meanings. All the compliments he gave you are true. It sounds like he really wanted to have sex with you. You were really good at giving head. And you made him so horny that he came quickly.

Either he felt embarrassing about orgasming so quickly and going soft. Or he just wanted to have a one time hookup.

There is absolutely nothing that you did that caused him not to text back. There is nothing bad or smelling about your pussy. He ate you out and your pussy was so pleasurable that he came inside you.

I promise you that you have nothing to worry about! Just learn from that experience and look back fondly. Give him space. Someday in the future when he gets horny and calls you... ask him out again. Just realize that he is not relationship material. If he liked you like that he would stay.

[Asker]

He didn't cum inside me. He put it in and within 2 or 3 seconds, he pulled out and shot his load on my bed. He told me the sex was good, but if it was as good as he said, then wouldn't he want to fuck me again? I wasn't wanting a relationship, but I was wanting to have sex more than once.. do you think he thought my pussy felt good?

[Asker]

And after he came on my bed, he put it back in me and continued to fuck me, but he kept going soft until he had to stop.. if my pussy was good, he wouldn't have kept going soft like that, right? Please reply if you can. This situation has fucked with my head.

[Asker]

@apope16 please help me.

[Asker]

@apope16 he will not respond to me at all. If a guy likes sex with a girl, he won't discard her after just one time with her, right?

[Apope16]

A man's erection goes soft after having an orgasm. It sounds like he was so excited about being inside you after waiting all these years that he prematurely ejaculated. Usually guys get made fun of and teased in society for doing that. We call them "one minute man" etc. So clearly, you did nothing wrong. THis is about him being emberrassed and ashamed about what happened. I would either ignore him or if you really like him build him up. Tell him how special it was. compliment how good he was at licking your pussy. Because he really feels ashamed right now.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for yout answers. You're really helpful. I have another question if you dont mind. After my boyfriend and I broke up, I have had sex with 3 other guys including the one I'm talking about in this post. My boyfriend stayed with me for 4 years. But the guys I have had sex with after him will not stick around to keep fucking me. All of them came very quickly with me, like within a minute or two during sex. 2 of them fucked me 3 times and quit me. And this guy only fucked me once and he came as soon as he put his dick in me. Does it sound like I'm the problem? Why can't they last longer with me? And why have all the guys I've been with just fuck me 1 to 3 times and then quit? My boyfriend was the only person who actually wanted to keep fucking me..

[Asker]

*my ex boyfriend I should say

[Asker]

@apope16 like, since almost every guy I've slept with doesn't want to keep fucking me, it really does make me feel like its something im doing something wrong. Out of 4 guys that I've been with, only one guy stuck around to keep fucking me. And I really do feel like the other guys and I had good sex.. they all said the sex with me was great and they all. came quickly, but they all ended up ditching me pretty quick. Does it sound like my pussy may be bad or something? I've heard everywhere that if a guy enjoys sex with someone, they will come keep coming back for more..

[Apope16]

First of all, relax. Calm down. Second, feel free to private message me on this topic. Third, the thing you have to realize is that most men don't know what they are doing when it comes to sex or how to please a woman. A lot of guys out their dont know how to masturbate in a way that makes them delay their orgasm and last longer. Because of this... they have issues of premature ejaculation. Fourth, it sounds like with most of these men you are going raw dog. In other words not using a condom. The intense pleasure of being inside a pussy without a condom can make a guy cum quicker. It might be best to make sure they are wearing condoms early on in the sex stage. Fifth, regarding why guys dont continue staying with you. I think it is because of what type of relationship you are dating. Many guys just want sex with a new pussy. The experience of a brand new pussy is so arousing compared to one after you have slept with them for awhile. I would say only date guys who either want a relationship or a long term friends with benefits. Dont date hit it and quit it guys. I would not say you stop having sex. I would just say switch it to a 3 date rule where you hang out twice and on the third date you have sex.

[Apope16]

Also, fuck buddies or friends with benefits dont last very long. When people start having sex they fall in love within 2 months or so. That means 8 weeks. So if someone is a fuck buddy and you have sex once a week. That means about 3 times (3 weeks). The point I am trying to make is this... usually after about 3 times having sex just for fun it start to end. Because of the fact that they dont love you they may start to feel guilty and confused about the arrangement. Out of fear that you might start to develop feelings, they cut things off. Or it could be that after having sex with someone 3 times the excitement wears off because the chemistry of love does not exist between you guys. So it is pretty normal for people to have sex for 3 times. take a break to find a true love. Then when they are lonely and horny and miss having pussy. They call you up randomly months later. etc. But usually its not the sex or the pussy that drives them away. Its their comfort with the entire situation.

[Asker]

Do you still think they thought the sex was good even if they only fucked me once or a couple times?

[Asker]

And this guy had been worh a girl for years. So he is able to be in a relationship, he's not just a player.. does this mean that I wasn't "up to his standards" then? Because he said he would call, and then never did. I texted him, and he texted back once, and proceeded to ignore me after that. I really do feel like I'm the problem here.

[Apope16]

I think I told you from the very beginning. All he wanted was sex. He didn't want a relationship. There was nothing you could do to get him to change his mind. I am frustrated that girls can think they can use sex to manipulate guys into liking them or changing their feelings. it doesn't work that way. Women release oxytocin during sex which is the love hormone. So they think that because sex causes attachment for them that it is the same for guys. THats not true. If he likes you he will date you. But the reality is he just wanted sex. The sex felt good. Just because a guy likes having sex with you and thinks it feels good doesn't mean that he wants to date you. This is what most girls dont understand. Guys separate feelings of pleasure from love.

[Asker]

I'm not talking about him dating me. I've already said that. I said that he doesn't want to FUCK me again, because he wasn't impressed the first time.

[Apope16]

Me and other guys have said over and over and over again. He liked having sex with you. He told you that. The reason why he doesn't want to have sex again was because the guy had an emberrassing premature ejaculation. Another reason, and I thought I made this clear, is that he only wanted a one night stand. He didn't want an friends with benefits. He just wanted to have sex that one night. I have said over and over again that you and all women need to stop thinking that there is something wrong with them just because they got ghosted. He is just an asshole who got what he wanted. But that has more to do with him than you. Its certainly not about your pussy or how good you were in bed. I personally have gone back for sex with girls who were not as good at sex. So this issue is not you, its him.

[cicchis0]

No, from your description, he had a ball. There's nothing wrong with you. Get that bad pussy craziness out of your head right now - he came as soon as he entered you!
If I had to guess, I'd say he's a bit of a player, something that happens to a lot of young guys blessed/cursed with good looks and not mature enough to handle the female attention they get. Some guys consider themselves conquerors or collectors and just want to do a girl once and then collect/conquer another one. They enjoy the chasing more than the catching.

[Asker]

Yeah, but he had been worh a girl for years. So he is able to be in a relationship, he's not just a player.. does this mean that I wasn't "up to his standards" then? Because he said he would call, and then never did. I texted him, and he texted back once, and proceeded to ignore me after that. I really do feel like I'm the problem here.. please help..

[Asker]

*with

[Asker]

@cicchis0 he praised how good I was at giving head and he told me the sex was really good before he left. Do you think he was just lying to make me feel better?

[cicchis0]

No, I don't think he'd bother with that if he didn't care about you. I don't know what happened. I could guess but they would only be guesses, e. g. he lost his phone, he got a girlfriend and doesn't know how to tell you, he is depressed and needs some downtime, he is in a medically induced coma with coronavirus, etc. - it could be anything. Give it a week and try again. Try ringing him instead of texting, and then you will get more immediate feedback.

[AustinMan]

It's not you. I'm guessing he got embarrassed by his ED.

[Asker]

He didn't seem embarrassed at all.. and I didn't make a deal out of it at all.. I don't know what was wrong. But he won't even talk to me now. And after he came, he put it back inside and he kept going soft.. wtf is wrong with my damn vagina?

[Asker]

Maybe its loose?

[Asker]

Please help..

[AustinMan]

ED is not the result of anything about your vagina. It's something happening with him. The best you can, just write it off to a lesson learned and find you another guy.

[Asker]

What is the lesson learned here?

[AustinMan]

That when he shows you that he's just not that into you, let it go and fine another.

[Asker]

He's not into me because I didn't give him good sex I guess. There was literally nothing else that happened besides sex. If a guy gets good sex, he definitely will want more.

[AustinMan]

Not necessarily. You're not in his head. Just move on.

[Asker]

I know damn well that if a guy gets good sex from a girl, that he will want more from her.. right?

[AustinMan]

Not necessarily. If there's not any chemistry from his end and he knows how to get laid, then probably not. It's on him.

[Asker]

Chemistry? That means that I wasn't up to his standards in bed. He thought I wasn't sexually compatible to him

[AustinMan]

What is it with you? You're bound and determined to be bad in bed. So go ahead and think that. Just know that chemistry is about a whole lot more than just the physical sex.

[Grkgod12]

First of all, I'm sure there is nothing wrong with your vagina.
Perhaps he's just nervous about contacting you again?

[Asker]

No, he's not a nervous type of person. And he texted right back after I finally texted him. I said, "thank you for coming over. We should do that again sometime." And he texted back and said, "I'd really like to do that again if you want to." And then I tried to talk to him again and he has completely ignored me since then.

[Asker]

I think he thought the sex was bad.. before he left after we had sex though, he told me that the sex was good.. I don't know.. I guess he was lying.

[Grkgod12]

Or perhaps he thinks that you are seeking commitment?

[Asker]

No. Not at all. I never ever said anything about getting into a relationship. I thought we would have sex more than once tho.. I feel like I'm awful at it..

[Grkgod12]

I bet you are amazing! What do you look like?

[Asker]

I feel like I'm ugly. But he told me that I was sexy and he came as soon as he put his dick in me, so I don't know. But if it was good, he would want it again. This situation has really fucked with my head.

[Grkgod12]

What color are your eyes and hair? Is your body type slim or thick?

[Asker]

I have dark hair and big blue eyes. I guess I'm thick... but I don't know. I'm like 140 pounds. Maybe he thought my body was bad or something. I don't know.

[Grkgod12]

I'd definitely want you again!

[Asker]

I doubt it. You'd have sex with me and find out that my pussy and sex is bad, and you'd abandon me just like he did.

[steveranger]

You should give a try and see where it takes you.

[Drumlin2001]

I dont think there's anything wrong with you.
Sounds like either he's embarrassed, or he was only looking to tick you off a list. He has you on a pedestal, once he's achieved sleeping with you he's moved on (obviously no idea who this guys is, whether he's a player, whats going on in his life).
I wouldn't dwell on it, move on. If he ever pops up you can decide whether you just wonna be his booty call

[Asker]

Did he lose interest after the first time sleeping with me because I didn't do very well? Dont guys wanna fuck you more than once if the sex is good?

[Danny_dan92]

Nope. He just got what he wanted from you and now he no longer cares to talk to you

[Asker]

If the sex was good, he would have came back... guys love good sex without strings attached. I didn't want a relationship with him and he didn't want one with me either. I thought we would fuck a lot though. But he only fucked me once, which most likely means he thought it was terrible..

[Danny_dan92]

Some guys are just wired differently.

[Danny_dan92]

He told you he would text you and all. To keep you as an option, in case his other prospects fall through. Which is EXACTLY THE POINT. Of having no strings attached. Seems like you got attached in some way...

[Asker]

So he only wanted me if someone else didn't come through. That's the same as me being bad at sex or having bad pussy. I'm the last resort I guess?

[Danny_dan92]

You’re overthinking it. No. Maybe that is the case NOW. But it has nothing to do with you being bad in bed. However, it COULD be. So say hypothetically speaking he NEVER hits you up again? Then yes. There is something about you that he didn’t like. But, if say he hits you up to fuck again a week from now or two weeks from now or whatever? Then yeah, more than likely he is just trying to capitalize on pussy. I myself will be doing this upon my return to my country. But for personal reasons. Oh well, this is how I would do it tbh. The first girl I end up fucking would be the one I find the most desirable of them all and then slowly work my way down. All playing my cards right with all of them. Making them all feel like they’re special. And make them all feel like they’re the only girl I am talking too atm. Cause let’s face it, what woman would like to hear that the guy they really like and want to fuck is acting the same way with other women as they are with them? And the answer to that, is none

[lukevas]

I don't think you are the problem. Maybe he just lost interest. That happens a lot. Once he got what he wanted he was good. Maybe in a couple of weeks he'll be back for more, but I can assure you that there's nothing wrong with your vagina

[Asker]

He came as sons as he put his dick in me. He continued to fuck me after that, but he kept going soft. I feel like my pussy sucks.. :( and if a guy has good sex, he will definitely want it more than once. Before he left, he told me that it was good sex and that he would text me, but he never really did. I guess he was lying about it being good.

[Asker]

*soon not sons

[lukevas]

Well if he came it's because he was already getting there before, you did a ton of stuff before you were in doggy style. And trust me, sometimes we get amazing sex but once is enough for a while. After sometime he'll be back. Regarding the complements that he gave you, you may be good but a horny guy says a lot of things just to get you hornier, so don't rely on those comments much but don't think that he was lying either

[Asker]

Please reply if you can.. this situation has fucked me up.

[lukevas]

Don't overthink the situation, I'm sure you're cute and you're good handling a dick. If he wasn't getting satisfied his dick would have gone soft from the start. Don't think of it as something you did wrong, just as a one night stand, and once he misses your vagina he'll be back

[Asker]

Do you think he was lying? Right after we fucked, he left. But before he left, he told me the sex was good and that I gave the best head. I think he was lying about the sex being good, because he keeps ignoring me. It's like I was a mistake to him or something.. maybe he didn't like my pussy very much?

[Asker]

He only complimented my BJ skills. He didn't compliment my pussy or anything. But 2 seconds after he got in my pussy, he came. What is wrong with me..

[lukevas]

No I don't think he was lying. But he got what he wanted, he is satisfied and has seen all that he wanted to see from you. So, my suggestion to you is to stop chasing after him, once he needs sex again he'll be back. In the meantime distract yourself with other mans, like I said before, I bet you're gorgeous so you're not gonna have any issue finding some guy that want to help you and makes feel sexy and pretty again. Don't let one dude destroy your confidence like that

[Asker]

I just feel like maybe he didn't like my pussy. Maybe it was loose or ugly or something...

[lukevas]

And as a guy personally I never compliment pussies haha. But doesn't mean I don't like them

[Asker]

Do you think maybe I was loose or felt bad inside or something? Something has to be the issue. We literally didn't talk or do anything else. I didn't really have time to show him my personality oranything, so it must be something wrong with sex then.. there was literally no other circumstances other than sex..

[lukevas]

I don't think that's the case, I really don't. But if you want I can help you with a honest opinion about your pussy so that we can discard that possibility

[Asker]

And he came really quick, but he kept fucking me after he came. But kept going soft after that and he finally had to stop.. why did he keep going soft if it was good then?

[lukevas]

Well maybe he doesn't have the stamina to last long enough and he wanted you to enjoy it as much as you could before it went soft. That's another possibility

[Asker]

Did he just go soft while he was fucking because he already came then?

[lukevas]

Yeah that's the most likely reason. So in that case your pussy was amazing

[Asker]

Do most guys just go soft after already cumming? Even if they are still inside a girl?

[lukevas]

Yeah, must of the time, we need to be reeeeally horny to keep it hard after cumming. But like I told you, try having some fun with other man, so that you get to stop thinking about him and you can bust your ego and self-confidence a little bit

[Asker]

I also have another question. He ate me out first. We only kissed a little before that. He still had his clothes on while he ate me, and he ate me for kind of a long time. After he was done, he took his pants off and he was only like half hard.. I put his dick in my mouth and he got rock hard in seconds. But if he liked eating my pussy, wouldn't he have been fully hard from doing that? Maybe I didn't taste sexy or something?

[lukevas]

Yeah, for that many guys don't get hard for eating a girl out. In my case I do it because I like how the girl gets when I'm eating her out, not because it does something for me. So that may be the reason

[lukevas]

But still I think you taste normal

[Asker]

So you dont really get hard when eating a girl either?

[Asker]

I put him in my mouth after that and he got rick hard in seconds.

[Asker]

*rock

[lukevas]

Well it depends. I get really turned on by the moaning of a girl that I'm giving pleasure to. So that's what makes me hard, but if I'm with a silent girl eating her out will not make me hard

[lukevas]

Yeah, getting our dicks sucked is the fastest way to get them hard

[Asker]

Well, he wasn't soft after eating me out... but he was only half hard. Does that mean he didn't really get turned on by eating it?

[Asker]

I showered before he did anything, so I really dont think it smelled bad.. maybe the taste was bad..

[lukevas]

Maybe. Or maybe he didn't know what he was doing (even if he did a great job) so he was kinda nervous what make him get half hard

[lukevas]

I don't think you taste bad. Do you follow any diet? Or what do you usually eat?

[Asker]

So you think the taste may have been bad?

[lukevas]

No no. I think you tasted normal. Just wanted to know what you have been eating to make sure

[Asker]

I dont diet. But I eat pineapples frequently. Maybe not everyday tho. I eat burgers, pork, pizza. Salads. Vegetables. I drink water every day. I drink only 1 cup of coffee a day when I'm at work. Sometimes I drink 2 cups during the day, but that is rare. I don't really have too bad of a diet, but I don't have a lot of money. My diet could be better I guess.

[Asker]

I also eat yogurt almost every day and I take probiotics for vaginal health.

[lukevas]

Nah, it's fine. You're fine you should taste normal. Even a little sweet I dare to say

[lukevas]

So you're not the issue in any way. You're gorgeous and if he doesn't see that get a new guy that wants to fuck you every day

[Asker]

What kind of diet makes a vagina taste bad?

[lukevas]

Sparagus and heavily-spiced food, like curry and alm that kind of food

[Asker]

Well.. I do love spicy food and I put spicy hot sauce on my food a lot. But I didn't eat anything spicy the day that this guy and I hooked up.

[lukevas]

Lol. Spices like in condiments not spicy hot sauce. You're good trust me your vagina should taste normal

[MangoB83]

It doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. The guy tried to keep going after he came which I don’t understand why you’d keep trying because pretty much everyone goes soft after cumming.

[Twalli]

He may be busy. You have to understand guys are happy not socializing with any visible person for days. We like just watching sports or playing video games and having online conversations.

[nawtee_me]

your pussy is not the problem. Either he was embarrassed about not being able to fuck you longer or he got what he wanted from you and now he is looking for someone else to fuck. Some guys are like that, they will keep on and on until they get want they want and then move on to someone else that they have seen.

[Asker]

I thought guys would come back to fuck a second time or more at least if the sex was good...

[nawtee_me]

Some guys yes, most might come back but there are some who only want it once so they can say that they fuck that girl. It is a shame that some guys are that way. I am sure you are wonderful in bed, myself, I have never had bad pussy or tasted bad pussy either. Pussy is always good.

[1Tommy1]

Girll its not u
Look my big bro taught me never have sex with a woman and get over the bed as soon as u finish cuz if u did it means this woman is just a hooker so never do this so maybe all he wanted just to fuck u nothing more which means he is an asshole
Or maybe he got rlly embarresed because of what happend

[MeatPuppet]

He wouldn't have filled you almost immediately if your pussy was bad, lmao.

[Asker]

He didn't fill me with cum. But he put it inside and almost immediately, (like 2 seconds) he took it out and blew a load. And he kept trying to fuck me after that, but he kept going soft.. if my pussy was good, why did he keep going soft inside me after that?

[MeatPuppet]

Lol, because men experience a refractory period post-coitus. It is extremely hard to maintain an erection immediately following ejaculation. It's completely normal.

[Asker]

I think he thought the sex was bad. He will not respond to me at all.. what is wrong with me? Guys definitely want sex again if they were impressed the first time, right?